My partner and I we are both bisexual males and we both love watching straight porn together sometimes whenever we have our form sex. We love to makeout, mutually masturbate together, give each other handjobs, give each other blowjobs, frot, and most of all share sex toys like fleshlights, or those ass and hip sex doll toys. Sometimes the torso one with big tits for using to suck on and squeeze together. He seems into wanting to have penetrative sex together and im open to it as I do love penetrating our toys. But for some reason I never been too interested in anal sex in general regardless of gender whether receiving or giving.
Before I ever met my partner all of the above sexual acts mentioned I would do with other guys I would hookup with and I always wondered how common is it for those who do engage in sexual activity with someone of the same sex to prefer no anal penetration? I’m open to it and maybe my opinion could change. But I predict its just not my thing. Me and my partner also never had regular sex with a woman and given we both never done anal penetration with each other either yet I’ve wonder if everything we ever done still counts as having lost our virginity? Let me know your thoughts and opinions I am curious as to how others straight, gay, bi, etc views this topic. Thanks.
My thoughts are that it’s just a label and it doesn’t really matter.
If you want anal sex then cool, and if you don’t then don’t, but whatever label you decide won’t change a thing as to what you enjoy and don’t enjoy.
I think if this is your normal then enjoy and don’t try to compare to others as we’re all different and for some, anal sex isn’t for them, which is totally alright
with losing your virginity I’d think yes to some degree you have as you’ve done sexual acts with another…
I’m a bisexual woman, I’ve done anal play with my husband but never with another woman or another man. Personally I don’t get anything from it, and I have made peace with that now.
Funnily enough I was helping a young man a few days ago who was concerned that enjoying anal play might make him gay, and I said absolutely not. He said something in our conversation that shall forever stick with me, expecially in my own experiences of anal play: "Anak play is like Marmite, you either love it or you hate it.
Personally I don’t like either, and that’s okay
As for what it sex? I think it’s important to distinguish “sexual intercourse” from “sexual intimacy”. “Sex” is many things: a biological marker or a short word we use for both sexual intercourse and sexual intimacy Sex can be both sexual intercourse and/or sexual intimacy, I’ve done both and either in sessions before, and both are enjoyable without being better than the other. So what is sex? Really, it’s whatever sex is for you.
Couldn’t put it better than @Tenshadesandme . Anything you enjoy is sex, you don’t have to do things that others do. Don’t be pressured into doing something you don’t like.
I think that anything that two people can do together which, if they keep doing it, will logically result in at least one of them having an orgasm is sex. You or your partner might not yet want to consent to penetrative sex, but if it’s about that level of intimacy of deliberately giving and receiving sexual pleasure, it’s still sex.
Took me a bit to understand what u meant with the marmite thing. In looking it up apparently its an acquired taste. Comparing it to anal makes a lot sense in seeing it as an acquired taste since some people like it others can do without. Guess I will only know if its actually my taste or not once I try it. But thank you for your thoughtful answer. Sex really is not only a biological marker but a word that encompasses anything sexual which would include any form of sexual intimacy and penetration is a part of that. Given I have explored various sexual acts in my life it does seem silly to ask the question. I guess its pretty obvious that I have had sex many times going by the logic.
If you and your partner are touching each other’s genitalia with the goal of experiencing sexual pleasure, that’s sex. It doesn’t really matter which orifices (if any) are involved.
There’s no such thing as a silly question. Once we reach puberty we’re pretty much taught that if there’s no penetration, it doesn’t count. Adulthood teaches us that there’s more to intimacy than just what goes in where.
MF couple here.
We’ve never really categorised it but on reflection, we do a lot that doesn’t involve orgasm, or at least delays it, sometimes indefinitely, and all of that is sex to us, penetrative or not. Its all about giving and recieving sexual pleasure in whatever form that takes. If thats happening then for what its worth, we’d probably call it sex.
