Ha, Ha. The clitoris is like Doctor Who’s TARDIS. It’s bigger on the inside than it is on the outside. If you really want the low down on the clitoris, you can go to the YouTube website and search for the following video title from Scientific American:
It took science 2,000 years to find the clitoris
I wish that video was available 10 years ago.
You don’t have to be into pain to be kinky, in fact, I wrote a blog post here about ways to explore kink without pain. Also, as a CRPS sufferer myself, I know what pain is like. I enjoy pain, but that’s here, if you’re interested.
Bonus: I’ve even written about six ways to enjoy bondage with chronic pain. BDSM is much, much more than just pain 
Good question.
Not sure if the past 10 years cover it or maybe a big longer but being more sexually confident and trying more things.
I love when getting a handjob or blowjob when the OH uses a bullet vibrator on my cock.
Not a fan of my bum being played with though.
Things like cumkissing and going down on my OH after sex, or cumming on her tits and then massaging it in of licking it off.
Just out of curiosity whats one thing you put off trying,but wish you had tried it sooner?
For me it would be introducing toys into our bedroom for joint pleasure, Rather than just for my own pleasure when on my own.
Have to agree with you, toys. It’s toys that made me realise I can have multiple orgasms. To find that out at 65 yes I wish I had tried them sooner.
That women’s libido falls off a cliff when they hit menopause, and to make more memories and explore different aspects of sexuality so when that eventual crash happens you have more ways to enjoy pleasure than just PIV. And not to be ashamed of your desire to be sexual, with your partner or yourself.
I wish I had known more about sex toys and anal pleasure sooner. I was so used to masturbating using my hand and focused on having a quick orgasm, like learned behavior from my younger years.
Experimenting with sex toys helped me appreciate drawn out pleasure, enjoying longer sessions and learning techniques such as edging. Discovering and experimenting with anal toys and realizing it felt good was a revelation, especially realizing I could have multiple prostate orgasms in a session. Anal has completely changed how I view masturbation and prefer to seek pleasure. I find it when paired with the right toy and mindset, deeply satisfying.
I never expected to enjoy anal pleasure, and prostate stimulation is a quantum leap in pleasure. The ability to e joy multiple orgasms AND penile stimulation is unreal.
From my experience and being with my wife since 1983, this has not been the case. Have we had bumps in the road in our relationship and sexual lives, sure, but not to the extent we could not overcome. Menopause did not affect my wife sexually like it has many women. She had her issues with menopause but it never affected our sex lives in a way it has with others.
Definitely anal fun for me - beads, dildos and rimming. Pegging to go!
Absolutely prostate play. Some of my best orgasms have come from that. Also, light BDSM with my partner. Discovered this later in life. Oh the fun my girlfriends and I would have had if I had known about it sooner.
Mrs bustywife here not 10 years but 30 how much I love giving and receiving oral I hadn’t experienced oral until I met my husband and he introduced me to it and now I cant get enough and mr is only too happy to oblige. He knows I love giving him some special treatment too
Discovering clit suckers .wish they had been invented years ago.helped me discover squirting and gushing .what have I been missing out on omg x
My wife was much more adventurous when we first met 30 years ago so I wish I had discovered pegging and rimming back then.
You are very fortunate. As far as I know, the majority of women who go through menopause have a significant drop in libido once their bodies adjust to the different hormone levels, unless they go on hormone replacement treatments. My wife went from wanting sex as much as I did, to almost not any drive at all. Then she had heart arythmia problems and was prescribed meds that took what libido she did have, and killed it entirely. She eventually got off the drug because of other side effects, her sexual drive still has not recovered totally. She rarely has sex dreams or fantasies anymore. And our intimate relationship is simmering on low. Occasional she will find herself feeling a bit horny, but most of our current sex is more or less on a schedule. I am working on trying to initiate more often and doing everything I can to attempt a little more fun that we can both enjoy.
We would have liked to try bigger toys! Now we do and said we should have bought years ago
And if saturday goes well and we enjoy i know it will be wishing we tried a nudist beach and then a nudist resort will be next
Have more before you have kids
Ha ha, they grew up and you get some time back, but I totally agree
That speaking during sex is key. Talking to your partner about what they want, what you want to do and what you want makes for a better sex life.
What I’ve enjoyed sexually in the last 10 years, I wish I’d found 30 years ago. But it really needs a trusted partner, so it probably wouldn’t have worked then like it does now.