Something that came to mind today got me thinking. So many women ask why men are so obsessed with their pens size. It's a good question and as a guy, I wish I had an answer. I spent some time online today and I find myself falling into the average range (using stats from wiki so I take that with a pinch of salt). Now Im quite sure that I would be more than happy being of average height, average weight, average looks etc. Yet to be frank I am not happy with my penis. It got me wondering why this is a department that average doesn't seem to be good enough. I can't even really explain a reason why Im not happy with an average cock. So I Wanted to get the opinions of others on this and what the guys thought.
Do any girls have similar thoughts with regards to breast size? I guess this is harder as an average breast size is proportionate to your figure. Sorry if something similar has been posted before. The search function didn't return anything. Cheers guys and girls.
As a girl i will say yes i prefer a guy with a massive cock but i've been with guys who fall well below average and they made up for it with hand/ mouth ect andd so therefore it wasnt a problem.
and not to mention the g-spot is 4-5 inches up inside a woman so u can still be a great fuck with an average dick :D
alot of women do have simmilar thoughts with regard to boobs i have average boob size and i hate it id love a good amount of volume but u have to learn to be happy in ur own skin otherwise it'd just ruin sexual stuff for ya
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Dude if your average height with average size penis I wouldn't worry about a thing women would rather someone who just makes good company. I am 6"4 in height with average size penis and guess what I'm convinced penis to body height ratio make my average penis look small . what have your partners said to you after sex ?
Modern societal pressures teach bigger better faster.
As an individual you choose whether you give a sh!t about societal pressures or not.
To answer your question. To me average means the sum divided by the count.
Logicly speaking SS is right !
I was so conscious last year of performance I actually performed like crap . when your happy with yourself you will surprised why you where even worried in the first place .
Personally, I've always been baffled by the penis size obsession. I've had amazing sex with guys who were way below average and guys who were way above. After all it's not the size of the waves, it's the motion in the ocean.
Incidentally I'm also an A/B cup and happy with it. Good things/small packages?
As a woman I would definitely say that it's not the size, but what you do with it that counts.
jimtech wrote:
Dude if your average height with average size penis I wouldn't worry about a thing women would rather someone who just makes good company. I am 6"4 in height with average size penis and guess what I'm convinced penis to body height ratio make my average penis look small . what have your partners said to you after sex ?
not many guys relise this good company is better than good sex :D and yeah id guess it looks differnt to the real size if ur body is more/less than average height
From my (albeit rubbish) recollection, I believe the average UK size is 4.8 to 5.2 inches. I guess 5 being the average. My stats are not brilliant, but I also remember hearing that a hugeee percentage of UK guys fall into those "averages" (They are averages for a reason guys) with only a small percentage going either below or above.
As I mentioned in a previous thread, I think men tend to measure themselves (The ones that do!) from the back of the penis...down to the balls, which coincidentally, brings up a few extra inches than if he was to measure down the front of his penis, to his pubic bone. So how DO you correctly measure a penis? It is a mystery! I don't think I have seen m/any guys write that their penis was below 7 inches, in any threads relating to size, which means either some lie, or they are not measuring right, or most guys here defy the national average by a whopping 2 inches at least! lol
I dunno. Penis size does not matter one bit to me, as a female. I fall in love with the guy..I fall in love with his penis, because its his. As has already been said, most women care more about the different ways you pleasure her, or about you as a person, or what you can do with your penis, and the many other things we care about above size. Yes, some women will say "bigger is better" but some guys will also say that about boobs etc, but it is superficial at the end of the day, you would still get pleasure and fall crazily for someone with "small boobs" and still not feel like you missed out, because looks are an initial attractor, but after that, everything else becomes more important.
I mean...does a woman perform better in bed if she has a bigger or smaller clit? nah, for me, the pleasure is in the experience. It is hard to put across what I mean as I have massive brain fog today, but women really do actually mean it when we say "size is not important" Do you think lesbians feel like they are forever missing out on mind blowing sex, simply because they don't have this huge shaft to "really finish the job" nah!
We are all unique and yeh, some women do care. That is their perogative and their right, to choose what they desire in a partner, but I notice men will believe the few women who say "bigger is better" and dismiss the ones who say "size is not important" as liars because other women said different. No, we are not liars, we are simply different and want different things. That is all x
PS: My guy is one of the "smaller" guys I have been with and yet, one of the best lovers. Go figure! The largest guy I was in a relationship with, did not give me a single orgasm in the 8 months we dated.
True Fluffbags it is a great common misconception that most of us guys do selectively only hear what we want and that is probably why most of us fret over silly things like our penis sizes . I cannot say I never have because I have been down that slippery slope before and it only made me more conscious of other parts of my body . I am very tall and surprisingly too skiny according to most women , it drives me up the wall sometimes I now excersise most mornings to try and build that muscle look that is seen as fantasy for women.
Unfortunately with advertising we will never be 100% happy because that's what marketing does how else are they going to sell to us if we where not interested in being more like what we see plastered over magazines and TV ?
Always remember:
There is no "real" and there is no "true" Unfortunately we are all raised in a society with media all around us, that tells us what a real man or woman is, or should be. You are real. I am real, everyone is real.
Women and men come in all shapes and sizes and not a single one of them is the "true" or "real" standard of a human female or male. Luckily, peoples desires come in all different flavours too. Can you imagine if "all" woman only ever fancied the muscle look, or if all men only fancied the glamour model look? Jeez! A very large proportion of us would not be getting the amazing sex we are, with someone who fancies the pants off of us! Luckily there really is someone out there for everyone.
Average to most people means"The mean" number in a mathmatical sense. eg: adding the size of someone and dividing in by the population.
also womens breast size is not proprtionate to their frame either just as penis size isn't proportionate.
Thanks for the responses guys and girls. I agree with most of what's said here. It's strange how being average doesn't seem good enough for many people when it comes to sex In general. I tend to place most blame on porn to be honest :p
Also I think a big part has to do with how society makes us believe bigger is better in most aspects with respect to bodies. With most people I think the insecurity is not from the logistics, ie vaginal length, women's preference etc but rather media's pushing view of perfection.
No of course I know that.lol What I meant was that there is an average for a certain frame which would be different for another.mrs average wrote:
Average to most people means"The mean" number in a mathmatical sense. eg: adding the size of someone and dividing in by the population.
also womens breast size is not proprtionate to their frame either just as penis size isn't proportionate.
Just love who you are and love who you are with and have fun, life is too short to go fretting am I too small is my bum fat etc .. Beauty really is only skin deep ,,
Avrielle_Aniko wrote:
But as a woman, I don't like a penis that is too big or thick, otherwise it hurts! One guy even made me bleed once because he had a much thicker than average penis (I don't know what the average girth is though, but his was very girthy.)
im with you here. bigger than average can be somewhat painful sometimes...
mrs average wrote:
Average to most people means"The mean" number in a mathmatical sense. eg: adding the size of someone and dividing in by the population.
also womens breast size is not proprtionate to their frame either just as penis size isn't proportionate.
My best friend calls herself average, but she is way above average!
When it comes to penis size and life, it is not what you have, it is what you do with it, the part of the penis that provides the most pleasure is the brain! it is about the whole person not just the penis. If that was not the case, all you ladies out there would be using toys all the time. Opps i might of shot myself in the foot there!
But how much emotional support does a didlo provide?
As I have said on here many times the most sexy thing in my view is confidence, that and a sense of humour, which is needed around me.
That said, like all men my penis size is well above average!
An article I read somewhere pointed out that men see their own penises from above and other men's from the side, which makes their own appear shorter to them. It's the difference in top and bottom length Fluff wrote about above. So it seems that men tend to visually compare their shorter top length to other men's longer bottom lengths.
From my own experience, I think women have a version of that in comparing our naked breasts to what we visually remember of other women's, but with the padding and support of bras. Probably less so though because most of us will also look ourselves over in the mirror before going out. But then we're also bombarded by media images of 'perfect' women, so my guess is that our size and appearance hang-ups are just spread out over our entire bodies.
To me, 'average' for an erection means one I have a hope of getting used to before the relationship ends. Larger means intercourse with that man will probably always include unwelcome pain; smaller means it's all far more comfortable.
Surely the measurement must be taken to only include the length that is useful to another person? Measuring from the base of the balls seems pretty illogical. If you ask someone how long their tongue is they stick it out, no one puts the measuring tape down their throat.