What does sex feel like for each sex both male and female

Just wondering for each sex what does it feel like when having sexual intercourse... everyone is different so be interested in people views. I once read that it feels like sliding into warm custard. ‘I’ve never slid into warm custard, but that sounds similar to the feeling of going in a vagina – just very warm, wet with a slight thickness, and comforting. ‘It’s also like a well-fitting shoe, or getting tucked into bed. It feels like exactly the right size, nice and snug without cutting off circulation. Be interested in both male and female thoughts..

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I love the feeling of entering a vagina - the most welcoming and comforting feeling on earth. I usually wait a while after I'm fully in just rejoicing in that feeling, usually kissing her, before starting to thrust. The feeling is wonderful at ejaculation time as well, just filling her with my love - especially if we're trying for a baby.

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Very difficult to give a simple answer to this as sex and orgasms in particular are not always the same. Vaginal sex is a very loving, intimate and satisfying experience. Anal sex is more about domination and the tighter feeling gives longer and more intense orgasms. Pegging feels wonderful but I'm so caught up in the role reversal and the experience that I rarely orgasm while being pegged. Oral sex is the most intense of all as it feels like vaginal sex with the extra bonus of a tongue working on the glans.

As I said at the start. No single answer I'm afraid.

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That's an interesting question. It's quite hard to explain. Sex with my toys feels different to sex with my partner. I think a lot of my arousal is based on my mind/imagination so it's easier to masturbate as my focus is on that and I can have sex with whoever/whatever I want in that moment. But I don't have the same focus when I'm with my partner as it's happening right there and then, lol. When I'm really aroused it feels like there is a void that needs to filled and nothing else will do. The desire makes my cheeks burn.

It's hard to explain what vaginal penetration feels like. Sometimes it can feel uncomfortable or hurt if you are not fully aroused or get a position that doesn't work for you. But when everything is right it's really right. Having someone/something being inside you and enjoying you feels satisfying and gets me off even more. The pressure of it inside and near the opening just feels good and filling for that void I mentioned. My pelvic muscles tense and contract around it like it's trying to steal it or push it out, lol. Thick, slick and wet feelings seem to come to mind. I love the start of sex but as you get more relaxed you lose some of that sensation and "definition" you had in the beginning (especially the head). I know everyone is different but I have more pleasure near the opening of my vagina so I like the feeling of ridges or girth there. Adding something to my clitoris feels like it "completes the circuit" and I can't orgasm without both being stimulated.

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Difficult to put it in words. But always feel good when the penis goes in.

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Oh it has been a dream / fantasy of mine since I've been sexually aware to be a women for a day to see what she feels and to know how to pleasure her.

I not sure if any one can really explain their sensations as we are all different, that's probably why we all like different things to different degrees

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It would be fun if you could switch what sex you are to experience what the other sex feels when experiencing sexual intercourse... It would be an eye-opener

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We had a conversation about this subject last night and my husband said that for him it’s the great feeling he gets as he pushes inside my vagina. Then it’s the feeling of pressure building as he thrusts and the explosion of orgasm as he ejaculates. This leaves him drained. For me I described to him the wetness I feel when he touches me and the need to have him inside me. The expectation as he prepares to penetrate me is wonderful and the feeling of being penetrated is addictive. The feeling of being stretched to accept him and the build up towards orgasm is amazing. We I orgasm I’m lost in the moment and call out stuff I don’t always remember saying it can be so intense. I hope that adequately describes how we experience making love.

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Its really difficult to explain how nice it feels. Basically and simplified: you know that extreme quick sharp pain feeling when you hurt yourself like when you bang your toe hard against something, well its the opposite of that feeling - it is completely and utterly amazing you don't want it to stop its pure extecesy.

I remember when I was a teen and in my early 20's when I used to orgasm I thought how it can't be possible for that feeling to get any better because it was just so damn amazing. I'm 38 now and orgasms really do feel even more powerful the older I'm getting. Which is why it seems weird to me when I hear of some wives the older they get the less they want to make love with their husbands, I'm the complete opposite even after having three babies, I really love having a man in me.

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I’ve been trying to write an answer for ages, but I have to admit I’ve struggled with it.

When his hard cock is in my pussy, it feels like he is filling a gaping void, that he’s completing me. It is like this filling the void goes straight to my heart, that it is meant to be, and that what is coming next is intense pleasure and masses of love. The physical sensations are really addictive, the rubbing, the stretching, the orgasms which flood over my brain yet I feel it in my pussy, and then him growing and pulsing and filling me with his cum, something which makes me think of new life, and that his cum is some sort of tag to prove I’m his. When his cock is in my pussy, I feel like I belong to him, and that is a good feeling.

My ass, that’s something else. When his cock is in my ass, it feels amazing. He gets so big in there that I often have to wait to accept his size. The physical sensation is what it is all about. The stretching, the rubbing, the comparative dryness makes the sensation really different. Anal is all about lust, about filth and dirtiness, about raw hard sex. It is like he is driving his cock right into the depths of my kink, like he is using his cock to take control of my whole body and mind. The fact that my pussy is empty and my asshole stretched and filled really intensifies the feelings. It almost brings out a little girl feeling in my brain, that despite his huge cock pounding away at my asshole, it makes me feel very very safe.

Two very different feelings, and I need copious amounts of both.

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Those are really interesting answers @Mint-Monster, @Love_Stud_Too and @KinkyMira - I find that description of a gaping void craving irresistibly to be filled fascinating and get the idea, it’s like the concept of a sort of universal, primordial femininity, the receptive principle, I’ve encountered studying Tarot and stuff. As opposed to the active, energetic, driving masculine energy, a building, surging feeling of pressure, hardness, ache that eventually just has to explode. I notice @Mint-Monster you’ve reviewed some anal douche - how do you find the feeling of anal?

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That’s interesting about the giving/recieving energies. There’s times during intercourse (usually drunk or something) where the sensation feels reversed for me? Like I’m the one with the penis and he’s the one with the vagina. I don’t think he feels the same way - but I think it requires imagination and reduced inhibition. Well, at least for me.

To answer your question about anal, it’s different to vaginal. I don’t get the same internal/natural craving for it and I only seem to really want it after I’ve watched porn or something. Seeing people enjoy it makes me want to enjoy it too. I suppose the other factor of it being the “naughty hole” makes it extra exciting and tempting. You shouldn’t be in there, but I like it so don’t take it out type of thing. :grin:

I usually just use butt plugs, but me and my partner had successful anal for the first time recently. I’ve heard that it gets better the more you do it and I quite liked it the first time, anyway. 100% would do again, haha. It feels like a warm pressure or stretch. There’s a hint of naughty pleasure to it. However, I still felt the need to be filled in my vagina so I think DP with my toys will definitely be on the cards in the future. While the anal craving doesn’t feel quite so “normal” to me at the moment, that very well may change the more I get used to it.

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Thanks @Mint-Monster, the role reversal sensation feels like extreme empathy, mind reading almost. I can imagine things like that quite vividly and they stimulate a great energy. :exploding_head:

What a delicious description, that turns me on. I similarly prefer to see jeans or leggings and panties pulled down exposing the buttocks, rather than nakedness, it intensifies the feeling of naughtiness. Even more so when it’s anal. :bum3: I prefer to masturbate with my jeans down rather than taking them off for the same reason.

I’m trying to think of some of my male sex feelings and will add more as they come to me. I may not be typical as I’m not into that wet custard feeling; tickling, stroking, pulling, gripping sensations are more my thing, and I’ve generally enjoyed long foreplay, teasing and anticipation. At the most basic level there’s a tickling, tingling, electric ache in the testicles and a pressure in the penis as it stiffens and lengthens. Both are involuntary and can arise instantaneously on seeing or thinking something exciting. I guess women getting wet is the same process. These sensations are initially very pleasant and I can enjoy them for a long time, but become almost painful if they continue to grow too strong, an ache and feeling of being about to burst. An unbearable distraction like the joke about the difference between light and hard (you can go to sleep with a light on). It’s near impossible to wind it back down without ejaculating which is why men masturbate a lot more than women think they do. I enjoy that initial penetration feeling though, like when you push your thumb in and out of the hole formed by making a fist with your other hand, and the big joint pushes through that tight ring. I can stand sensations like that on the head of my penis now I’m in my 50s, up to then it was so sensitive I could hardly touch it.

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Are we just talking about the physical aspect or emotional side too?

But to answer the question,

Having my OH slowly push himself inside me is the best feeling in the world to me, not only do I get a rush of extreme arousal but emotionally it just feels right. He won’t thrust straight away, we’ll lay like that for a good minute appreciating of my warmth around him and him filling me up inside.

We will always start slow, him slowly and gently moving in and out of me while he’s kissing my neck, shoulders etc and hearing each other quietly moan in pleasure just does it for me and we’ll do this while arousal continues to increase then pace of his thrusting increases.

I’ve been known to cry during or after orgasm, at first this kinda startled my OH as though he hurt me or something lol it wasn’t tears because I was sad, it was happy tears as I get this overwhelming feeling of being loved and wanted.

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Similarly, I also prefer clothes over nakedness. I usually wear a shirt when I masturbate. I also like wearing those long knee socks or just to simply pull my underwear to the side.

Interesting, I didn’t know it could get painful :confounded:. I suppose getting wet/aroused is like a light, fluttery warm feeling. Excited and relaxed at the same time. It also feels like my cheeks are burning. It can definitely be wound back down without feeling discomfort. More agitated and annoyed than anything.

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I remember it being quite nice

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Some interesting experiences from everyone,

When inside my partner it’s a lovely warm feeling, it’s like penis is surrounded by wet warmth. (maybe others have a different feeling

There are ridges and bumps inside that stroke my shaft as I move in and out. If I move slower, she grips me tighter. If I speed up, the grip isn’t quite as tight, but it’s different and provides an alternate sensation which is equally appealing.
Oral (when I get it) is a totally different very ticklish /sensitive, not in control and very sensitive when the OH uses her tongue

It’s fascinating what we all feel, we are all different so it’s interesting how we all have different experiences

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I guess you’re in a phase of exploring your own sensations and imagination then @woodstock2. I have had some very satisfying experiences by myself, but took a while to get there, long relaxed sessions slowly teasing myself and letting it build up gradually were the best, edging. :heart_eyes: Focussing on desire for a non existent partner was extremely frustrating; if I couldn’t get someone else out of my head I gradually twisted my perspective by first imagining I was having sex with them, then imagining what they felt having sex with me, then imagining I was actually them just by themselves, feeling what (I imagined) they were feeling, then concentrated just on feeling that energy in my own body, until in the end, months later, I was spending whole days aroused merely by the thought of my own body and what I was going to do to myself later, nobody else came into the picture at all. Absolute heaven if you have the time for it; it once kept me awake an entire night without even moving, just enjoying the surges of energy. Great in the days of being away on business trips, I couldn’t wait to get back to my room and was never bored. :sparkling_heart:

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For me the first time I push in to her vagina, when I’m really aroused and hard, makes me let out a real guttural moan, and I love to push in to her wet warmth and hold it there, just savouring the moment, then I like to slowly push in and out as the feelings build, if I start to ram it in and out (as she sometimes likes) then i lose some of the sensation. But I can’t help but speed up as my orgasm approaches, the feeling of the slow build then the sudden release is amazing.

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