All,
First post on Lovehoney, and I'm looking for a new vibrator to introduce to my wife of 18 years. I'm looking for advice on which is most likely to be accepted by my wife - nothing big or scary.
We don't use sex toys regularly (probably only about 10 times in our marriage, and she doesn't own or use one without me, at least that I know of), and about half of those are boardgames/bondage, not vibrators.
Our history with vibrators is limited. We have been married for 18 years and monogamous for 25, and our sex life is quite good, but of course, better would be better. We communicate about sex very badly, and that isn't something that is going to change soon - so just assume asking her is off the table.
About 10 years ago, I bought a model similar to this:
http://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=5332
She never used it and didn't want me to use it on her. Eventually it became a teether for our second child (which, btw was great - calmed him way better than traditional teethers)
About 4 years ago, I bought a vibrating cock ring similar to this, but it was blue, a dolphin instead of a rabbit, the vibrating gizmo was a bit smaller, and it had a wired remote with buzzing patterns.
http://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=5276
We used it once, and she said she liked it, but could be lying (we don't communicate about sex well). About 2 years later, we used it again, and she at least tolerated it. It has since been thrown out - gathered too much dust and I couldn't get it clean again.
1 year ago I bought a "mystery bag" of stuff from a local adult-toy shop for a special evening. It had this game, which included a mini-bullet vibrator:
http://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=33918
We didn't use the cards, but tried the vibrator. She actually seemed to enjoy it (though never 100% sure), and we have used it again since them. I am fairly confident this is working - it seems to get her quite wet.
Given this information, what is the "next vibrator" I should try? Anything too big is likely to be rejected instantly, and I will be expected to be the one to use it on her, so it should be easy to use with a very low possibility of hurting her if I use it wrong.