I’m sure there are lots of kinky members here. If your into spanking, why do you enjoy it and how do you make it better?
@lauraf1 i started being the one in my relationship who wanted to be spanked - I loved being told to bend over his knee to feel his hand swipe my bottom / it feels so good to be treated like a naughty girl
Over time I suggested if he wanted to go over my knee - so one day he did and as I spanked him I felt something growing and after looking found he was massively turned on
From there I turned. Hand spank Ito a paddle and now a cane and spank him about 4 times a week - every time massive bulge - clearly he loves it too
I feel it’s the loss of control when your being spanked / but as a person to spank - I love the power it gives me but I also know he loves being spanked and we have strict rules to follow ( I insist he wears knickers during the spank / not allowed to talk (or more spanking) and it’s up to me how he gets his spanking- but also a safe word is used) 
How did you get the confidence and strength? Women are supposed to be soft and caring 
I am soft and caring but I also appreciate he wants to be spanked and I have got good aim and we love it
I generally spank him for. Bout 30 minutes/ but. Lot is teasing
I’m trying to get my bf to see it from my side, the pleasure and the control that I’m giving him. Ongoing conversation with some work needed.
@lauraf1 - do currently you like to get spanked ?
If so how do you approach the situation - in the past I used to be all cute and say I’ve been naughty and need a good spank over your knee - that worked
I like to be spanked to the point of being made tearful. I just ask him if he can spank me because I want to release some stress really.
You said you spank your OH 4 times a week. Does this make him less sensitive over time? Will there any medical issues?
For us it’s about fun and accountability - i cam hsve fun, but if i go too fsr i am held accountable and it stings. Sometimes there are silly spankings? Where Master spanks me lightly but not seriously. It doesn’t always need to be serious 
My husband likes a good hard spank but I do not cause the skin to bleed but I do cause bruises to his bum and top of legs
No lasting effects and all is safe
I also spank his penis - this is quite new to me / but that I love as I spank the underside with a slim paddle ( like a wooden ruler)
I don’t like hard spanking myself but I appreciate you like to be spanked almost to tears - if it makes you feel good then do it
Can I ask do you prefer hand / paddle / crop of cane across your bum - for me it’s hand or paddle
I do need to be a big girl and ask for a harder spank as I think I need to feel the pain more
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I like a bit of hand and more paddle and cane. Crops IMHO just make noise
With your looks @batjamboree , ask and you shall get (more spanking) 
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What do you mean accountable? Like you did something wrong? Is it like discipline?
We have to modify our impact sessions (her on me) as she has Parkinsons. She has reduced strength in her arms and wrists and tires easily so we break our sessions into 5 or 10 minutes of impact with rests in between.
My preference, in view of her reduced ability to hit me really hard, is for the more painful implements such as the cane, crop or paddle.
She does like to use the whip on me though and emotionally I find the whip to be the most dominating of our impact toys. The idea of being whipped by my wife turns me on no end,
I’m caned on average twice a week. I say ‘on average’ because one is a fixed session to address any issues that I’ve caused during the week and the other is at my wife’s discretion. So, if she misses the extra session, it is carried forward to he caught up later. I have had it where she has missed 4 weeks of the extra session and caught them all up in one week. Needless to say, I was sore that week.
My canings are made up of 5 warm ups, 5 medium and 5 hard and then whatever my wife considers is required beyond the 15. If I’ve owned up to using my real feel vibrator too much during the week then I’m probably looking at 30+ strokes.
She has little sympathy for me as I introduced her to caning me, I find it almost therapeutic, so she is happy to deliver.
To some extent, yes. I can be quite cheeky, sometimes badly-timed, so if I run my mouth at Master he will sometimes “correct” me for it. Keep in mind though that I am a brat/SAM (a Smart-Assed Masochist) - I run my mouth because I like being “punished”, and Master likes both my sass and spanking me. Master also knows that I won’t accept physical discipline for real grievances (it brings back traumatic memories for me), or “because you’re my slave and I feel like hitting you” ,unless we’re both in that mood, in which case we call that a “scene”. Master also knows (and doesn’t treat me as) that I’m not his whipping post; I’m a respectable human being (surprisingly!) who chooses to serve him out of love, respect and admiration. If we have a real problem, we talk about it. If the problem is just me engaging my mouth before I engage my brain, well, then that’s what the belt is for.
I just don’t get spanked enough.
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