Talk to each other about what you want sexually - yes it may scare some away but you will get what you want (and need) - nothing worse than being afraid to speak up …
When I was younger, it’s amazing how many of my mates looked at me confused when I advised them to keep playing with their partner’s clit during penetrative sex.
Communication , honest . In years gone by , the only way my wife would let me know things she wanted to do that were on the edge of her normal was to be about half drunk . Some times if you or they tell you or you tell them , it is a hit or a miss . I found often it would plant a seed that later might grow to try whatever it was . Wouldn’t it be nice if people would not worry that their partner might be repulsed by something they wanted to try ?
Don’t pull on it like you’re trying to unclog a drain with a plunger, had this happen once during a BJ when I was younger. I swear I thought she was trying to see if she could detach it
I wouldn’t say anything out of politeness but man I still remember how it hurt for days!!!
Not all men orq1q women are the same, don’t think that just because an ex enjoyed something that your current partner is the same. Communicate with your partner. If you have problems talking about sex maybe take test like spice it up. Give feedback during sex, a little moan or grinding can help partners understand what works for you