Thank you, sir, may I have another? that’s the opening line of LH’s cane description
What could I call my gf for being authoritative? Madam sounds strange
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I would suggest that you ask her what she would like to be called, I would say Mistress or Madame would be appropriate.
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I would go with mistress, but she might have an idea of something else that turns here on if you ask her, x
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Sir is the title of a lord, so would it not be M’Lady?
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In heraldry, “Sir” is for knights only. These days it is also applied to baronets and a few other orders (I don’t know exactly which). It is not a Lord though, as their title is, “Lord”… though they might well also have a knighthood, so can maybe use either?
The equivalent of a Knighthood for women is a Damehood so the equivalent title is, “Dame”.
Obviously, that’s rather pedantic for these circumstances so… I agree with @JoCat and @stranger above. Ask her what she’d like to be called and go with that.
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It likely depends what part of the world you are from. In the states, and the military, sir and ma’am are the formal way to address a superior, eldrer, person of authority, or to show respect. That may or may not apply in this case necessarily, but ma’am could be an option.
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I have a few teaching friends who expect their students to call them Sir, who also expect me to call them Sir because they know I won’t say it unless I feel it in my core. So then they give me their “teacher voice” because they know I’ll buckle and feel really coy and submissive… devils, the pair of em 
@mattyi in my Domme days I would insist on Ma’am. To me, a Mistress is the other woman - she’ll have sex with him, and I wouldn’t. Hope that helps! 
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Didn’t realise your a Domme before. How did you turn into a bratty sub? 
How about Miss?
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I’ve always been a leader/carer so I figured it was destiny for me to lead/care for others and give them what they wanted. At the same time, I was going through some hardships myself and had fantasies about submission, so I dared to explore them one day.
I was a switch for three years until my sub told me one day, quite out of the blue, that he was going away for a while and wanted to forget about everything, “including us”. It cut me to the core that I gave so much for that relationship, only to be hung out to dry like I was nothing. I lost my way after that.
He’s tried to come back since but I’m just not interested. I have two amazing Dominants in my life now, it’s his loss 
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Something totally missing from porn is caring. There’s no fun, just wham bam thank you Ma’am. That’s why OH and I don’t bother with it. Sadly its almost the same thing with dating apps too.
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It’s also why I don’t do FWB’s. No feelings? No benefits
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Agree there, don’t want a robotic relationship
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I would guess “M’lady” would probably work. Although for a knight to be called “sir” the equivalent in the British system is “Dame” but that sounds weird.
My partners aren’t in any kind of BDSM lifestyle, but one of my partners always addresses our husband as “my lord.” Apparently that’s the manner in which Abraham’s wife Sarah addressed him (Bible, Book of Genesis.) My husband feels a bit weird about it, but lets her do her thing.
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Lady
Personally a woman that wants to be called Sir anyway is in itself quite nice.
Hmm either Ma’am/Miss/M’Lady, but my knowledge doesn’t extend to British English honestly 
Knew a Domme that loved to be called Mother by both her male and female subs.
Ma’am, M’Lady, Mistress
Matron of the Dungeon has been used too. But that was for a switch who had a Master of her own.
My wife is “Mistress” when she dommes.
Same here. It took her a while to enjoy the title…in the early days she was Miss.
My OH is called “Goddess” when we play that game…