Hi everyone
Curious what others might do to increase their libido? There is so many medications that impact ones libido and looking at natural ways people might try to increase this. No longer in my mid 20’s and currently aging like fine wine!
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Working out, dynamic stretching & yoga.
When I was a butterball, it was low for both coitus & self care. About 3-4 months in of sticking to my routine, it spiked from once a month if even that - twice weekly; It stayed that way for a good while until I turned back into a couch potato because reasons… it went from twice weekly, to once a week, to once on a bi weekly basis (though I don’t mind it for what I’ll mention later).
I’ve started up again a few months back now that those “reasons” are no longer a thing. And the best part? each orgams quality is just getting better; I’ve also locked it at once bi weekly because I find that a quality orgasm is better than multiple decent ones… also because I akin it to being like a paycheque 
So you’re telling me I get dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin? Yes please!
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I agree with @Atteh-mah exercise is really helpful for me too. Other things that have helped my libido are very simple: doing things that I enjoy - if I’m relaxed and happy then I’m more likely to want sex - and secondly, having sex / masturbating more increases my sex drive and makes me want even more sex! I think the reasoning behind all of these things is the same - an increase in dopamine, endorphins etc!
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I love this, I’ve never thought myself a butterball before but a little self depricating humour can be good for all of us 
For me, keeping stress down, keeping the home tidy (a messy bedroom kills the sexual appetite, so much so I once even wrote a whole blog post about it) and kind of similarly to what @Atteh-mah said, not overeating. Bloat is not a sexy feeling.
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I’ve noticed that small lifestyle changes make a big difference for me too. Regular exercise definitely helps, but I’d add good sleep and staying hydrated — both seem to boost energy and mood, which naturally improves libido.
Also, I find that doing things that genuinely make me happy or relaxed, like hobbies or spending time outdoors, seems to make a noticeable difference. It’s interesting how much mental wellbeing and physical wellbeing are connected when it comes to sex drive!
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Exercise totally
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I would be interested in this too as I go thru periods of low libido and on a low at the moment. I go from easily getting erections and waking to morning wood to none at all and if I do manage to get one it’s not very strong and easily lost. I gather diet also comes into it, has anyone had any experience with foods that help? Am going away soon so would love a boost for then
Eat well…drink plenty of water…laugh…get outside…exercise…chat…listen to music & think about sex a lot…
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I think it is obvious that exercise or any activity that reduces stress and promotes relaxation or self worth is going to help with one’s libido. I believe that when one is under stress the human body sheds the activities that are not critical to its survival. And while sex is important it is not critical for survival.
So anything one can do to reduce both mental and physical stress on the body is likely to help increase the libido. Everyone is different in what relaxes them but some fairly common things that help with stress reduction are exercise, or activities that involve play such as sports, games, etc. Time with good friends. A routine message. Hobbies and similar activities are terrific.
Good health is also important because bad health, even when it isn’t serious is still a stress on the body and mind. So eating well and exercise can go a long way. Of course it doesn’t happen overnight, but given enough time and consistency, improvements can happen.
I see it with my OH. Earlier this year there was some extended family issues that were extremely stressful for them. Once they went away her sex drive came back, but unfortunately those issues have once again surfaced so her drive has just dropped off the cliff. But we know, and this isn’t to increase her libido, that it is import for her to take care of herself and for me to be there to assist and remind her to do the things that help reduce the stress.
go. to. the. gym.
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Imcrease your self esteem.
Good quality sleep, exercise, eat well, try to reduce stress in whatever way works for you. I like to get out and walk my dogs.. the kids frequently moan that I have gone and snuck out alone but my solo dog walks are my ‘me’ time and contribute ENORMOUSLY to my own mental and physical wellbeing. I can’t always face having yabbering children along for the adventure.
I also find the gym and meditation really key.
Basically if you look after yourself physically and mentally in a general sense, the libido naturally increases.
Also just have more sex to be honest - fake it till you make it.
This is true to some degree. What other things in life do you have to be 100% in the mood to do prior to doing it? Going out with friends? Not always and how many times were you sort of in the mood to go out with friends and then it turned out to be a great time? Always in the mood to workout prior to going? Always starving hungry prior to eating? What about just being open to the idea of sex and just going with it?
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I agree, I find masturbation and particularly edging really helpful for increasing my sex drive. I don’t always feel in the mood to masturbate but once I get started I’m soon in the right frame of mind!
On the other hand, I have been so tired, run down and depressed at some times in my life that my sex drive was completely non existent. In those times it’s sometimes best to listen to your body and your mind and not try to push it to do something it doesn’t want to do. Sex isn’t essential and it’s ok to just want to curl up with a book or movie if that’s what you need.
Do you find masturbating can increase your drive to have sex with a partner? Is the a line between masturbating to increase drive for a partner and perhaps too much masturbation where it decreases the drive to be with a partner?
As a man, might not be something others think of, but reading. Website called literotica has plenty of different things. Looking into libido a lot of it is mental so reading and picturing it in my mind helps me.
Personally it’s anything aural for me. The right sounds and cadence etc does so much more a lot of the time than actual visuals.
Yes, definitely!
Not really, I’ve never found that I’ve masturbated too much to have an effect on our sex life as a couple. Sometimes I need a short break between orgasms (a couple of hours will be fine) but I’ve also been known to have 5 orgasms in one solo session and I’ll then be practically begging for sex with my OH! I usually know whether I’m likely to need a break or not so I can time things so that my solo play doesn’t affect our sexy time as a couple.