I’ve had a really really crap day and need to blurt out about it!
I started this morning off feeling kinda chirpy as had someone ask me out for a drink this evening but then got a dreaded message from someone who was reaching out to talk about my experience about being blackmailed them weeks ago and right away I felt myself plummet when they said they came across my images…
Apparently the scammer who targeted me done what I feared and has been using my face fraudulently to entrap other people for blackmailing and along with my photos they threw in a random one of someone else’s body what looked nothing like mine and actually I was rather insulted like if your gonna make me a catfish at least use my images or flattering ones not something that makes me look hideous naked!!!
Anyway this guy told me the scammer was using me to scam others and they had screen grabbed everything and gone to the police with it as this poor guy has been dealing with what he thinks is the same scam I had since April 2024 and has an open investigation case with the police who’ve now upped it to something else to try track down who this person is as they’ve discovered they have 4 phones and dozens of numbers and photos they’re entrapping from making it hard to actually track down their location…
This guys weirdly still gets daily harassment from different numbers each time by this scammer and they seem to know wherever he travels too as well loke stalking… Thank fuck I didn’t let them have my number.
Nevertheless looks like I’m gonna have to go make a report at the police station and I’ve never stepped foot in one before so super scared
While I was dealing with this I had to get ready for my outing for drinks and look after my dog who decided to play up which ended up with me being 30 mins late… I did keep them updated but alas looks like I ruined it all as they was really pissed off with me and sent a text when I arrived saying they’d just gone back to their car and going home… we was in the same carpark at this time and I had no idea what was happening and though they was pranking me big time so end up waiting ages for them to reply to me but they’d blanked me so feeling shit having spent ages making effort to look nice and needing a friendly face to cheer me up, I went home and while driving they sent me some long snotty message of how I left them waiting alone for 30 mins and before I could open it to read and apologise they’d blocked me
I fully blame myself over this and have fucked it up but yet damn he seemed very radically harsh on me so maybe he’s got issues himself or anxiety… guess I’ll never know now sadly…
When I get home my dog decided to punish me by messing literally all over the house and had it all on him too so the whole house stank and I had to get my mum home from her friends early to help me to which was my fault again for having left him to go out and meet someone for nothing…
My mum gets home and then says her friend (my godmum) dog had to be put down today so another sad blow…
In all I feel like curling up in my bed and crying but I can’t cause my happy pills have taken my ability to cry or feel anything as such
I would go have a wank to escape for a bit but oh sweet joy there’s restrictions on everything now!
Added to this my close local friends seemed to be of no help at all in supporting me or comfort as they’ve got their relationships and happy lives all coming together to focus more on
Big bear hugs my friend, that’s a whole lot of crap in one day and none of what has happened with that guy is your fault. You messaged him and kept him informed of the goings on the fact they did what they did is entirely them. You are better off without that attitude in your life.
As for the blackmail I hope they get the guy soon and this nightmare is over.
Sorry for your godmums dog and the cleanup. Hope pouch is better soon.
With regards to the blackmail, you did the right thing and you’re doing the right thing. At least you know it’s not just you and this arsehole has tried to blackmail many others. The more evidence and information the police have, the more likely they will be able to catch him. I don’t envy you the trip to the station but I don’t think it will be as bad as you’re imagining.
The guy, well you wasted a lot of effort, but overall, see it as a lucky escape. I’m assuming you let him know you were running late and why and were very sorry and would be there asap. Assuming so, his reaction was waaaay over the top and you’re much better off without a drama queen! Be thankful.
I hope your dog is feeling better today and I’m so sorry about your godmum’s dog .
Big hugs to you @AJSTAR . I have a few thoughts to offer:
The first, please never, ever be afraid of police stations; they are very used to dealing with anxious people/victims of crime and have specially trained volunteers who will support you through the trial and prosecution, if there is one. I’ve been in these places several times (for the right or wrong reasons, depending how you see it!) and they were nothing but nice to me.
Secondly, the guy getting annoyed at you and blocking you? Kind of an overreaction if you’d been keeping him posted, especially weird that he was pranking you - maybe a red flag better avoided after all? Don’t forget, and sadly I speak from experience here, many abusers start of being sugar sweet to your face, then you say no to them/let them down one time and oooh boy! I had a girl a little while ago who said we were “sisters”, then when I said no, I wasn’t okay with her planning to have sex with my husband (neither was he, he had no input in the matter, it was all her own twisted little fantasy that she could replace me eventually ) it was like I was the worse thing ever to roam the Earth. Fortunately my marriage survived it but it makes you a lot more wary of people. There’s nice, and then there’s too nice.
As fo your dog, it sounds like he might have separtion anxiety. Is he crate trained?
Thank you think I’m in a low down today of not sure how to process yesterday… I still feel awful about that guy but then keep telling myself he actually overreacted rather badly which makes me wonder if he’s got issues from past events that triggered him to behave how he did towards me?!
Nevertheless if by some flying pig he decides to unblock me and get in touch, I’ll decline as has shown me a bad start to how he could be like…
The blackMail stuff I fear could go on for many years with the police as the person who contacted me originally reported their experience in April 2024 and it’s been ongoing daily since for them with very little progress in tracking the culprit down… as far as they’ve gathered the person is working with 4 phones and has a vast network of purchased numbers they use to interact their scams through, making it just as hard to trace back and track
Thankfully my dog is feeling much more bouncy again today after having me up most the night play up and flopping out his bed!
My godmum though is devastated about hers.
Defo need hugs, I’m feeling really drained today and depressed which is weird cause I was already in a really bad down spiral beforehand and still I question how is it possible to feel like I’ve fallen further down inside like it’s a bottomless pit!
Thank you yeah I think the worst part I’m dreading is showing the screen shots of the blackmail messages as there’s a video they’ll see of me naked using a lovehoney dildo of all things lol plus nude photos… kinda makes me feel as if all modesty and that will be put out for them to see
Indeed I’d kept the guy updated on my progress and where I was so wasn’t like I’d completely blanked him like most do, so I do feel he way overreacted, and of course my mum basically said it was my fault as I should have just cancelled if was running late but I was kinda excited and wanted to meet them and had put in efforts to get ready…
I took screenshot of the conversation and if I could I’d put it on here to show how the communication went.
Think with my godmum it’ll take her a while to adjust as had her dog for 16 years or somewhere around…
Thankfully with my dog the house is now stinky smell free but still keep getting the odd whiff of it so I’ve told my mum either he needs a good bath or the floors need a proper sanitation clean other than just dettol!!
Alas I fear reporting to the police won’t do much in stopping it happening but might help in making it known for their case…
I’ve been really fed up with how men repeatedly pull the same crap with me and it makes not logical sense anymore cause it’s literally all of them I’ve ever had experience with and I’ve done everything in my power to change the narrative to make sure it wasn’t just the sort of guys I was choosing but it isn’t even that
Feels like it’s the climax to a crap few months in all.
The weirdest thing was this week loose women done a segment on this exact type of scamming and they called it something like sextortion and some the stuff they showed was exactly what happened to me and they’d said how it seemed to be effected towards teen boys more with the reports of a handful having committed suicide from it. Then literally the next day it all comes up again for me to deal with…
They didn’t really give a clear indication on what was the best thing to do other than ignore it but they themselves was trying to relate to it from getting just the usual spam email rather than
What actually happens when the scammer gets photos of you and not just pretend they have something.
Haha I fear that saying as I’ve had times like it when I’ve said it can only get better and then it really goes to hell big time
it’s caused me to have issues where I get panicked to show joy or happiness around people or in public cause I fear something will come slap me in the face to ruin it all and make me seem like a mug for being happy, so I keep myself in a state of mellow emotionless so nothing can show me up and make me come across weak. Sounds awful really but it’s kinda become one of my many protective masks I wear.
I often feel the same way, don’t get too excited or look forward to something always seems to balls it up and the disappointment is devastating.
Also i have had a random phishing scam message saying they had incriminating video from my webcam, i knew there wasn’t and basically told them to F off.
The trouble is that nowadays you can get A.I. deep fakes, or just screenshots digitally manipulated. So even if you’re innocent, determined scammers can put stuff out there.
Hope you’re soon feeling brighter and glad your dog is better too.
OMG, that’s a lot! Poor you! I have to say, that 30 minutes isn’t that long to have been kept waiting. Especially as you were updating them and they should understand that your dog comes first, before them. That person definitely has issues and whilst it’s upsetting that they blocked you, they honestly did you a favour in the long run. God, I’ve waited for people for almost an hour before, because shit happens! That’s not a reason to block. I honestly don’t think it’s your fault.
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) it was like I was the worse thing ever to roam the Earth. Fortunately my marriage survived it but it makes you a lot more wary of people. There’s nice, and then there’s too nice.
think I’m in a low down today of not sure how to process yesterday… I still feel awful about that guy but then keep telling myself he actually overreacted rather badly which makes me wonder if he’s got issues from past events that triggered him to behave how he did towards me?!
plus nude photos… kinda makes me feel as if all modesty and that will be put out for them to see 
Poor you! I have to say, that 30 minutes isn’t that long to have been kept waiting. Especially as you were updating them and they should understand that your dog comes first, before them. That person definitely has issues and whilst it’s upsetting that they blocked you, they honestly did you a favour in the long run. God, I’ve waited for people for almost an hour before, because shit happens! That’s not a reason to block. I honestly don’t think it’s your fault.