Which are better,delay wipes,delay spray or delay condoms, and which one nakes you last the longest.
Hmm guess you can only try and see what works best for youā¦
Iād reckon the wipes may not last as long as the spray and possibly the condom lasts longer than both?!
But I know people have said if doing intercourse using the spray or lubes and things it can cause an effect on the other person too.
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I have raised this topic before ,but now at witts end,have tried everything on the market with no avail,got to the point i hate having sex,and feel really sorry for my wife,iwould love to just be able to make love and we both enjoy it,rather than 30 sec and all over,dont know what anwers i am looking for, but just desperate 
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I think a little more info is needed for us to give much assistance . If you get a good erection and cum too fast it can be a number of things . For myself back when my wife and I had sex , if she was not naturally juicy I could get to ejaculation pretty quickly . From my life experience , the better shape I was in , the longer I could last . When single , the anticipation of a new lady could make me cum way too fast . I personally never had any luck with the desensitizing creams . It has been so long since we had intercourse , I might cum if my cock got within 6" of her pussy . If worry of your performance gets in your head , it will āhelpā you cum quickly . Many years ago , myself and a girlfriend were both having bit of a problem of orgasming very quickly . I guess you could say we were so excited with each other it was a problem . As in any sport , practice , practice and more practice . Have you tried a lubed rubber ? A bit extra water based lube if not . Trying you brain can be quite difficult . 
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Obviously without knowing your circumstances, itās difficult to suggest things, and like you said, you have tried things but no luck.
So I guess you are after tried and tested solutions.
2 things that have worked for me in the past-
1- A penis pump. I was sent one for testing, and when used in conjunction with the rings, that helped delay me.
2- the only other thing I do when I know I may get some action, and itās been a while since the last contact, is to pleasure myself first, earlier in evening or day and I last longer.
Sometimes this doesnāt work, especially if she goes on top as I get too excited, but then I try to slow the pace down or mix things up so I delay myself and donāt end up being a disappointment to my wife.
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I do believe you need to elaborate. What other symptoms than prematurely come do you have? How is your mind frame? are you excited, anxiousā¦ What is your background? is this something that always happened or more recent?.. Anyway, penetration is not the only way to āhave sexā, try to give her pleasure another way and maybe that will at least take some pressure off.
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I have had it all my life,and tried pills,pumps,creams,sprays and condoms,i think i get excited too easy,as we dont do it that often,and when we do its ends up a quickie in case kids come in,having been like this for years,even when we go away for a weekend away,it still happens,and wife wonāt try a second time,so depressing.
That seems frustratingā¦ what if you spend some time giving her oral, then penetrate her, take it out, use some more fingers and tongue, and try to penetrate again after some time not touching it? can you delay it that way?
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She orgasms from oral,but then wants hard and fast penetration,and thats the problemā
Got itā¦ well, have you ever had an open and serious conversation about āthe problemā? Sit with her and explain very openly and clear about it and how it affects you. Maybe she is open to the use of toys? imagine using a dildo on and off, maybe you two could have lots of fun with it?.
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What things have you already used to try last longer?
Many say a delay spray or cream is good, while others mention about the advantages of edging and building up a resiliencyā¦
I always remember a funny scene on a tv show where this guy every time he was close to climaxing heād visualise something sad or awful like running a cat over to stop himself finishing fastā¦ maybe thereās some logic to it 
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I came to explore this post because I was confused by the title, I understand now.
It is a difficult topic to talk about and admit to, so the fact that you have raised it here, is a positive step forward and in the right direction.
What is available to help? You have said youāve tried most/all available products, to no avail.
Despite the impressive claims of these products (creams, pills, etc.), I do have doubts about any consistent positive results from them. However, a couple of thoughts:
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Someone mentioned ā using your mind to think of something else prior to personal climax, something not sexy. This really can work for some. Many years ago, it provided me with some help, albeit randomly, probably requires a lot of āfocusā. I used to visualise a chessboard and a few opening moves.
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There are things called compression rings, often used by those to sustain an erection, achieved by a vacuum pump. That type of ring, might help prevent ejaculation?
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The legendary Masters and Johnson method, might prove helpful ā details readily available online.
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Similar to the M&J method, is the squeeze technique, where firm squeezing is used prior to climax, to cancel the climax, by forcing the blood out of the penis and thereby reducing the erection.
Please ignore if already tried and known.
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Yes,sorry tried all theseā
Iām sorry youāre having these issues @Ajp Iām afraid thereās no advice I can offer.
Just letting you know that Iāve merged your two threads on this so itās all in one place 
Good luck x
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My only other thought, is to satisfy yourself prior to, a joint session with your wife.
You may have to experiment to find the right amount of time that works best for you, allowing for your recharge. For instance, if you and your wife are likely to be close one evening, then your self-satisfaction could be one hour before, or several hours, depending on your personal recharge/delay attributes.
This may not be the best solution, but worth a try If you havenāt tried it. It will require some experimenting/practice, and some logistics.
Good luck.
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Cheers,will try that oneā