What do you do, or have had done to you to make it more painful or humiliating?
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Flogging, at least with the flooger we have, is intrinsically less painful than whipping (or paddling or caning) so if we want to make it more painful she uses the flogger on my nipples and my penis.
Whipping is something which takes more practice and has become more painful as she’s got better at it so now, to increase the pain or if she wants to leave heavy weals on my back, she concentrates the blows into the same small area rather than spreading them out.
We don’t do humiliation so i can’t help you there.
@Outdoorseyguy - it’s a matter of humiliation for. Me and my husband over pain
I appreciate pain is fun but it reduces the length of time for play
My favourite play is where I get him to cross dress and get him to bend over and walk around him paddle or cane in hand and humiliate him ( call him sissy / slut/ dirty bitch/ ) and when ready I pull his knickers down and joke about his penis (although he is big) before spanking starts
As with @rockstar its bottom and penis that gets spanked - never balls
After a bit of spanking I may peg him while his bum is red and sore as further fun
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@batjamboree
That sounds so hot Tryingbto get OH to experiment with clothing he is comfortable wearing my knickers
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@AWB1955 - he has his own knickers to wear especially during play - I prefer he wears white / yellow / pink or pattern and generally high waisted- but he does occasionally wear mine as well for fun
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Thanks for replying. i have several different colours and design in my knicker draw he does tend to go for my high wasted one he says it hold him in more and feels mor comfortable
Any advice on how to get him into dressing up would be appreciated
I also wear stockings, suspenders and backless knickers (and now a bra) when she’s whipping or pegging me but it’s more about feminisation rather than humiliation.
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@rockstar i always give him what he wants and I always refer to him as a female when dressed as such
It’s important to have guidelines when spanking / humiliation/ forced femininity- for me all are good and he loves them too
As for other lingerie my husband wears similar- not sure in backless knickers as I like to feel the material on him bum and I enjoy taking them down (or telling him to take his knickers down to the knees )
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You have just reminded me.
A friend, after putting her makeup on me, made me stand in her living/front toom, where anyone could have seen through the window or knocked on the front door and seen me, pulled down my boxers, spanked me with her wooden hairbrush, (which was actually her hairbrush, with hair left between the bristles), made me kiss it and sent me to drive home…Full makeup on.
I had to stop on the way for petrol, but paid at the pump itself!
When she hairbrushed me, it was in front of a female friend of hers and I had to kiss the hairbrush and also her hair.
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@Outdoorseyguy for me and my husband we do not involve others with our play but appreciate others are happy with it
I personally would never want to share him
As for hairbrush being used to spank - I do use this on him and he enjoys
After spanking we always thank the spanker for their punishment- it’s something I always did when I was over his knee and he does it back to me when he is spanked
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I only wear backless knickers to hold the gaff in place when she needs access to bare flesh for impact play or for pegging.
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I had to thank my friend after every spank.
All other beatings were in private, but that particular time was when she and her friend took me to the womenswear department of a supermarket, measured me in front of all and chose lingerie for me to buy.
A female assistant winked and smiled at me, which added to the humiliation.
Is your hairbrush actually used for your hair too?
Hers was. I had to fetch it from her bathroom and hand it to her.
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@Outdoorseyguy - my brush is used on my hair all the time - it’s good to spank the top of his legs - leaving a good mark
@batjamboree The fact it is used on a lady’s hair, rather that just for spanking makes it extra sexy for me.
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@Outdoorseyguy the brush is very handy to use - I like the crop as it’s sexy and makes a good whipping sound when used correctly
When we have a lot of time I lay out about 8 different items at one end of the table and he bends over the other side so he can see all the tools - I then enjoy walking around teasing him before the obligatory whack - the cane is the one that hurts the most - I only use this with his knickers fully up as I know it hurts - but it’s always needed
When you are spanked does your partner : mistress make up stuff you did (I have said in the past that when dressed as a schoolgirl that she was caught sucking cock) in order to punish you - also do you get spanked on a naked bum or do you wear your knickers 
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I no longer see her as she moved away and started a business.
She did not make fake excuses/reasons to punish me, but once I turned up late to see her and she asked me to pick a number between one and ten. She then doulbled it and multiplied it by the minutes I was late.
It was with her rigid latex cane and it flippin’ hurt big time, athough she did not use much force.
She then painted my toenails, saying if I moved and made her have to do it again, I would not want her to get her cane out. Lol!
It really hurt, that caning. I was allowed to liss her boots after, when I asked.
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We don’t do role play or make up reasons for impact play. She does it to me because she enjoys it and she knows that I need it (crave it in fact) every few days.
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@rockstar
For us we like to take time and both dress up and do a lot of talking takes place and not just whack whack whack
It’s tease and play - spank bottom with knickers up and then down - a few spanks to top of legs and if needed a few on the penis shaft
I make rules up a lot in order to spank
Former GF of mine loved having her clothes ripped to pieces to get them off before being spanked.
She had some really nice/expensive outfits that got trashed this way but she didn’t mind, and almost planned it that way as it all added to the humiliation aspect.
For pain, one of my most effective methods is to simply dampen the skin/throngs of the flogger first.
Flogging/whipping spanked skin is interesting, though not always more painful. A build up in intensity, maybe. Of course, if you want punishment, then flogging cold skin is more effective.
I’m a nice person, honest 
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