I was reading a few topics and it's something myself and my wife have discussed and that is when you masturbate alone, do you fantise or imagine someone, if your watching porn, are you thinking of someone in the scene or what??
One of the reasons is my wife used to always say that when she does she'd think of me....even if she was watching porn, now where I caught her out was I know sometimes if I'm up watching something she might have a little fiddle alone and I know women like to orgasam without nessecarilly having sex, but I said, sure why would you do that if I'm there??
So she confessed that yes if she was watching porn she'd imagine she was someone in the scene but if she isn't watching anything then usually she'd think of me... hmmm I'm not sold on it.
does it bother you that she thinks of the porn scene?
personally if its anything other than sex i do fantasise about particular scenes or watch porn but never that im involved, just watching, and sometimes during sex we fantasise together about threesomes. so i know that on the odd ocasion he does mastubate hes most likely thinking of at least one other girl, which despite my paranoia, i dont mind
I always think of my boyfriend. The only time I masturbate while we're together is when he's asleep. In your wife's defence, sometimes he'll do things in my imagination that he wouldn't do in real life, so that could be it! Even if she's thinking of you, she's still physically alone enjoying it, which is something we all need every now and again. When alone but thinking of you she also doesn't have to worry about pleasing you! There's plenty of reasons for her to be thinking of you without including you!
I hadn't thought it bothered you. You'd said that you don't fully believe her, and I was just trying to give reasons she's probably telling the truth :) The fact it doesn't bother you is just another reason for her not to lie!
Personally I dont think of my OH or a play partner unless Im remembering a particular thing we have done. Similiarly I dont think of porn stars or celebreties as they aren't "real" or attainable in my head. Mine usually include people I know or have met but have never had any form of sexual or intimate contact with.
I never think of or fantasise about my current partner/girlfriend when I'm masturbating. But I do fantasise about past lovers, and also women I haven't actually had sex with: colleagues at work, women I've seen on the street, whatever.