@batjamboree
I honestly don’t think that I would be disappointed/embarassed/disgusted if my future girlfriend/sexual partner had a dildo!
What if a woman is travelling for work and wants to enjoy herself and her man can’t be there??
She needs to satisify herself sexually!
I love my sex toys and look forward to using them. Dildos, butt plugs, cock rings, nipple toys, vibrating suction masturbator. So much better than just using my hand. My wife isn’t into them as much. She loves it and cums lots when I wear a double vibrating cock ring during sex. I would use my toys every day if I could.
Nothing wrong with men enjoying toys especially when your with your OH and swapping, the best feeling I have is when she takes control and goes through her full compliment on me.
Some people feel uneasy about toys simply because they haven’t been exposed to them or worry they might somehow diminish their role in a relationship. Some may have trauma too, so bear that in
it usually just takes a bit of reassurance. Your body and your wellbeing are your own, and if a toy helps you relax, feel comfortable, or manage stress, that’s a valid personal choice. No one else gets to dictate that.
If someone tried to make me choose between my own comfort and their insecurity, I know which one I’d let go of, and it wouldn’t be the thing that supports my wellbeing or pleasure 
I admit when I was younger knowing my SO would have toys of her own bothered me a bit.. and first time a women played with one after we made love realy made me feel uneasy specifically I felt inadequate .
Over the years I evolved by enjoying mutual masturbation and encouraged them to use any and all toys. Fast forward, my Wife and shop together and I use them on her more than she uses them. She of course has used them in me too.
I think playing toys together; either intimately or in a group can bring about fantastic experiences.