I hate the fake porn noises. It’s pointless. Like the second you put your dick in or licking start screaming. You know it’s pure fake, when you hear someone moaning genuinely it’s the biggest turn on. Knowing your pleasuring her. Not an ego thing that feel good cause I’m doing a good job, more that I jus love knowing I’m making her feel good. Let’s you know what your doing is right and keep doing it. Iv often said to people not to start faking, if your turned on great, if not then don’t. Often when licking pussy and feel her legs squeeze around my head and shivering, having my hair pulled or simply hearing her say oh fuck is better than loud moaning cause you know your making her feel good
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@JoCat im same as that. I can’t help it when feeling so good. It’s a natural reaction. Sometimes happens when masterbating, jus means your in the zone and very aroused
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Ooh interesting.
I can be vocal during sex although it’s very dependent on the mood. Sometimes playful moans and giggles, or if it’s a bit of a heavier session then the moans are very difficult to stifle. Pure enjoyment. I know being vocal turns him on so that’s another reason.
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Having spoken to OH and after last night I forgot to be a little louder, I’m updating my original answer. He told me he much preferred when I didn’t force myself to be louder, especially when I told him it was more for his benefit. He said as much as he enjoys hearing me moan with pleasure he likes that it is quiet and makes it special when he does hear me. I also tend to give more visual cues as to when I’m climaxing over audio cues.
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All of that. We’ve had to be quiet for years so when we get proper alone time we’re both more vocal. My partner is usually self conscious so I love it when she let’s go and does the above.
When I get to be loud I usually growl, sometimes it comes naturally at climax and sometimes I play up to it a bit as I know it’s a turn on for her. She also loves the “oh fuck” moment from me so we work well together.
The noises when she gets the right spot during pegging are involuntary and she loves it as it gives her a surge of pride as in “I made him make that noise”.
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This is an interesting topic as most women have suggested that they tend to be quiet during sex as moaning is too close to the fake farse of porn. A lot of woman have stated they moan and make audio stimuli purely for the males entertainment. I, on the other hand, moan without meaning to. I find the movement and the sensation automatically makes me moan, so much so that my other half often places his hand over my mouth to prevent us from being overheard.
I’m not sure whether I could do the deed without moaning as the moans of pleasure just escape me most probably like a giggle would if someone were to tickle your feet.
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I moan for many different reasons. Sometimes it is because the pleasure means I can’t help it. Although usually when I actually orgasm I go completely silent and hold my breath and the most noise that comes out is a tiny squeak 
I don’t know why 
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Otherwise I moan for my OHs enjoyment and I know they do the same or because I can’t stand dirty talk and it becomes a rather quite affair if I don’t 
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the french call orgasm ‘little death’ which seems to fit with the breath holding quiet 
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We are both general quietish, normally just heavier breathing until we’re about to orgasm then a bit more pleasurable moans
to be honest whenever I’m doing it I often don’t even realise. Like I’m not purposely moaning. But then again when I masturbate I don’t. So yh I am probs doing it subconsciously for his pleasure. Pluss I have had sex a few times where I HAD to be quite, and when u can just let it all out it’s also just so much more fun!
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I totally change during sex if we’re having to be quiet (ie kids in the house!) versus being away on our own and able to let go a bit more.
We had an amazing session last week when we were alone at home and hubby said I was like a woman possessed. We tend to be quite vocal and tell each other what we’re thinking and I can be quite a heavy breather when I’m about to orgasm. Last week I don’t know if it was just because we were able to have a bit of uninterrupted daytime nookie (virtually never happens!) but I was particularly excited and maybe just a bit too loud.
I do run my hands through my husbands hair etc when he’s giving oral and I do tend to let out softer moans occasionally but when I can be I’m just a bit of a dirty gal! Lol!
I’m generally quite quiet!
During sex I will moan or gasp if it feels really good, but I tend to moan more when reciving oral to let him know when hes hit the right spot!
If I’m masturbating alone, i will only moan if I have an explosive orgasm
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Having read through the replies on this topic yesterday I decided to try to keep quiet last night. It didn’t work, I just can’t be quiet! So moaning is involuntary so it seems:
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God I moan a lot especially when I receive oral 
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I recently started filming myself with sex toys for my lover and I know it turns him on to hear me moan so I don’t hold back but wouldn’t say I put it on for him. I think as I get older I moan more but I am a lot more confident and less shy now. I would be inhibited if I thought I could be overheard though. I doubt I could stay silent though. For me it is part of the pleasure and release.
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@Nadine you find as you have got older your more a sexual person n more open to things? Asking in hope my wife gets the same cause I definitely have
I think getting older has helped. But that is only part of it. I was dreadfully shy when I met my hubby. Our sex life was great but not particularly adventurous but I was far too embarrassed to talk about it and he always treated me like a princess so there were things he would simply never ask me to do. But we were both happy with our vanilla sex and regular orgasms so honestly didn’t think about it much. But yes, getting older did help me lose some of my inhibitions. Fast forward to several years of no sex due to his poor health and an unexpected but lovely, sexy encounter with a tradesman and my eyes just opened I guess! He was very forward and would tell me exactly what he wanted to do to me. I was a bit shocked but honestly was more shocked by how horny he made me feel. I just found I was gaining more of an interest in something that had been put firmly on the back burner. A few months down the line I now have a small collection of sex toys and think nothing of recording myself. It would have been a big “NO”! a few years ago! I find I flirt much more than I ever have now as my confidence is so much higher and frankly life is too short not to enjoy it.
I would guess my situation is not what you would want to happen for your wife though. But do you think she is not interested in being more open or have you not asked her? It’s ridiculous how we can have sex with people but be uncomfortable to discuss it with them sometimes. Is she like me, happy enough with the sex you have and content to carry on as things are or have you discussed it and know she doesn’t want to broaden her horizons?
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@Nadine brilliant story, love you have found your sexual self. May I ask how old you are and what age you started really realising what you wanted sexually? I’m 35, she is 31. When we 1st got together were 24 n 21. I was way more adventurous sexually than her, she very was sexually tame for example She thought the idea of having sex in the afternoon was mad. Or there was a computer chair in her room, I sat on it and told her to get on top of me, she had the idea it was dirty
. When in the mood she gets horny and we have great sex but in general it’s bland. She looks at it as you have sex to have an orgasm, quick as possible. Not the whole premise of exploring each other and taking time to enjoy being sexual with eachother. She dosnt masterbaite even though due to work I’m only home every other wkend. I jus can’t figure how someone doesn’t get horny n want to relieve themselves. Your exactly right, when I do bring up sex while we apart she jus says I’m drunk to get out of the conversation which I’m not
I am in my late 40’s and my awakening only began 6 months ago. I was 19 when I met my hubby and he was my first. Your wife was only 21 and maybe not very experienced or confident from the beginning? Maybe she just has a lower sex drive than you but it could be a confidence issue. I would say that if she has told you she does not masturbate, it might be that she would be embarrassed to admit it? My husband and I have never discussed masturbation. I would have found it completely mortifying and probably denied it! It’s hard to change your mindset sometimes. So much depends on her upbringing too.
I am not sure I can offer any wise advice. I have seen people on here who have written down what they want to tell their partner with good outcomes. It’s hard to know if she is genuinely not interested or just finds it too hard to talk about. Maybe you can compromise on introducing small variations to your sex life and see how she feels about them? Different positions that are not too “outlandish”. Trying a wand body massager rather than a full on sex toy. Ask her if there are things she would try rather than focus on things she won’t even contemplate.
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I used to be loud during sex, but have quietened down over the years maybe my sex life has got worse. Moaning used to be natural but I’d have to fake it now.
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