Hi @bmcqei
Getting philosophical for a minute on your excellent question:
With many kinks, there’s a lot going on. For many it’s often about carving out the opportunity to suspend the normal rules of social and societal expectations. A play session can become a container (with boundaries you decide) for acting out or roleplaying naughty, transgressive fantasies.
The risks of paying a social cost: eg. rejection by one’s community/ employer adds a taboo risk element that feels dangerous and exciting to many.
The roleplaying session is often a space of irony. It’s typically a polar opposite of how the person feels they are pressured by expectation to behave in their day-to-day life.
‘Slutty’ fantasies are a natural pushback against often hypocritical expectations in society of women in particular exhibiting ‘good’, chaste, ‘clean’ monogamous sexual behaviour, and a rejection of real and perceived slut-shaming pressures.
It’s also a positive embrace of sex, desire, being desired, being the centre of attention, freedom from restrictions, and so on.
Degradation, objectification, and so on also have meaning in a person’s life. It can be a lot of fun to push back against these things too: To subvert or reclaim them in a private space.
Another aspect is the post session ‘reclamation’ of your relationship: The opportunity to step back into the comfort and closeness of a romantic relationship with a high level of honesty and trust, a marriage, a family, and a home.
It can give a whole new dynamic to a romantic relationship.
I’d hazard a guess the memories of these sessions can also be alot of fun in your other bedroom antics, and when facing humdrum situations in daily life too.
If you’re both enjoying this, it sounds super hot! 
