i csn totally relate to your wife!
I second MrsMcX! if you want to try other penetrative options then a glass dildo is the way too go.
I was given a vibrator as a gift recently, and I love the shape of it, but found it most satifying with out the batteries.
I have been called a very demanding insatiable lady many times, so it's not sex drive... Its just some people who usually have no problem having orgasms can find a vibro, over the top and quite off putting, maybe distracting or really just senseless, especially when the real thing is so much better!
I actually never understood why one would want to simulate sex with something that is unnatural.
I bought my glass dildo just last week, because, Iam no longer married and I really don't want the fuss of finding a FK buddy. so iM MEGA FRUSTRATED.... and thought of, now its time in my life to buy toys to replace what im missing...
I would never of thought to have a vibro, when I had my OH, or even when I was younger and single as i would always find some fun somewhere with another person..
perhaps you OH has this opinion of herself also.
Have you thought about other kinds of toys... that mayb she could use on you... perhaps she would like to experiment in that way?
I say this as I have used many different types of toys on men and women who do and don't like vibros... there is a whole range of different things...
Perhpas ask yourself, why you want her to enjoy these toys? she may be wondering the motives behind your suggestions... this can also put people off...
also sometimes we ask of others what deep down we wish to receive... and if she knows that this is a possibility , she may be awaiting you to have a go too...?
just throwing out ideas...
But just be reassured, if I was bothered to go out more and not feeling so much apathy, I would be going out , newly single finding playmates and would have the Glass dildo back in the post office!
However I'm awaitng the tracy cox, glass dido duo to come back into stock. I juts bought the lilac lovehoney wave Gspot Glass dildo... and boy does it replace what i have recently lost...
Kind of dangerous really... as I'll probably just need this for the rest of my sexual life now.....