I’d love her to be a hotwife or have a mmf threesome with me and another guy … she likes the fantasy but says that’s where it ends for her …
However she does like flirting with guys on girls nights out … and she has one coming up …
Wonder if I can get her to up the ante but promising her rewards for being a good girl …
Any suggestions …
My take…
If she’s serious that ‘she likes the fantasy but that’s where it ends for her’, then that’s where it ends.
Yeah, I’d agree. A fantasy of mine, my wife knows it
That is where it ends though
Id let her go out & have a good night, don’t force the issue. If it’s ment to happen it will.
I like the fantasy myself, but there are a whole host of things that stand between fantasy and reality that I’m not sure if you’ve considered. Number one, obviously, is consent - she doesn’t want to make it a reality. Please don’t keep pushing her, it’s disrespectful and you could drive her away.
Next, there’s the issue with finding the right guy. Men willing to sleep with married women are a dime a dozen, some are married and unfaitfhful (I dated one) and some have cantagious diseases and infections. Some will happily lie to get your woman into bed, and if she’s already drunk, they’ll just see her as an easy target. Is one wild night really worth the risk of all kinds of trouble?
How would you feel if you turned your fantasies into a reality and then a guy started disrespecting or abusing your wife, and you weren’t there to protect her? Could you ever forgive yourself for that? I am in the BDSM community and I have seen it happen all too often, including my cheating ex, who was abusive to me. Cherish her, value her and protect her. Don’t just leave her in the hands of the first man to set sights on her. There are some real monsters out there.
Third, and dare I say it, but have you considered the thought that she might find a better lover than you? I’ve seen a couple split up after a mmf because she preferred the other guy. Are you really ready to run the risk?
Fantasies are great, but if I were you, I’d not push this any further. Cherish the woman you love, buy a couple of dildos and enjoy the fantasy together. Good luck to you both 
Hmm up the bait but also respect her space on where she’s said it’s only fantasy as last thing you wanna do is make her feel uncomfortable about expressing her fantasy thoughts freely to you 
As a wife in a couple who enjoy this, I can totally understand where you’re coming from. Encouraging your wife to explore with another man on a night out can indeed be an exhilarating experience! However, it’s essential to ensure the mood is just right and that boundaries are respected. That being said, when done correctly, it can lead to a lot of naughty and unforgettable fun! So, if you’re both on board and in sync, why not dive into that sexy adventure?
You say she likes the fantasy but that’s where it ends for her. For me, that does not indicate that it is something she is really that into and potentially not something she really thinks about beyond when you have asked or spoken about it.
If she had expressed it is something she fantasises about regularly, maybe even watched and enjoyed mmf porn, and has thought about a guy she’s flirted with joining you both, then I’d consider the discussion of what boundaries she’d feel comfortable agreeing with regards to flirting. Taking things slow and build on the flirting to see where her boundaries sit. If things progress, continue checking in and discussing what to explore next until a firm boundary is established. Once established, accept and respect it.
Sometimes patience and letting things flow naturally, results in rewards for both people. 
Thanks for the thoughts everyone … do appreciate everyone taking time to respond …
I’m not going to push her to do anything she’s not comfortable with and frankly I don’t think I could if I wanted to … she’s a strong willed lady …
I do have the upmost respect for her … but I understand what people are saying … it’s important that she takes the lead if she shows an interest …
When a fantasy becomes reality,it is no longer a fantasy. Be careful what you wish for