We had an interesting conversation with my wife’s best friend. They have been friends for over 20years and share a lot and hang out a lot. She comes over quite a bit for dinner and drinks and will occasionally sleep over if she has too much to drink as we have a quest room. Never nothing sexual.
The other day she was over, we were having drinks and she asked us about us being into pegging. I knew she knew but never a topic of conversation when I have been around. She asked us what we liked about it, why, how we started and so on. After talking for a bit she said she would like to watch. My wife has never wanted to swing, swap or have anyone else in the bedroom which I have agreed and never pushed. Wife told her they would talk about it later.
When we were alone wife and I talked about it. We pretty much agreed to let her watch, but no intercourse between me and her friend. No sex between her and her friend. Her friend can watch, get undressed, masturbate, but no sex with either of us.
We talked about what if it did progress, what are our limits, hand job or bj while pegged? Sex between them? Her wanting to peg me?
So we are still mulling it over. Any thoughts or suggestions would be welcome as I don’t want their friendship compromised in any way. I feel a lot of discussion still needs to take place between me and my wife and then with her friend.
We have a close female friend that said she would love to watch us have sex. She knew we had an active sex life and we talk about sex with her.
One evening after a few drinks we had sex in front of her she was still fully dressed but came over and gave my wife a kiss as we had sex. She said she really enjoyed watching us and we found it a turn on to be watched. Over time she watched us again and this time joined in by giving me a blow job she played with my wife’s boobs and we sucked and played with her nipples.
Then on our next meet up we had full sex with her. The experience was amazing with two gorgeous women. My wife really enjoyed it as well and was not something we had ever thought we would do.
We had lots of talking before all this happened make sure everyone is on the same page and if anyone is not then don’t go ahead with it.
Also let the single female set the pace. We took things slowly and took time from her watching us to then joining in.
We are very close to our friend and fully trust her.
Communication is definitely the key. We need to maintain our strong marriage and want nothing to come between our friendship as well. Wife and I definitely agreed if we move forward this is not a green light for possible other encounters with other people. Would be with her friend and her friend only . If we don’t move forward that’s it. No looking around.
If you are all happy for her to watch and self pleasure then do that for the first time, no touching or getting involved with either of you.
If you all want it to progress then have that talk, but don’t jump ahead.
She has asked to watch, you’re okay with it so just go with that for the time being.
Agreed. They’ve got to make that decision for themselves, but we’re a “anything goes if it’s between us” but we’re not incorporating other people into our sex life. Wifey does feel like visiting and playing at a club (voyeur/exhibition, not swapping/swinging) could be more of a soft limit for her; at the moment it’s closer to a hard limit for me.
Your situation sounds the same as ours.
We’re planning a visit to a club next month and we won’t be playing with anyone else on that occasion. I’m not totally closed to the idea of playing with others but H quite reluctant so nothing will happen unless we’re in complete agreement.
@batjamboree so true. This has been something so intimate for us that it is hard to think of sharing it. It’s been a journey for us to be where we are at sexually.
There’s also the option of creating a little sex tape that you can show your friend in the interim if you decide to push your boundaries and start to entertain other options and as everyone else has said communication is key.
I sense in some cases if anything did happen with her even just watching you two have sex the whole friendship would kinda change up and could sway either way
Depends how free and open your wife and her is…
We both enjoy same room fun, being watched and watching but this has been with strangers at a swingers venue. There has never been any ongoing meets with people we know although we have bumped into the same people on other nights at the same venue. For us our private life is just that, we accept hat we might bump into people we known day to day is a possibility but the chances are very low and if it did happen we would probably just switch to a watch rather than participate kind of evening. For us our kinks are still a bit hidden and we don’t want them to be known and discussed by our friend group so any play which incudes a close friend would not be considered
OH and I have come to an agreement at this time it will be a no. Too many possible negative consequences. We are happy the way things are in our personal and sexual lives.
Lovely experience.
Trust is the main key. I’ve a few couple friends I’ve played with in the past and it’s all about respect, gelling together and trusting each other 100pc. Once that is in place the experiences can be amazing.
Naturally I’m a cautious person so like to take things slowly, build a rapport and trust.
It’s important to me too, to become good friends, share that beyond the bedroom aswell:)
I’ve always thought about a swingers venue, been tempted and there is something about spontaneous fun. I’ve never really done that; what an experience you must have had! So sexy!
But love to share intimacy too and build up some good friendships with couples in the past and indulge in some lovely sexual experiences.
So agree with your post; if you are lucky to meet the right people, slowly build up a trust and a rapport, you can most certainly have some erotic, personal and erotic times.
