What’s POF?
Mr Pheebs wrote:
What’s POF?
Plenty of Fish
I spent a lot of money on dating websites in the past, most women never bothered to reply, the few that did we’re very wary & mistrustfulI, I was always polite & treated them with respect, but constantly told your a nice guy but no thanks, I was always told be yourself & don’t pretend to be someone else.
I wasted a chunk of my life.
Sorry I hope I haven’t put anyone off.
I only ever met one person from POF.. she is now my wife and mother to ny children. 8 years strong. Some of the messages i got were just down right rude i remember one being from an older man asking me to chain him up in the woods (i had that i was straight on my profile so not sure if he was expecting a yes or just blanket messaging everyone in a certain radius hoping for a yes)
I have a few POF horror stories, before I met J (thank god).
The nastiest one from my point of view was had a to cancel a second date due to my dad being taken ill. I phoned her to explain and she told me not to bother going to the hospital to see my dad, but to come and see her. I explained for the second time he was ill and had been rushed into hospital, she then said " your only be sitting around for hours wasting your time, I know I am a receptionist at a hospital, dont bother going and come here"
At this point I put the phone down!
Dont have to bother with POF anymore!!!! Yay!!!
I was reading something this week in which the blogger was making an analogy about the superficiality of Tinder and saying that "Tinder is like the Macdonald's of dating". His view is that it brings kind of instant but shallow gratification and it's something that very rarely delivers in terms of finding someone special if that's is what people are after.
I've been with my hubby for 15 years and I think if we split up, I'd be in serious trouble as I don't see myself going through this kind of thing. I know a lot, a lot of people go into online dating nowadays, but for me the eye-to-eye thing, chemistry, smile and a nice first impression are hard to replace. Maybe I'm too old... lol!
To be honest, every experience I've had on POF and Tinder have all been negative.
I've used Tinder more but I find that I match with women and then receive no response, or the conversation dries up completely.
I'm thinking that meeting someone is far better through real life than constantly behind a screen.
I never used tinder but used POF and met up with a few people. Whilst I count myself lucky that I didn't get any true horror stories, I did meet a couple that were too full on . After meeting 1, a couple of days later I went for a mea l with friends, got a message saying "thanks for ignoring me, classy!" . Apparently she was in the same pub, but left before sending the message and I hadn't noticed her . Another sent me 15 texts whilst I fell asleep watching telly, started with "no how are you" and ended with "you're just like everyone else, all you've done is lie to me". Needless to say I didn't wit either of them again.
Saying all that, I did meet my OH on POF, it's been 3 years now, we've bought a house together and I've never been happier .So they do have their positives
I was dating a guy called Tom he said he had an impressive job, showed up in a 5 series BMW. A few weeks later I discovered his name was something completely different even the surname he told me, he didn't have a job and his car was rented. I stopped speaking to him so he turned up at my house, yet I hadn't given him my address.
I have had a few but one sticks out more than others. I had been talking to this guy who seemed really nice, he had a few pictures and all looked OK. We arranged to meet up and I got there early and when he text to say he was there sat outside the only person I could see was what I thought was this guys dad. His pictures must have been at least 10 years out of date, he had very bad teeth and hair and turned up to a 'casual drink' dressed like he was heading to court. While he went to get some drinks I put out an sos to my brother in law who said he would ring me in 15 minutes pretending to be my ex saying my daughter needed me. The creepiest guy I have ever met.
Met a guy who within minutes was telling me how much his father gets paid and trying to get into conversations about brexit and how I voted in the last general election... very unusual flirting technique. I've never wanted to leave a date quite so swiftly. He was so nice and normal in all the texting leading up to the date as well and then in reality he was just a walking talking ego problem.
I used Tinder and had some interesting people messaging :')
One guy messaged me on whatsapp I think, and got actually angry with me when I didn't want a dick pic after literally 30 mins of talking. I told him I didn't want one, but didn't care that much and send one if it makes him feel better about his life. He did, I gave him a well done and stopped talking to him :')
A different guy messaged me saying "you look like you'd love it if I bent you over and took your ass" as his opening line, I told him I was about to say the same thing to him and he didn't know where to put himself :') After clarifying that yes, I meant I'll bend him over he unmatched :')
If I'm gunna get gross messaged I'm having some fun with it :P
I also had a guy I met up with once, we lived close to eachother so we just went for a walk. He was lovely, cute, slightly older, and we had a lot in common. I really liked him. The following day he hit me with "I will get you in my bed and fullfil all your wildest fantasies." Could have worked for some people I guess, but we didn't kiss or hold hands or anything, and nothing sexual had been discussed and I was crazy shy. He also had awful timing, I was at the beach with my family and saw that :')
I also recently met someone I matched with on Tinder and talked to a lot, lots of heavy flirting but I met my OH before anything happened with him. Turns out they went to school together, and he's good friends with my OHs brother. I can only hope he didn't recognise me or at least won't say anything :P
Not long after that guy I met my current OH, I'd say worth it :)
Not a bad experiences as such but i joined POF when i was seperated
Stumbled across a profile of a woman who i know who shall we say sleeps with anything with a pulse,her POF profile described herself as "very choosy"!!!!!
Also a woman messaged me and sorry if this sounds shallow but we all have our types,she had a few photos on that were head shots only,i was toying with the idea of asking her to meet up when she added a few more photos,one was cleary from facebook and had her full name on it,rightly or wrongly i looked at her profile and she was far from the average build she had described herself as.
Im not fattist or anything i am hardly stick thin myself but she should have at least been honest!!!
The funniest ones are occupation "full time mummy" which hardly inspires confidence lol
Oh some howlers. There was one guy who insisted on telling me what he'd do to me in the bedroom. A lot of it involved me standing about naked while he did stuff to me, no actual consent considered in the entire scenario so I was pretty much in his head just an object rather than a person.
One guy started out ok but I like to do a bit of background research on all guys to check them out. I was so very glad I did with one particular guy. He not only had a different surname in his FB URL from the one he gave me, a very quick Google search found that the same guy had been charged with assault and a coupe other of charges on a woman he had been involved with. The photo in the newspaper article didn't look too happy but the occupation and the fact that he also does MMA matched what he told me was too coincidental. I asked if I would have seen him in the papers. His reaction was defensive and angry just for that question so he knew he was rumbled.
In the end I did meet somebody and he's lovely. My kind of person. 😊
Been catfished once before 🙈. Picked a girl up for a date only for her to look nothing like any of her pictures so drove round in a square and dropped her off 😂 within 5 mins
Not quite catfished but went on a date with a guy whose pics were about 3 stone out of date. I have no problem with bigger guys but he looked completely different and it just felt duplicitous!
But I do now have a cool ice breaker when I'm chatting to guys... they have to sent me a selfie doing something a bit weird so I know it's them. Favourite ones inc winking with their tongue out while holding a spoon or attempting my party trick of getting their fist in their mouth.... something they wouldn't have ordinarily on their phone 😂