I’m back on one a day - I think I need a week off
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@anna.michelsburg I gotta say that the reads you have posted have been fantastic. When I see them pop up in the list of unreads, it is my first choice for the day. Being in North America I am about 6-8 hours behind the post, but I thoroughly enjoy them and, in a way, live vicariously through you.
However, as our friends seem to struggle with their marriages, split, divorce or get sick with cancer or different diseases, Mrs. Val and I have had more than the usual conversations of what we would choose in our lives if the other wasn’t there. This may be more of a new post topic, but I wanted to give you my take if the shoe were on the other foot.
Please do not take this the wrong way as it is just my take, and more of a compliment of what you have beenable to accomplish so far in your challenge in the face of adversity due to preconceived attitudes and ideas :
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As a mid-40’s male, I think the ability to work your way into casual sex as a female is about 100% easier (if not more than that) than for a man to do the same thing. There is a definite stigma for some guy to chat up every woman that is sitting alone at a bar and then try to take her home with no real plans for commitment, but only to count holes that he has been in over a period of time. I think you definitely have a leg up on any male who tried to do the same thing with no real collateral damage, so great work with your honesty and your find in a man who you trust with your story - I think that is fantastic.
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I think many men would have grabbed some beer, sat on the couch and let their life turn to shit. You went the other way with your plan, and although everything has consequences, your work to stay off the couch and do something completely different is admirable. Being that my sex drive is fairly high, I can’t see it being any less if I wasn’t with a mate. I think I would be inclined to move in a similar direction as you which would come with it’s own hard work. Getting to the gym, keeping yourself focused and your head high would be tough for anyone. But the alternative to try to reverse course on a downward spiral which you could have chosen, is probably more work.
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Writing this, it seems predatory if a man were to be writing what is written here in this blog, yet Anna gets complimented on her scores - so I do think there is a definite double-standard - again, no offense and I’m not looking to insult anyone, I just think a male would take more heat and have far less pining readers. I’m not complaining, but I think there is a stigma if the role was reversed. That being said, If I were in a similar situation, I think I would be extremely strategic with my choices of women who I would target (sounds terrible, but I think that is what exactly was done here). I know and have met many women (most of them are single for one reason or another), professionals, no children or grown children who are looking for some sort of redemption. I think women as a whole have been given the short end of the stick on jobs, financial pay and power, and I think those women would be my focus for a long term relationship. These women are driven, know what they want, want to be respected and want to show that they are powerful and in control. I could use a sugar momma who just wants someone at their beck and call - in fact, I would probably line up a few of these to keep in different cities.
I think I would also split it into 3 groups where I would spend my time in a similar pursuit:
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Tinder style quick flings - These would be the ladies (young or older) who would be like Anna, simply looking for a quick fling and likely adding up a score of some sort. I think there are many younger women who are tired of the pretty boys with no money who still live at home and are looking to see what it would be like to have a relationship with a professional man (one who has money, a home, a car, and can actually buy dinners with cash and not their daddy’s credit card) I would work this about 20-30% of the time
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Fantasy style hook ups - These would be harder to land and likely have the most baggage. I can think of 3-4 women who would see other people in a heartbeat if shown some affection and attention. I don’t want my stuff destroyed by their hubbies or “boyfriends”, but would have to be chosen with a sniper’s focus and worked methodically to ensure the damage to me would be minimal. I think this would be about 60% of my focus and I think would be the most adventurous and daring of the three. It would be a long term plan and although I would have nothing to hide, they would be the wild card in the relationship and would ultimately be the fly in the ointment for long term success. I think you would need a few of these happening at a time to find any enjoyment in the process
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Finally I think I would want to wander into the unknown. You touched on the “snowball” concept in your adventures and I think I would want to be dominated by someone who would take me places I have never been and do things that aren’t “Vanilla”. I would have a few items that I would want to explore, and with some travel and the right connections, this would be the most intriguing to me. Participating in 3-somes or more, bondage and things that I have only read about, would be on my list. I would want to be shown who, what and how by someone who was open to it, and go down a rabbit hole into a bit of a parallel universe which is fully detached from real life. I would dedicate about 10% of my search for this but I think it would take about 80% of my free time.
I would still need to work and be in touch with family as well as keep some time for myself as I could see this becoming exhausting just trying to keep it all straight.
Sorry for the long winded post. I guess I just reminisce a little on what could have been and/or if I had the chance again like you, Anna, what I would try and not regret. I do like that you are still open to adventure and think it’s great that you have found a good friend.
All the best!
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@anna.michelsburg as a late comer to this thread(literally read it from start to finish this afternoon) i must say fair play to you, you’ve done what i would’ve liked to have done in my post marriage years.
A very entertaining read indeed 
Ps very jealous of garden builder boy 
Ive spent ages reading @anna.michelsburg 's posts and i have to say i am a FAN.
Wish i could meet a girl like that but i think its hard finding someone whos as slutty as me or down for the kinkiest stuff while being at an arms length… i dont know, think i need fwb but im struggling to find one.
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Go for guys , you could have one a day
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So, 10 months in to it and I think I am going to have to reluctantly call a line under things, I am going to fall short at about 8 weeks. I guess I can still accumulate points with Mark but Sophie has been dating her chap for most of this and things have progressed here and I feel that I need to draw this phase of my post-divorce life to a close and begin the Mark-phase, wherever that might end up.
I won’t get another “cock-a-weekie” year, it appears. And it was hopefully my last chance. It all seemed to easy then but kids, ex husbands, mortgages, jobs, wanting to find a new partner, and all of the emotional baggage that being the (very) wrong side of thirty brings have made it harder than I expected.
I don’t think I did too badly though and I have to confess to a fair helping of smugness - still got it!
I also love looking back, from the geekiness of the two economics graduates trying to come up with the most complicated scoring system possible for what was, after all, just undoing the zip on a sports bra slightly and getting chatted up at the gym.
It is also interesting that Mark appeared very early on, one of the first few Bumble dates and I have to admit to having forgotten when he appeared and reading through as reminded me that he was actually one of my first proper dates after my divorce which, I can’t say why, but is lovely even if I have fucked a lot of others between then and now.
Other highlights are the milf thing with the gardener which is a bit cringeworthy, I am sure that there are lots of other milf notches on his fence post, probably at the same time as me, but getting my tits out in the garden for a man 10 years younger than me and then sucking him off was probably the moment I knew that the Anna I wanted back, from the university hockey tours, could be found if I looked for her.
The thing I am most proud of, though, was the creampie for Mark. That was the perfect essence of what I wanted this year to be, getting my mojo back and being in control. As feelings have become stronger and more complicated with Mark I have not been able to repeat that. I think we will in the future but I love looking back on that morning - if only to show that I can happily separate being fucked by some gardener and making love to a man whom I have come to care very much about.
I have a few people who have contacted me off here and it is lovely to keep in touch. I am not sure if I will post again but you are very welcome to say hi here Edited: Please remember sharing contact details is against the forum rules - again, I can’t recall if this is allowed or not, or whether you are just not allowed to post proper links. If I have just broken a little rule, sorry, I will edit as soon as you let me know. But I have broken lots of other rules by accident, not least a full topless shot on my profile for weeks which no one thought to mention!
So what of the future. Well, the June holiday with Sophie is all booked. I have talked to Mark about it truthfully and I think I have negotiated a sort of ‘pass’ for the week. He is confident and mature enough to know that girlie holiday sex is meaningless and if it happens it will soon be forgotten. Sophie, on the other hand is not making similar progress with her chap … we will have to see how that all plays out.
But, in summary, my mojo is back. So, the year has been a success and I easily passed 52 points but got nowhere near 52 cocks. The question now for me is whether I will ever fuck 100 men which, in a very immature sense, is still something of a target.
I will keep an eye on here and respond to questions and comments but I am not sure that I will have too many updates.
So, not really signing off, but more a downgrading and semi retirement, if that is OK?
A bientôt
Anna
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@anna.michelsburg sorry to say, but contact details can’t be shared.
Look after yourself and thanks for the many brilliantly written posts!
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Good luck in tge furtue and enjoy all the fun
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It is so nice to get an update on your situation and I am so pleased that things seem to be working out for you. You have been a great asset to the forum and I think everyone will miss your updates. I wish you all the best with the future and I hope all your wishes come true. Thank you for the updates and the very interesting experiences. @anna.michelsburg
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Thanks for taking us on the ride with you @anna.michelsburg. Loved every minute of it!
@anna.michelsburg
Thanks very much for letting us join you on this journey, have loved reading the insights from yourself (and others). Just a little to add to your smugness hat, you’re writing skills are excellent, and kept everyone patiently waiting on the next installments. Also a testament to your honesty shining through too.
So yes, a big thank you for me, and really hope that Anna & Mark works out for you, and your recent journey gives you the confidence to chase your dreams in that sense - it certainly sounds like you do not need to settle for second best!
Take care, and look forward to reading future posts, whatever they may be!
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I think you have expressed things spot on. @anna.michelsburg has brightened up the forum, excellent writing, honest and I am so pleased she has hopefully found happiness.
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Hi @anna.michelsburg
I have read every post on this thread, and as others have said, (for me) it’s been a amazing read. I’ve had a few laughs along the way and your writing skills are worthy of any blog!
I am happy for you and Mark and I really hope things work out.
This is not “Goodbye”, but hopefully “See you later”… We are always here for a chat 
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The last hurrah should be the holiday post to end all posts.
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Apologies everyone, I know you enjoy this thread. However this is the second time contact details have been shared.
So, due to repeated breaking of the forum rules, I am closing this thread.
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