I am looking for advice on how I can maximize my wife’s enjoyment when I am giving her oral. Is there a special dildo or other toy you use during oral that you would recommend to make those sessions even more enjoyable for my wife. Thanks, and absolutely love this forum!
Use fingers on the gspot.
Try a gspot vibrator
Vibrating butt plug.
Lick inside her and a bullet on her clit
For a few
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I second all the above! 
Plus a vibrating egg would be another option. LH offer a few to choose from. One with a remote offers additional fun.
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My wife loves it if I use a bit of suction, especially on her clit.
I find that building her up slowly by kissing all over her pussy and mons, gently sucking her outer and inner labia, and long slow gentle strokes of the tongue work for her.
It’s taken years of trial and error, but now she can’t get enough…and I’m not complaining 
I love to please.
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Talk to her, communication is the only way to get to the answer, ask her what more you can do to her body ask her to teach you what makes an orgasm that goes off like fireworks and in stead turn it into rockets that launch you into space.
Rimming
Gentle bites
Long drawn out suction on the labia or clit
Nipple play
Anal play
Are all possible options.
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I would recommend taking things slowly - start up with the flat of your tongue and then gradually move up and down concentrating on the clit over labia
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Have you tried asking her?
I can tell you in great detail what my wife loves, but not all women are the same or enjoy the same things.
Eg some women love direct clit stimulation, but some have way too much sensitivity for that.
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Afternoon 50 years together I finally got her to talk to me during oral and it turns out that, while I was close enough for jazz, there was still room for improvement so my best advice would be to ask her exactly what she likes.
Having said that her specific likes and needs do differ day to day so my go to technique if we’re struggling is to alternate a few minutes of licking with 2 or 3 minutes with a wand on her clitoris. That works every time
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There are a few topics on oral including this one but ultimately everyone is different. My partner is complicated, sometimes she likes gentle clit teasing and other times she likes rough. Likewise some days butt play combined with oral can give her very powerful orgasms and other days teasing her butt will dull her mood. I’d suggest you read this post and others but ultimately listen to her feedback and tells, moans or movements, experiment adding toys and combined play, butt, vagina breasts or any other body part she enjoys being touched.
My first thought was no toys, I love oral all on its own, until I read @Craig1234’s comment about the butt plug. This would amp it up a bit for me, but I love the intimacy of him licking, sucking, nibbling me and he does it so well that I wouldn’t want a vibrator distracting me. I try to focus on the feeling rather than just thinking about the orgasm. Before adding any toys, experiment yourself with how you give oral.
Have a read of this for suggestions 
Oral Sex Superbowl
There will be posts for oral sex on a penis but you can always get some tips that are transferable.
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Think there’s like a toy you can get that’s like a flickering tongue 
which might be of interest for some double action!
Moan softly, like she’s the tastiest thing you’ve ever tasted. My husband moans, I moan 10x louder. It does great things for her confidence, which can in turn increase her arousal. Good luck!
In all my years I have never had any luck with flickering tongue vibrators, they annoy the hell out of me. Horses for courses, I guess 
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I use mine as a little appetizer before getting the real toys out. It would never get me to orgasm.
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There are chin-mounted dildos that are for penetration while giving oral stimulation. Used properly, they can be a lot of fun, although a bit silly in appearance.
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That’s going to depend a lot on your wife’s personal preferences, obviously, but I can share some of the things I do/include when going down on her.
- As a preamble to any other inclusions, I always start simple: broad tongue strokes up and down her full vulva and not giving direct attention her clit (or adding anything else) until she’s warmed up and desensitized a little bit. If I go straight for the clit she gets ticklish.
- Fingers: Include one or two fingers for some pressure on her g-spot. I never go in dry (either lube or sucking on my fingers a couple times just to moisten them) and I start by just inserting them with a light upward pressure. A little stroking/“come hither”/thrusting comes later as she gets more aroused. Her g-spot is like her clit - going directly at it without warm up she finds unpleasant and distracting, but if I ease into it she enjoys it and it’s not a shock.
- Dildo: (vibrating or non). My wife prefers to be penetrated when she cums, either from me or a toy - her vagina likes to have something to squeeze against or else the orgasm feels empty for her.
- Vibrator: g-spot vibe or the like. You can use internally or play externally around her labia and clit. There was a while that I was using a rabbit pretty regularly during oral and the vibrating nub exterior would catch just under her clit while I licked over the top and drove her crazy. A wand on the base of an inserted dildo can be very effective.
- Edging: have fun playing with the tease and denial. Get her right to the edge, then stop, back up, blow gently around her vulva or kiss her hips and thighs. Sometimes I use edging breaks as a time to slide in PIV, or face- or titty-fucking until I’m about to blow, then get back to it. I like lining up all our dildos for use, starting with the smallest and moving up to the next size after every break. Pauses during edging are also a great time for me to talk dirty to my wife, since it’s tough when my mouth is full of her pussy - especially important if she’s restrained and I’m supposed to be in dominant mode, she likes the degrading dirty talk to remind her that I’m going down on her from a position of power and desire, not subservience.
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Share the love between her clit and her vagina. If your tongue gets tired, try sucking on her clit to keep things going. You can also try using toys. Our go to is the womaniser suction toy, or you could try something like the Wevibe Jive (vibrating egg toy) that will stimulate her G spot while you lick her.
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The idea of them make me giggle 