Thanks for the advice, it's all been rock solid stuff.
I think we'd have to play around with the sub dom topic, and I get where you are coming from, and thinking about it - it doesn't have to be chains and whips does it?
"More sexy at 50" Feel for you chap, think you have it worse than me!
It's difficult when you commit to love but that essential ingredient is missing.
I often wake up and say to myself "move on", I don't want to spend the rest of my life bargaining to feel loved? Or just to be touched in bed at night, not necessarily in a sexual way either.
A hug, a kiss, a placed hand on my side. Little tokens of affection that don't cost nothing.
I don't want to feel like this, marriage is for life. But marriage must work both ways.
Pains me when I see women who's OH don't show them affection, buys them flowers for birthday or valentines day etc. But not at any other times.
Women are delicate flowers that need nurturing every day of the year.
Why can't it be a boring Wednesday afternoon when you buy them flowers, or Pandora jewellery.
They've had a hard day at work too, run them a bath, with candles and smellies, followed by a meal and perhaps a massage - but no sex! You are doing it for them remember!
Listen to her when she tells you about her day.
Post it notes around the kitchen with love messages, write poems, send texts.
Most important, wake up EVERY day with a smile and tell her how beautiful she is, how much you love her.
You wouldn't treat her bad or neglect her in the first weeks of meeting her would you? So why do it later when you supposedly love her more? If you don't give her love and attention, someone else will!
I try to be the perfect OH every single day, don't always get it right, I'm not perfect. But I try.
It's just a shame that after I put so much effort into our relationship, that I get so little back.
It is true that Nice Guys Finish Last.