Luckily Mrs T already well down this road when we met up, fabbie, doesn't much mind which l slip into, sometimes get there unintentionally, heaven !!
Would think girl on top preferable to a right royal and unexpected bum fuck by horny stud, get to take it at own pace then!!
TB
Actually yes. I just posted a thread about a guide that helped me overcome any anal problems. It's at http://tns.bbssm.com and it's called TheNastyStallion's Guide to Maximum Anal Accommodation. Give it a good read and practice and you'll do fine!
what a great guide.. love that nasty stallion...
the best way to help you out on theis problem is to by some putt plugs of diffrent sizes or better still buy a blow up butt plug.use plendy of lube and be carefull how you insurt it.once in pump it up to you feel comfortable with it and leave it in for about an hour.this will give your anus time to to except the plug.and it will also strech out your anus.try it every day for about a week each time pump the plug up i little bit more than the night before.by this time your anus will take larger items.when you are ready to have anal with you partner.get ready about an hour berfore your love making.also making shure that your anus is lubed enogh
then you will ba able to take him with out any pain.REMBER THE FIRST GOLDEN RULE IS TO RELAX.AND DONT TENCE UP OR IT WILL BE PAIN FULL .JUST ENJOY YOUR ANAL..AND THE MORE YOU DO IT THE BETTER IT WILL GET
GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH
kinkylove wrote:
the best way to help you out on theis problem is to [...] buy a blow up butt plug. [...] it will also strech out your anus. [...] then you will ba able to take him with out any pain.
By the way, the anus pretty much remains the same with most inflatable butt plugs, because most of those plugs expand inside the rectum, past the anus. The rectum has few nerve endings and aside from a feeling of fullness, the rectum itself is fairly devoid of sensation. Most of the nerve endings are in the anus, so that is where almost all of the sensations of anal sex are felt, including pain. So your initial experiences of anal sex are likely to remain the same no matter how much you use an inflatable butt plug at the beginning.
Many beginnings can be a challenge.
Ok, I'll stop now, that's my cheery note for the day. :p
Taking it up the dung chute is a challenge that requires patience & practice. It's well worth all the effort required. Rush & you hurt yourself, spoil the experience & be put off for life. Start small & work up until you a happy, relaxed & confident your partner should be no different to your toys.
My partner and I decided we would both like to try anal sex and ordered the smoothly anal prober. It arrived yesterday and he rushed home from work so we could try it out. He was a little unsure and so we decided to try it on my first. It was quite painful at first while using the beads and we almost gave up as I didn't want to be in agony for the rest of the night!! Instead he suggested turning it around and using the other end. I cringed a bit at the thought of it cause it is bigger than the beads but I found because it was smoother that it went in easier. As to be expected there were a vew occassions were he pushed a little too hard too quick and caused me to yelp but as soon as i did he would pull out and we would start again. I found it best when I was on all fours and he was behind me. I decided to use my silver bullet to stimulate my clit and this took my mind off the dildo.
It was still a little bit uncomfortable but got the both of us very worked up. I'm still a little bit apprehensive about doing it again though. I hoping that it will just take time for me to get used to it.
aww bri_n_sus
it does just take time, the first time i found it slightly painful, since then though it increasingly got better and i do sometimes prefer it up the arse ()
staying relaxed is the key, and if you dont get on with it and you really still want to, have you tried the de sensitizing sprays/lubes you can buy off here? could help you out
PPB
xx
Thanks PPB we haven't tried any of those lubes, I had never even heard of them until I started readin this forum!!! We are kind of new to this sort of thing
We are going to kep trying cause it is something we want. But I just am not sure if i'll be able too. Although after reading so many of the post I am starting to realise it should get easier with time and pratice, I'm pretty sure it will be well worth it in the end!!
Gotta say - half way there tonight.....an loving it all the way.
Not gonna be long till he takes me Im sure. Cos hes just realised what DP can do for me.
Grrr....
Well sadly my last post on this issue was the first and last encounter. Partly due to be knackered all the time and partly because the thought of it being sore is putting me off. I do know that it is something I want because that one time did give me a lil taster and I feel it could be amazing for us but i just do not know how to relax.
Can anyone give me any advice as to how to prepare myself so that when I'm with my OH i'm more ready for it. He is away for the weekend and I'm home alone so I think it would be good if I could surprise him when he gets home???
Well on your own is probably the best place to start :)
Pick a time you're truly relaxed, after a hot bath works for me. Use just your finger for now, lots of lube and go slowly. Stop if you feel yourself tensing and wait for it to pass. Once you are used to this a slim butt plug could be the next step. Then when you DO start with your partner, start the same way, fingers first, no need to rush into the whole thing first time. I think it was literally months between the first time we played and actual full anal, and yes I was probably ready sooner, but it was a good thing we built up to it. Just make sure he knows you are setting the pace.
We did give it another try last night. He used his finger and it felt really good. But when he used the toy I lost the enjoyment. I just wasn't doing anything for me. Also we have only tried it with him behind me on all fours but it is very impersonal and I like to have facial contact and be able to kiss and stuff. So basically I am finding it hard to get interested in doing it again. But the OH really likes it.
HELP!!!!!!!
Think I might give that a whirl at some point, what I really need know it a good hard seeing too, to get me back in the mood!!!!!
Honestly, in your shoes I would say forget full anal sex for a little while, as getting worked up will lead to tension and that is the last thing you need. Like you said, just get a good seeing to lol - then next time use fingers there perhaps during sex for a while, just that or similar and I'm sure in time it will follow naturally. You'll know when to try again. If you get too hung up on it, it wont help.
There are more cosy/intimate ways hun - spooning is good, but if you're flexible enough to lift your legs high there is no reason why you cant do a missionary-style position for it. i love the thought of that, looking at my fella while he has his way :D
bri_n_sus wrote:
Think I might give that a whirl at some point, what I really need know it a good hard seeing too, to get me back in the mood!!!!! External Media
I'd be wary of the "on top" bit, things tend to tighten up in that position.
I'm going to echo bigbrown here; spoons or on your back, legs high with a pillow under your lower back is probably the best to keep some intimacy.
Thanks to to you both. Decided that being on top would be too awkward and also have decided to slow it down a bit and let it happen when we are ready I was so busy trying to please that it was getting me all tense and I wasn't getting to enjoy anything!!!!
I'm a bit on the heavier side so sometimes spoons is awkward for me, but like the sound of lying on my back with my legs up then I would be able to watch his face and see the enjoyment!!!!
Hey :) I'm big too, and I find lifting the top leg high and having the fella higher up on the bed than me makes spooning easier ;)
... well, for anal teasing/sex at least for vaginal i find him lower down the bed easier. it can be done, experiment till you figure what works for you :)
Thanks so much for the tip would haven't thought of such things myself but now I'll know next time i get lucky what to try!!!!!
