Any tips on how to get my wife to try anal sex, I’ve bought lube, anal beads and even tried to get her to try with my finger but she won’t put anything up there as she’s afraid it’ll hurt too much. Any tips to get her comfortable with this so we can both enjoy it. She has an amazing ass by the way edited by mod
What’s good for the goose is good for the gander springs to mind… maybe your wife would be more willing if you both experiment together?
If she’s really not comfortable with experimenting with toys or trying anal sex then you will have to accept it though, it’s not for everyone.
I have offered to try it with her or for her to use something (not too big) on me first.
Mate it will take a while from starting out to going to pound town. Ultimately it will be up to her, I started with just a good butt massage with a lot of lube, then work your way down to her hole, just playing around the outside.
Let her control anything going in. We started by just spooning with her pushing it in just a little bit and letting it just sit therefore a bit.
Other way was surfing heavy clit play a little bit of anal was alright as her mind was not concentrating on her butt as much and it added to to orgasm.
It is a long term goal try of thing, start crazy slow, if you go quickly, she will not be ready, not like it and you won’t get to play again for a while.
Play for the long game and ensure she is actually enjoying each step you move forward with.
A good silicon lube may help too.
Thanks for the tips I’ll definitely give it a try. In my stupidity I was trying to rush it a bit
Anal sex is the choice of the person who arse it is! You can’t make someone do anal because you want it, buying lube, toys and putting your finger where she doesn’t want it definitely won’t make her want to try! You can only suggest and if she says no then that’s your answer. If she’s interested she’ll let you know and she’ll take the lead! You won’t get her to try something she doesn’t want to do and it’s wrong to try against her wishes!!
I get your point and I promise I’m not forcing her to try it against her will, I’m merely suggesting we try it, yes it’s more for my benefit but maybe she’ll like it. She’s my wife we’ve been together for a long time and I love her very much so would never do anything she didn’t agree to and was comfortable with
She won’t like it straight up, she will need weeks and months working towards it. Some times you might only get a minute in there slowly moving, then you move on taken me a while to get to that point. She once tried to just put up with it and give me a full go as she is a very nice person. But it did not work for either of us. Now we go slow and when it is not nice we stop. I get a lot more anal play now then I used to.
@Horny_Happy_Husband Doesn’t matter if “maybe she’ll like it” My Misses instigated anal in our sexlife, wasnt my idea, then it was at her speed and her time scale! Only when she was ready could we even try any sort of penetration! You can only suggest but then you’ve got to wait till she wants to and is prepared to and comfortable too, if she says no any kind of repetitive suggestions will only make things worse. You got to leave it to her! If you’ve lit a fire in her arse it might happen! If not then that’s your answer, anal is not for everyone and looked at by many as a no way sex.
May I ask why you like anal more? Is it able to hit the g spot at all or are you adding more things to your anal play. Does it change if your playing solo?
The misses is ok with it, but doesn’t seem to gain that much pleasure from it alone. Or I’m just doing it wrong in a bad position I guess.
I do feel anal gets put up as an all mighty some times, I have not found it to be that much better then regular sex, I’m usually too worried about hurting her to get that into it. I’d take regular sex any day, but there is a mental aspect for me that seems to be the allure of anal play, plus I like her butt.
Best tip: if your wife says no, respect that.
The more you suggest it and push it, the more she is going to say no. She knows you have an interest in trying so you’ve done all you can do. Let her think about it in her own time and in her own way. Maybe at some point she’ll decide she wants to try it or maybe she won’t.
Not everyone is into everything and that’s ok. You can have a fantastic sex life without having tried everything.
If you are that interested in anal, I’d suggest exploring your own butt. Not in a “I’ll do it if you will” kind of way. Simply for your own pleasure (solo if she doesn’t want anything to do with it). If at some point she does become curious, at least you’ll have a clue of what to do!
This is what we did and it has worked. I gave up bringing it up then one day she just said hey lets do anal. Had a small play and she was happy that it didn’t end up hurting at all. So now we do it a bit more.
I also tried to involve her in my anal play, but it seems like a huge turn off, as she feels guilty not being involved. So we keep that part solo for the time being. No one wins pushing things that the other doesn’t like.
@Toolman31 like @Justthe2ofus2007 My Wife loves anal more, we have anal 9 out of 10 times, for my Wife the sex is better and she’s guaranteed to cum everytime and her orgasms are so much stronger!! At first when she decided she wanted to try anal, about 10 years ago, my wife trained her arse with gradual sized plugs over a period of 6 months before we even tried, so much so I can’t hurt her, we can go very hard and long and she loves it. It always comes down to prep and lube.
Are you able to hit her g spot through the back. Or is this achieved by just anal alone?
@Toolman31, I don’t believe you hit the g-spot, I know from pegging that the anus ring is full of sensitive nerve endings, millions more than the vagina, that and as its a different position when doing anal cowboy so her clit is rubbing on a different part of my pelvic bone. These combined makes her cum so much stronger, it’s amazing to watch. She cums every time when we do anal cowboy.
Thanks for tips and suggestions. I guess I’ll just leave the topic alone and if she instigates it then great and if not I’ll just have to keep enjoying regular mind blowing sex
Sounds good, might be a few months before the misses is down with using me like a pogo stick lol
We will just have to keep putting the work in to get there one day.
I find there is ways you can get a bit of anal type of play in your mind. Good butt massage getting a few fingers closer in now and then, followed up with doggy position and you are most of the way there in your mind.
@Toolman31 Thats a good way to put it! My Misses can ride me like a porn star on a pogo stick She’s that use to it, not a very big pogo stick I might add!!