Are you ever more horny than your partner

@CurvyJilly dito :point_up_2:

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I have always had a higher sex drive than my wife but not to the extent that it disturbed our relationship and over the first 45 years of our marriage we worked with it and had a good sex life.

Over the last 2 years we have changed almost completely to a consensual male chastity female led sexual relationship with my orgasms being only at her discretion (every 3 - 6 weeks or so) and hers being as often as she wishes (a minimum of one every day and often more). As a result I am so horny that I am constantly buzzing and she is completely orgasmed out most of the time so yes, I am more horny than my partner but now it’s a designed in feature of our relationship rather than an unfortunate mismatch.

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Our sex drives were pretty similar when we first met, but over the space of almost 14 years, mainly I guess as a result of my self esteem being rock bottom, mine had dwindled to a point is was almost non-existant. I won’t lie, it hasn’t been easy on either of us, but it’s seen a massive improvement over the last month or so. I’m not quite in a position to match him, it’s very rarely he would ever turn it down, but it’s definitely on the increase!

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He’s always had a higher drive than me. We’ve been together a long time and I’ve never been particularly confident. I’ve worked on it and been more open to things he wants to do and it was improving. Then the last couple of months he hasnt shown any interest, which has knocked my confidence just as I was building on it.

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Sorry all as I have switched jobs and haven’t had a chance to come on and say hi.

Just got back from a trip to Hawaii and her sex drive was way up from usual which was a very welcome treat. I brought some lube and a bullet just in case and happy to say they “came” in handy.

I do have to say that she has started to pamper herself though for a change. She has been getting botox injections in her forehead for wrinkles, got hair extensions for our trip, has been going to the gym, etc. She is even starting to try on lingerie that has been sitting dormant for a long time.

I’m not saying that she should do any of these things, but when she wants to do things to herself to make herself feel prettier (her opinion and not mine) without me saying anything but noticing, she totally wants more sex and has come along way to initiating it for the first time in awhile.

What thing, event, or series of events makes you want to initiate sex?

I do everything I can to help with the kids, bring in extra monies and support her in any decisions she wants to look and feel her best, and I think it is working. She turns 44 this September but looks and feels a whole lot better than any of our early 40’s friends. I think she is starting to believe that she is attractive (finally)…

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Our sex drives are very similar. It’s not often one wants to play and the other doesn’t. It might me hardcore sex or it might just be mutual masturbation. Whatever it is, we always do it together and we always enjoy watching the other. We both get off on the other person getting off.

If she’s ever more horny than me, she just masturbates in front of me and I can’t resist. And vice versa. It’s a good system that works for both of us.

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Mine’s definitely higher than my wife’s. It was higher than my ex’s too ( which was why we split up ) .
She occasionally wants it , but most of the time she doesn’t. I think it’s down to her body confidence issues, but as I keep telling her , if I didn’t find her sexy , I wouldn’t want sex with her , why can’t she "get " that ?
I’m now at the stage of not bothering anymore ( I haven’t mentioned it for about 3 weeks ) . I’m not going to cheat on her , so I guess I’ll just have to accept a sexless marriage . I’ve reluctantly unsubcribed from Lovehoney , mainly to keepmy mind off it ( I still love this forum tho ) .
On the plus side, I wont be spending so much lol

Since moving back into my flat ive turned into a right horny devil .me and my wife are still together but i dont think we’ve done anything for about 3 months together :astonished::astonished: so i guess i can say im more horny out of the both of us :rofl::rofl:

I wouldn’t do that. :open_mouth: Make the most of your opportunity while you have the chance. :gift_heart:

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We both have moments when we arent at the same level and thats fine.
Its something we’re working for mutual benefit.

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Frequently. In the past, my GF was more interested. But her interest has slowed a bit after having 5 kids :smiley: She’s only interested maybe 2-3x per day. Me…I’d take it every hour if it was offered.

I’d say that Mrs P is more horny than me, she would have us do something every night. I’m more around three to four per week. And that’s not having an orgasm or cumming every time.

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I would say that Joe masturbates more than I do but I like to have more sex.

All of our life together, but we’ve found a way to make it work for 48 years now with no resentment or frustration.

I find we are both very sexual but he is well more kinky than I am - but I’m happy to learn

My sex drive varies with my cycle. I’m hornier than him at the end of my period but most of the time he is hornier, however I’m the one making the sexy suggestions of what I like or he wants. :sunglasses:

Definitely I am way more horny than my partner.