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I have always had a higher sex drive than my wife but not to the extent that it disturbed our relationship and over the first 45 years of our marriage we worked with it and had a good sex life.
Over the last 2 years we have changed almost completely to a consensual male chastity female led sexual relationship with my orgasms being only at her discretion (every 3 - 6 weeks or so) and hers being as often as she wishes (a minimum of one every day and often more). As a result I am so horny that I am constantly buzzing and she is completely orgasmed out most of the time so yes, I am more horny than my partner but now itās a designed in feature of our relationship rather than an unfortunate mismatch.
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Our sex drives were pretty similar when we first met, but over the space of almost 14 years, mainly I guess as a result of my self esteem being rock bottom, mine had dwindled to a point is was almost non-existant. I wonāt lie, it hasnāt been easy on either of us, but itās seen a massive improvement over the last month or so. Iām not quite in a position to match him, itās very rarely he would ever turn it down, but itās definitely on the increase!
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Heās always had a higher drive than me. Weāve been together a long time and Iāve never been particularly confident. Iāve worked on it and been more open to things he wants to do and it was improving. Then the last couple of months he hasnt shown any interest, which has knocked my confidence just as I was building on it.
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Sorry all as I have switched jobs and havenāt had a chance to come on and say hi.
Just got back from a trip to Hawaii and her sex drive was way up from usual which was a very welcome treat. I brought some lube and a bullet just in case and happy to say they ācameā in handy.
I do have to say that she has started to pamper herself though for a change. She has been getting botox injections in her forehead for wrinkles, got hair extensions for our trip, has been going to the gym, etc. She is even starting to try on lingerie that has been sitting dormant for a long time.
Iām not saying that she should do any of these things, but when she wants to do things to herself to make herself feel prettier (her opinion and not mine) without me saying anything but noticing, she totally wants more sex and has come along way to initiating it for the first time in awhile.
What thing, event, or series of events makes you want to initiate sex?
I do everything I can to help with the kids, bring in extra monies and support her in any decisions she wants to look and feel her best, and I think it is working. She turns 44 this September but looks and feels a whole lot better than any of our early 40ās friends. I think she is starting to believe that she is attractive (finally)ā¦
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Our sex drives are very similar. Itās not often one wants to play and the other doesnāt. It might me hardcore sex or it might just be mutual masturbation. Whatever it is, we always do it together and we always enjoy watching the other. We both get off on the other person getting off.
If sheās ever more horny than me, she just masturbates in front of me and I canāt resist. And vice versa. Itās a good system that works for both of us.
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Mineās definitely higher than my wifeās. It was higher than my exās too ( which was why we split up ) .
She occasionally wants it , but most of the time she doesnāt. I think itās down to her body confidence issues, but as I keep telling her , if I didnāt find her sexy , I wouldnāt want sex with her , why canāt she "get " that ?
Iām now at the stage of not bothering anymore ( I havenāt mentioned it for about 3 weeks ) . Iām not going to cheat on her , so I guess Iāll just have to accept a sexless marriage . Iāve reluctantly unsubcribed from Lovehoney , mainly to keepmy mind off it ( I still love this forum tho ) .
On the plus side, I wont be spending so much lol
Since moving back into my flat ive turned into a right horny devil .me and my wife are still together but i dont think weāve done anything for about 3 months together 
so i guess i can say im more horny out of the both of us 
I wouldnāt do that. 
Make the most of your opportunity while you have the chance. 
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We both have moments when we arent at the same level and thats fine.
Its something weāre working for mutual benefit.
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Frequently. In the past, my GF was more interested. But her interest has slowed a bit after having 5 kids 
Sheās only interested maybe 2-3x per day. Meā¦Iād take it every hour if it was offered.
I would say that Joe masturbates more than I do but I like to have more sex.
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All of our life together, but weāve found a way to make it work for 48 years now with no resentment or frustration.
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I find we are both very sexual but he is well more kinky than I am - but Iām happy to learn
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My sex drive varies with my cycle. Iām hornier than him at the end of my period but most of the time he is hornier, however Iām the one making the sexy suggestions of what I like or he wants. 
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Definitely I am way more horny than my partner.
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Absolutely never. 
My wonderful husband would be ready at a momentās notice. However kids/hormones/joint pain/exhaustion/etc means Iām more likely to be ready for bed. Iām trying though but luckily he understands and there is no pressure or anything. I think itās more common than not to be on different pages libido wise.
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It hurts to get knocked back.
45yo m/f straight couple ā¦ Iām definitely the one wanting more, while my OH seems happy with an orgasm every week or so.
It can be very challenging. We donāt have kids, I work early and do most of the household stuff in the afternoon while sheās still working. We hang out, have great laughs, have date nights ā¦ everything any advice column would suggest I do, Iām already doing it.
So it turns out my high, obvious desire for activity is, in part, what has pushed her into her shell. Iām giving her space atm in the hope it will allow her to feel her own desire, instead of reacting to mine.
ā¦ I canāt help but think now and then how crazy she is - our sex is great, and she says sheās never had such great orgasms. Iād dine at her glorious temple daily if she wanted, but some nights sheād rather watch tv or do a jigsaw puzzle than have her loving hubby go downtown.
I know sheās NOT crazy ā¦ but you know?
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Iām way more horny than my wife. I like to cum every day. Most days I do cum at least once a day. Some days twice and the occasional day off. I like a long porn watch sex toys on myself solo session late morning early afternoon. Then I like evening sex and playtime with my wife. I could have sex every day but she likes it every other day so probably 2 to 3 times a week with her.
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Yes. My sex drive is huge. Always has been. Even though we have sex a lot, I still see other men and use toys. The need is almost constant for me.
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