Sorry all as I have switched jobs and haven’t had a chance to come on and say hi.
Just got back from a trip to Hawaii and her sex drive was way up from usual which was a very welcome treat. I brought some lube and a bullet just in case and happy to say they “came” in handy.
I do have to say that she has started to pamper herself though for a change. She has been getting botox injections in her forehead for wrinkles, got hair extensions for our trip, has been going to the gym, etc. She is even starting to try on lingerie that has been sitting dormant for a long time.
I’m not saying that she should do any of these things, but when she wants to do things to herself to make herself feel prettier (her opinion and not mine) without me saying anything but noticing, she totally wants more sex and has come along way to initiating it for the first time in awhile.
What thing, event, or series of events makes you want to initiate sex?
I do everything I can to help with the kids, bring in extra monies and support her in any decisions she wants to look and feel her best, and I think it is working. She turns 44 this September but looks and feels a whole lot better than any of our early 40’s friends. I think she is starting to believe that she is attractive (finally)…
Our sex drives are very similar. It’s not often one wants to play and the other doesn’t. It might me hardcore sex or it might just be mutual masturbation. Whatever it is, we always do it together and we always enjoy watching the other. We both get off on the other person getting off.
If she’s ever more horny than me, she just masturbates in front of me and I can’t resist. And vice versa. It’s a good system that works for both of us.
Mine’s definitely higher than my wife’s. It was higher than my ex’s too ( which was why we split up ) .
She occasionally wants it , but most of the time she doesn’t. I think it’s down to her body confidence issues, but as I keep telling her , if I didn’t find her sexy , I wouldn’t want sex with her , why can’t she "get " that ?
I’m now at the stage of not bothering anymore ( I haven’t mentioned it for about 3 weeks ) . I’m not going to cheat on her , so I guess I’ll just have to accept a sexless marriage . I’ve reluctantly unsubcribed from Lovehoney , mainly to keepmy mind off it ( I still love this forum tho ) .
On the plus side, I wont be spending so much lol
Since moving back into my flat ive turned into a right horny devil .me and my wife are still together but i dont think we’ve done anything for about 3 months together so i guess i can say im more horny out of the both of us
Frequently. In the past, my GF was more interested. But her interest has slowed a bit after having 5 kids She’s only interested maybe 2-3x per day. Me…I’d take it every hour if it was offered.
My sex drive varies with my cycle. I’m hornier than him at the end of my period but most of the time he is hornier, however I’m the one making the sexy suggestions of what I like or he wants.
Absolutely never. My wonderful husband would be ready at a moment’s notice. However kids/hormones/joint pain/exhaustion/etc means I’m more likely to be ready for bed. I’m trying though but luckily he understands and there is no pressure or anything. I think it’s more common than not to be on different pages libido wise.
45yo m/f straight couple … I’m definitely the one wanting more, while my OH seems happy with an orgasm every week or so.
It can be very challenging. We don’t have kids, I work early and do most of the household stuff in the afternoon while she’s still working. We hang out, have great laughs, have date nights … everything any advice column would suggest I do, I’m already doing it.
So it turns out my high, obvious desire for activity is, in part, what has pushed her into her shell. I’m giving her space atm in the hope it will allow her to feel her own desire, instead of reacting to mine.
… I can’t help but think now and then how crazy she is - our sex is great, and she says she’s never had such great orgasms. I’d dine at her glorious temple daily if she wanted, but some nights she’d rather watch tv or do a jigsaw puzzle than have her loving hubby go downtown.
I’m way more horny than my wife. I like to cum every day. Most days I do cum at least once a day. Some days twice and the occasional day off. I like a long porn watch sex toys on myself solo session late morning early afternoon. Then I like evening sex and playtime with my wife. I could have sex every day but she likes it every other day so probably 2 to 3 times a week with her.
My OH has a baby last year and she is still recovering (hormones etc) so sex has been few and far between and always a quickie while im over here still feeling 21 ha
I know it will take time for her to be back to herself so night’s spent jerking off are helping
She’s only interested maybe 2-3x per day. Me…I’d take it every hour if it was offered.
My wonderful husband would be ready at a moment’s notice. However kids/hormones/joint pain/exhaustion/etc means I’m more likely to be ready for bed. I’m trying though but luckily he understands and there is no pressure or anything. I think it’s more common than not to be on different pages libido wise.