My boyfriend of nearly two years has finally asked me to start taking pictures for him (which I have done), swollow and let him 'finish' on my face and body. I knew the day would come.
I'm quite a self concious but proud person. I wouldn't mind trying to swollow for him, but I am severly uncomfortable with him 'finishing' on my face and body.
I feel its degrading and revolting. I love using toys and games with him, but with this its different. I am a very proud and strong woman, and detest the idea of becoming just 'something to jizz on'.
What are your ideas? And would you have any tips to overcome this fear and worry?
My take on it is if you don't like it and you say *severly* and you've tried it out but still do not severly like letting him do it, then don't! You let him do it, so you've give it a go, made your mind up you don't like it so he should respect your wishes that you don't want to do it! If you want to do it for him again I can only suggest having some Baby wipes to hand to clean up afterwards or immediate shower. Myself and my OH will try anything twice. If one isn't happy about it we respect their wishes.
As SG says as far as I am concerned if you dont like it and dont want to do it then dont do it, your not going to get any enjoyment out of it so why should you let him do it. Some people don't mind when guys do this to them (me included) but that doesn't mean that everyone will like it or should do it. Talk to him, explain that its something that you don't want to do, just cos you have been with him 2 years doesn't mean you have to do stuff just cos he wants it.
I agree with the others, it's fair enough to try it out but if you don't like it, have good reasons not to like it, and get no enjoyment out of it, then he shouldn't put pressure on you to do it. Everybody is different, some people draw the line at watersports, others at swallowing or being finished over. Neither person is wrong. Try not to feel guilty about saying no, either; if guilt is a factor (and certainly don't go into a sexual act because you've been guilt tripped into it) try and find something new that you both enjoy - maybe a little light bondage or something?
As for getting over the fear and worry, I suspect it's like most things - just try it out. You'll soon know whether your original opinion stands.
hey Boobaloo i quite agree with you some people think they have the right but no,if the lady don't like it she don't have to we both enjoy it and find it fun but hey ho it's not for everyone is it!
I am also very proud woman, bit independent and stubborn. But I do let my partner to ejaculate on my body, but! If you are not comfortable you have to explain this to him. To be honest 2 years ago I would find it degrading, but I just changed. It is only degrading if you really want it to be. My partner often ends up with my wetness all over his body, so he is in a bit the same situation. Plus I can get very wet, so when giving me oral he always ends up with his face covered. But it is not something you have to do and it is something you may warm up to over time. Maybe not your face, but your body, you never know. But you have to be willing to do it, he can suggest it, of course, but not push you.
I rather be jizzed on than take it in my mouth. but i strongly dislike it on my face I totally get where you are coming from though my current partner has had the snip so i love to feel come in me but if it was anyone else the condom is where it belongs or on my tits!
I have a simular is issue with giving head i have a very delicate gag reflex but have found a way that i can manage it. the key is to communicate and tell him your not comfortable with what he wants but and to try and find a compromise
BTW my BJ compromise i take the top too inches only they can not touch my head and i have mastered the art of a good hand job (well several great variants)
Oh and for the swallowing part, it is really up to you. Some people like it, some don't mind it, some hate it. There really is no shame in not liking it.
Food does change the taste a bit.
If you don't like swallowing or having him ejaculate on you then get him to do so in a condom or have a tissue handy. You are giving him pleasure, who cares how it finishes? I know there are some people who don't get even that much pleasure, he should count himself lucky.
I think bowl for the cum if you dont want to swallow and glass of water to drink to wash away the taste are handy if you dont feel like swallowing. I would avoid running out of the room to sink, personally. It woud ruin the moment in my opinion.
you only do what you're happy to do. that's the main thing. it seems, too, that he's asking for you to try a lot of new stuff- maybe that's a bit overwhelming. you know what he wants now so the choice is yours. let him know that. also- likes & dislikes change... i used to swallow but, frankly, i can't be doing with it now... & there's other stuff i tried & liked which i'd said "no" to in the past. so never say never... & maybe make a few requests of your own.
as others have said its each to their own, what some like others dont, personally i love swallowing my OH cum and i love it on my face, yes in the eye is painful, but do what you want to, dont feel pressured into doing things you dont want to
I couldn't agree more with what everybody else is saying. Haywire, I was in the same situation that your in now a few months ago. My OH wanted to cum on me and I wasn't too keen on the idea but I gave it a go and now, I love it! A few times its even lead to a sexy shower together. But as everybody else has said, if your not comfortable, then don't do it As for the swallowing, I enjoy it but we always have a large glass of juice to hand for washing the taste away. My OH was lovely about it because he was the one who told me that if i didn't want to swallow, that would be fine too. Just do what makes you happy and I'm sure your OH will be happy too.
you only do what you're happy to do. that's the main thing. it seems, too, that he's asking for you to try a lot of new stuff- maybe that's a bit overwhelming. you know what he wants now so the choice is yours. let him know that. also- likes & dislikes change... i used to swallow but, frankly, i can't be doing with it now... & there's other stuff i tried & liked which i'd said "no" to in the past. so never say never... & maybe make a few requests of your own.
I think that is another thing that might be grinding me, I feel feel overwhelmed by all that he is asking at once.
you only do what you're happy to do. that's the main thing. it seems, too, that he's asking for you to try a lot of new stuff- maybe that's a bit overwhelming. you know what he wants now so the choice is yours. let him know that. also- likes & dislikes change... i used to swallow but, frankly, i can't be doing with it now... & there's other stuff i tried & liked which i'd said "no" to in the past. so never say never... & maybe make a few requests of your own.
I think that is another thing that might be grinding me, I feel feel overwhelmed by all that he is asking at once.
But there isn't really anything I want to try..
Don't try what you don't want to, being in a sexual relationship is about respect for the other person.
If you are comfortable doing one or more of these then that is fine, if not then that is also fine.
Thanks guys, wasn't sure anyway was gonna respond to my pathetic wineing.lol
It's not pathetic at all, it sounds like he's being rather selfish; does he realise that you are not at all keen to try this? For me, the whole point of being intimate with someone is that you are both enjoying it mutually. I would never want my partner to do something for me if they did not enjoy it themselves.
If he really wants to make a mess on you, the least he could do is offer to lick it up afterwards so that you get some pleasure from it too.
Thanks guys, wasn't sure anyway was gonna respond to my pathetic wineing.lol
It's not pathetic at all, it sounds like he's being rather selfish; does he realise that you are not at all keen to try this? For me, the whole point of being intimate with someone is that you are both enjoying it mutually. I would never want my partner to do something for me if they did not enjoy it themselves.
If he really wants to make a mess on you, the least he could do is offer to lick it up afterwards so that you get some pleasure from it too.
Postillionager has hit it right on the head here - it isn't just about one person. I would recommend you talk to your partner, make sure he understands that you are not keen on this, it is unfair for you to be asked and you feeling like you have to do something.
As for the swallowing, I enjoy it but we always have a large glass of juice to hand for washing the taste away. My OH was lovely about it because he was the one who told me that if i didn't want to swallow, that would be fine too. Just do what makes you happy and I'm sure your OH will be happy too.