I have recently admitted to my loving wife that I am bi curious, she has been amazing about and very understanding, I was wondering what I could do to make her mind more at ease with it all.
Hello, thank you for sharing with us and well done on sharing this with your partner.
I don't have any experience with this so unfortunately my advice may lack but here it is anyway:
In a word, Communication.
It is great that she has already been understanding so what is it that you need to make her feel at ease with? Are you looking to explore this curiosity, either alone or with her? Or simply watch more male based porn?
Answers to these and any further information would be great to get some specific advice :)
Exploring that part of things would be nice, am unsure how to go about it, also would like to re assure my oh that it is not that I am less attracted to her, as I still find her very attractive in every way, but it is more that I also find the male body attractive as well
You could try pegging as a start and see how that goes?
We do pegging , which my wife is happy to do, however I do feel like I would like more, but would not want to upset her by saying, she has been very supportive already. Am just a bit unsure how I would proceed
Hey. How did you broach that question? I’m bi but wouldn’t know how to tell my OH that? Is it more to move onto to trying mmf threesome? Or just admitting and watch bi porn together? Is it purely guys dicks you’re attracted to or guys in general?
I think that's exactly what you should be asking her, with plenty of reassurance. I truly admire your honesty with her which was so brave of you and I wish you both every success and continued happiness, together.
As a bi couple we can not over state how important communication is, don't push anything, maybe ask her how she really feels about it and maybe discuss some fantasies.
Well done you, love the OH pegging but think I’m interested in testing out the real thing. She’s done girl on girl but for some reason that seems different
My wife pegs me a lot and I sometimes fantasise about how a real penis would feel inside me but, in all these fantasies the real penis is still attatched to my wife. I have do desire whatsoever to experiment with another person.
Bgoddard, it was something that has been on my mind for a while, my wife many years ago actually asked if I was but I was unsure myself. As we have always been really honest with each other , whilst having a naughty conversation I admitted that I find the thought of being with a man a huge turn on! Which led onto other conversations, its the thought of me with a man or mmf , the thought of either turn me on. My wife has started to incorporate it into our naughty time now, she has suggested watching bi porn together (which I never in a million years thought she would do) and is also getting very experimental with our strap on, (asking me to suck it). It has been quite an eye opening experience for both us . I even caught her looking on LH the other night for more toys to use to bring that side of things into our sex life .
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Bgoddard, it was something that has been on my mind for a while, my wife many years ago actually asked if I was but I was unsure myself. As we have always been really honest with each other , whilst having a naughty conversation I admitted that I find the thought of being with a man a huge turn on! Which led onto other conversations, its the thought of me with a man or mmf , the thought of either turn me on. My wife has started to incorporate it into our naughty time now, she has suggested watching bi porn together (which I never in a million years thought she would do) and is also getting very experimental with our strap on, (asking me to suck it). It has been quite an eye opening experience for both us . I even caught her looking on LH the other night for more toys to use to bring that side of things into our sex life .
Sounds like you have a very caring and understanding wife, lucky you.
Dwp, she has been incredible through out all of this, very understanding, and encouraging me to be more open with her about what I would like and what turns me on. In turn she is discovering more about what turns her on as well.
You are lucky, I'm was a bit more than curious in a past life but that all stopped when I married my OH, I have tried to bring it up especially when she was in her teens she often thought she was gay! but she has told my that obviously whilst she likes watching 2 women together the thought of two men together does nothing for her! Quite the opposite! Fortunately I have a female best friend who knows about my past gay/bi life and she helps share my frustrations! We share gay videos and porn and just generally chat about it.T00n13 wrote:
Dwp, she has been incredible through out all of this, very understanding, and encouraging me to be more open with her about what I would like and what turns me on. In turn she is discovering more about what turns her on as well.
Yes am very lucky, I still feel a bit odd discussing my likes with her at times, as am conscious that it is still a very new aspect of our marriage. It would be helpful to have a close friend etc who has been in this situation to be able to discuss it with for advice and next steps etc
Yes it does help! Ironically for me my best friend who knows everything is a straight as they come where as my OH who I know I cant confide in is at least bi-curious!!T00n13 wrote:
Yes am very lucky, I still feel a bit odd discussing my likes with her at times, as am conscious that it is still a very new aspect of our marriage. It would be helpful to have a close friend etc who has been in this situation to be able to discuss it with for advice and next steps etc
Are there any forums on here that would be able to give advice or direction ?Yes man wrote:
Yes it does help! Ironically for me my best friend who knows everything is a straight as they come where as my OH who I know I cant confide in is at least bi-curious!!T00n13 wrote:
Yes am very lucky, I still feel a bit odd discussing my likes with her at times, as am conscious that it is still a very new aspect of our marriage. It would be helpful to have a close friend etc who has been in this situation to be able to discuss it with for advice and next steps etc
Unfortunately not, before I joined you could message each other but LH saw that could be up for abuse so they pulled it. And it's a bit taboo talking about getting in touch directly otherwise I'd have glad to offer advice. The best you can do is do what your doing and ask questions in specific threads or search the forum.T00n13 wrote:
Are there any forums on here that would be able to give advice or direction ?Yes man wrote:
Yes it does help! Ironically for me my best friend who knows everything is a straight as they come where as my OH who I know I cant confide in is at least bi-curious!!T00n13 wrote:
Yes am very lucky, I still feel a bit odd discussing my likes with her at times, as am conscious that it is still a very new aspect of our marriage. It would be helpful to have a close friend etc who has been in this situation to be able to discuss it with for advice and next steps etc
Shame they pulled it, that would have been helpful. Many thanks for all the advice , will keep on the forumsYes man wrote:
Unfortunately not, before I joined you could message each other but LH saw that could be up for abuse so they pulled it. And it's a bit taboo talking about getting in touch directly otherwise I'd have glad to offer advice. The best you can do is do what your doing and ask questions in specific threads or search the forum.T00n13 wrote:
Are there any forums on here that would be able to give advice or direction ?Yes man wrote:
Yes it does help! Ironically for me my best friend who knows everything is a straight as they come where as my OH who I know I cant confide in is at least bi-curious!!T00n13 wrote:
Yes am very lucky, I still feel a bit odd discussing my likes with her at times, as am conscious that it is still a very new aspect of our marriage. It would be helpful to have a close friend etc who has been in this situation to be able to discuss it with for advice and next steps etc
Well anything you need or advice I'll be more than happy to give it, although it has been nearly 30 years since I last took or played with cock so I might be a bit rusty!!😁😁T00n13 wrote:
Shame they pulled it, that would have been helpful. Many thanks for all the advice , will keep on the forumsYes man wrote:
Unfortunately not, before I joined you could message each other but LH saw that could be up for abuse so they pulled it. And it's a bit taboo talking about getting in touch directly otherwise I'd have glad to offer advice. The best you can do is do what your doing and ask questions in specific threads or search the forum.T00n13 wrote:
Are there any forums on here that would be able to give advice or direction ?Yes man wrote:
Yes it does help! Ironically for me my best friend who knows everything is a straight as they come where as my OH who I know I cant confide in is at least bi-curious!!T00n13 wrote:
Yes am very lucky, I still feel a bit odd discussing my likes with her at times, as am conscious that it is still a very new aspect of our marriage. It would be helpful to have a close friend etc who has been in this situation to be able to discuss it with for advice and next steps etc