This is the first time I've been back here for about a year now, after time off for various adventures (nothing that involves men in wigs, or handcuffs before you ask tallboy!) And boy has this place grown! Thousands more members and a lot more action going on since I was here last.
I notice that we now have over 1200 bisexual members! Being someone who classes themselves as bi myself I thought maybe it'd be nice to start a bi thread where we can get to say hi. I definitely love talking about bi stuff. Experiences, fantasies, tips, books, films. Whatever.
So here you are!
Something that I'm intrigued about at the moment - what is it that gets people interested in the first place? If you're bi-curious, what prompted your interest?
I'm still on the fence on this one. There was a girl that i worked with who was very similar in personality and she once shared with me a bi experience. I found myself after this looking at her in a different way. I found myself looking at her and wishing that an oppourtunity would arise so that we could have our own experience. I could picture myself kissing her and caressing her. It was the first time that I have ever had such thoughts. Unfortunately it never happened and she moved job so we lost touch but I still think about it sometimes and wonder what could have happened. I can't say that there has ever been another woman that I have looked at that way, and now that I have my OH i can't imagine that I would ever have the oppourtunity again. But I do think about it.
Yeah, I'm pretty on the fence too. Sexuality is a difficult one. I grew up considering myself bi (I'd fancied guys and it didn't come as a revelation when I was 14 or so and completely infatuated with this beautiful girl in my chem class) but only a couple of years ago started actually dating, and it just hasn't worked with guys. I'm not sure why, and have had some truly spectacularly horrendous relationship messes (I'm so sorry!), but kind of just go with it now, see what happens. Maybe there will be a man in the future, but right now I'm happy with my girl 'friends' :)
Although that is an interesting question - what gets people interested in the first place (well certainly with bi-curiousity - there's probably not much in particular for someone who has considered themselves bisexual for most of their life)?
I was about 7 when I first 'fell in love' (!) with a girl. An older woman. Aged 9. I think it was because she was blonde and always the lead in school productions, whilst I was usually '2nd triangle player' or something. First guy-crush was a boy in my year 4 class, who told me I'd picked up an Australian accent, so I hit him. Young love.
But your experience sounds quite different to mine. You see she was the one and only woman I looked at like that. But I have to be honest the feelings and thoughts were so real and intense at times I wouldn't rule out the fact that I could feel the same way about another woman.
But your experience sounds quite different to mine. You see she was the one and only woman I looked at like that. But I have to be honest the feelings and thoughts were so real and intense at times I wouldn't rule out the fact that I could feel the same way about another woman.
Aw yeah, I agree that it's nice to know it's not so clear cut for everyone - makes me feel a little less odd about not understanding myself in the slightest! I don't doubt at all that it wasn't real; how long ago was it? Do you still feel the same way about her? I've only really felt so strongly about one person, and even now I'm not over 'him', even though it was so long ago.
Although not Bi myself (honestly!) When I was a youg-ish lad, one of my schoolchums began kissing me all of a sudden and slid his hand down my pants and started stroking my cock much to my amazement ,obviously! I told him in no uncertain terms to stop and he never spoke to me again. I did used to often see the guy (who's now married with kids) in passing and made an attept to say hi but I honestly think he was still very embarassed by it all. . .
Hi BBG, First of all not trodden down this path to date. My thinking has generally run along hetero lines til now but the notion of a bi experience has grown incrementally seemingly year on year and really shows no signs of diminishing anytime soon. Having thought about this one l think there are several contributory factors that may be at play here;
1. Curiosity and a willingness to experiment with something new, l am sure that will be a concept many will be familiar with, sexual boundaries there to be pushed all in the interests of the great O ! The notion that the other party may or may not be pushing his boundaries at the same time !! -shared risk..... wow.
2. Grew up in a neighbourhood with l think 1 girl and 20 or so lads, yep l guess they were putting something in the Corporation Pop!!!... so a basic comfort zone that is more laddish than anything else, my job has perhaps reinforced that concept for many years.
3. Bi setting, has offered many different FMM connotationsbeyond what would have been on offer in a hetero setting, with the prospect of MM play going some way to satisfying my anal predilections.
4. Rebellious streak- past caring, and getting down to pure animalistic and wanton lust- little chance of strings and probably like Sexyget never the paths to cross again, so a moment in time is all it would be, a memory for all time.
5. Imagination - mental imagery of the union is mind blowing and incredibly erotic.... lapton rising to ceiling now!!!
Reasons don't look too clever when you write them down do they!!
Actually, tallboy, your reasons are really interesting - particularly from a male perspective. I don't know many guys at all who are nearly that in touch with their sexuality, or appear to bother to reason with it!
Mimiaow it was about three years ago and yes I do still think about her at times. She made it very clear at the time that she didn't want another bi experience after the one she told me about, so even when i hinted she wasn't interested. I think due to this fact I don't actually think I would like to share an experience with her. I havent spoken to her in over a year and it's been longer since i seen her but I do still think of her as attractive.
TB,
You make some very valid points above, I get the feeling you have given this some considerable thought and I totally understand when you say the notion grows on you.
Hiya bbg i class myself as bi curious because i find girls attractive, i prefer girl on girl porn and only find the female body sexy, i love my man but i cant say i find any man sexy, i find some pretty but thats about it. ive never done anything (and never will do anything unless for some reason i become single) with a female ever before, im quite open minded tho
I class myself as bisexual, and quite certain in that. I have had relationships and dalliances with both genders but now in an incredibly happy, monogomous relationship so that ends my lady loving days. I will always admire the hot ones though, undeniably lol!
My boyfriend is totally cool about it which is good, I have known guys who were a bit insecure about it, but not my Mr. :D
I'm very bi-curious. I've only ever been in relationships with men but sleeping with a woman is not something I'd ever rule out (though it'd only be if my partner was ok with it, I'm no cheat).
I really don't know what made me interested in women as well as men, I just know that I've been attracted to both sexes for as long as I can remember and I prefer girl on girl porn and probably find the female body more attractive.
I dont know what made me interested in woman, maybe a lot of drink in me, but I first had sex with a woman when I was 14 and it was amazing, her skin was so soft and she knew what she was doing, we had a six month relationship but she decided she wanted men more than me so we went our seperate ways, I've been with a few other women since then and I often find myself checdking women out more than men, my husband thinks its a real turn on, but I see it as something I would want to keep seperate from my marriage, if a woman wanted me I'd be very tempted, more than I would if it was a guy
Just going to introduce myself (Bi girl, been in relationships with both men & women) & put foward a little conundrum I'm facing at the mo, just seeking advice or a different way of looking at things from netural parties!
I'm getting married next year (to a man), he is the only man I am attracted to.. and I have been faithful to him this whole time.. I don't know if it's pre-wedding jitters, but in the last few months I've become increasingly attracted to women, in general & a friend of mine in particular. This friend is gay, and has made it clear she'd give a relationship/sex/whatever a go. Spoken to fiancee about this, and he doesn't want me to see anyone else (understandbly)..
I would love to hear from people, who have had similar situations.. hopefully to reassure me that it's just nerves & to fight through it (which is what I want to do, just got the 'what if' going around in my head)!
Oh, MissDita, that does sound like quite a conundrum! Congratulations on your engagement though (sorry, that actually sounds really insensitive in this context, doesn't it?!) :)
Since your fiance has told you he wants to keep it an exclusive relationship, what did you think about that? Are you confident that you want to stay honest to him?
Because if you do, and your woman friend is still making advances, I think you should probably say something to her. If it is making you uncomfortable/ frustrated because you want something to happen, minimising temptation is probably the best way round it. Plus, if she is a true friend and understands your wishes, she should respect your decision.
Maybe you're becoming more attracted to women because the wedding's coming up, and part of you is really a bit frightened about letting go of all that previous relationship history and moving into a 'new stage' of your romantic life? But perhaps thinking about all the reasons you're with your fiance and all the things you love about him will help you move on from feelings for other people.
I hope something there can be of comfort, or at least sharing your problem with other people may help :) xxx
I think mimiaow's advice is very good there, MissDita. At the minute I have a friend who is also getting advances despite being in a serious relationship and I keep telling her that she needs to tell that person to take a step back. It may hurt them, but if it gives you the space you need to really think about what you want then they have to respect that. At the end of the day, this person has chosen to put you in this difficult situation knowing full well that you're spoken for, so she has to accept the consequences of that.