I have been with my partner near on 2 years now and we were both each others firsts (i know, romantic).
When we first started being sexual i would love going down on him, i loved teasing him and learning my way round a male body. I loved him going in my mouth as it made us feel more connected and he had something to brag about! But this easter time, i went to swallow, and the taste of him was so foul that it acctully made me throw up, (luckily i got to the toilet in time!!).
Ever since that time though i dont want to go down on him, or at least go in my mouth. I want that same closeness we had before and when he spends ages going down on me i feel really guilty that im too scared to do it back.
Is there any way that people can help me get over this aversion? I know hewants me to do it, 'cause whenever i try to go down on him, but pull out before he goes i can see the dissapointment in his eyes. I finish him by hand, but thats just not the same. I really want to do this again but he just tasted so foul that i can help it but gag when i think of it again.
Please help as i really want to do this ad its his birthday in december and i want to do this, just as an added bonus to his treat!!
Hiya Belle. Sorry I'm not famed for my long responses, there's plenty of people on here who will give chapter and verse.
If it was the one occasion that had put you off...that occasion was probably down to what he'd been eating / drinking in the time leading up to it.
Do a search on this site, there is plenty of advice on how to get it tasting better. The usual, get him to drink lots of water, or especially pineapple juice...have a search on it. Then try subtly to get him to eat / drink recommended things in the days leading up to it.
Then if I were you, for his birthday, tie him to the bed, blindfold, and enjoy yourself. Then there's no pressure on you or expectation..and if you feel you want to go for it...try it.
If you wanted to, you could try holding his penis in both hands and just kissing and licking the tip of it and along the shaft. You can keep control by having your hands there, and you can lick and kiss his penis without having it in your mouth.
Once you feel confident with kissing and licking you can proceed to other things.
You might also consider tying him down in some way to keep him still whilst you play with him, and that might give you an added feeling of confidence. Plus kink, of course. :)
Good luck, I hope this works out for you. And welcome to the forums. :)
I've experience something similar to you, although not so extreme. Sometimes my boyfriend tastes delicious, and other times not so much.
Perhaps try some flavoured lubes to help you get over the taste thing? It might also help you to concentrate more on the shaft and the outside of the foreskin rather than the inside (if he has one), since that's where all the taste comes out of.
I sympathise with you, I have a really strong gag reflex too.
I have tried to get back into it, but moments before hes about to go, i pull out and use my hand to finish him off or make him go all over me.
It was easter... what can i say, he was eating a lot of chocolate, which according to some people makes them sweeter but obviously in this case not..
He still lives with his parents and thus trying to change his diet is nigh on impossiable, as i would have to explain to them why...
Ok, let me make sure I'm clear on this, you're fine with actually having his erect penis in your mouth, it's just that when he is about to ejaculate you remove your mouth and finish his orgasm with your hands, is that right?
If that's the situation, then I suggest simply carrying on like that. Give yourself permission to remove your mouth whenever you want to. When the time is right and when you feel comfortable enough, you will be able to have him ejaculate in your mouth if that's what you both want. Until then, I'm sure your hands are fine.
If the reduced feeling of closeness is what's bothering you about this, then have you considered exploring other ways to increase your feelings of closeness?
I pretty much agree with the comments listed on here, but something that not been said, and from a mans view i would say i was happy to.
If your partner smokes, drinks alot of coffee and strong food like curry, this i heard can make his seman tastesour, i did a test for my wife, and drunk alot of pinapple juice for a couple of days and my wife then tried again to her joy the taste was alot better.
Alot of foods can effect the taste i read, so maybe he could change his diet to help you also. As i said this is from a mans view, If he wants a blow job thenhe can help also make it better for you.
Take a look at this link it may help a little more.
I pretty much agree with the comments listed on here, but something that not been said, and from a mans view i would say i was happy to.
If your partner smokes, drinks alot of coffee and strong food like curry, this i heard can make his seman tastesour, i did a test for my wife, and drunk alot of pinapple juice for a couple of days and my wife then tried again to her joy the taste was alot better.
Alot of foods can effect the taste i read, so maybe he could change his diet to help you also. As i said this is from a mans view, If he wants a blow job thenhe can help also make it better for you.
Take a look at this link it may help a little more.
I have been with my partner near on 2 years now and we were both each others firsts (i know, romantic).
When we first started being sexual i would love going down on him, i loved teasing him and learning my way round a male body. I loved him going in my mouth as it made us feel more connected and he had something to brag about! But this easter time, i went to swallow, and the taste of him was so foul that it acctully made me throw up, (luckily i got to the toilet in time!!).
Ever since that time though i dont want to go down on him, or at least go in my mouth. I want that same closeness we had before and when he spends ages going down on me i feel really guilty that im too scared to do it back.
Is there any way that people can help me get over this aversion? I know hewants me to do it, 'cause whenever i try to go down on him, but pull out before he goes i can see the dissapointment in his eyes. I finish him by hand, but thats just not the same. I really want to do this again but he just tasted so foul that i can help it but gag when i think of it again.
Please help as i really want to do this ad its his birthday in december and i want to do this, just as an added bonus to his treat!!
Thanks
Belle
im a bit worried bout some of the things you have been saying and its all making me think you are very young and maybe under the age of concent and so if thats the case u shouldnt be on this forum and we shouldnt be giving u advice on these types of subjects. im sorry if you are older, its just something that is bothering me...
I have been with my partner near on 2 years now and we were both each others firsts (i know, romantic).
When we first started being sexual i would love going down on him, i loved teasing him and learning my way round a male body. I loved him going in my mouth as it made us feel more connected and he had something to brag about! But this easter time, i went to swallow, and the taste of him was so foul that it acctully made me throw up, (luckily i got to the toilet in time!!).
Ever since that time though i dont want to go down on him, or at least go in my mouth. I want that same closeness we had before and when he spends ages going down on me i feel really guilty that im too scared to do it back.
Is there any way that people can help me get over this aversion? I know hewants me to do it, 'cause whenever i try to go down on him, but pull out before he goes i can see the dissapointment in his eyes. I finish him by hand, but thats just not the same. I really want to do this again but he just tasted so foul that i can help it but gag when i think of it again.
Please help as i really want to do this ad its his birthday in december and i want to do this, just as an added bonus to his treat!!
Thanks
Belle
im a bit worried bout some of the things you have been saying and its all making me think you are very young and maybe under the age of concent and so if thats the case u shouldnt be on this forum and we shouldnt be giving u advice on these types of subjects. im sorry if you are older, its just something that is bothering me...
im an 18 year old student, nearly19 and have lived a very sheltered life,which i want to go out and explore to its fullest, im sorry if there seams to be anything wrong with that.
im an 18 year old student, nearly19 and have lived a very sheltered life,which i want to go out and explore to its fullest, im sorry if there seams to be anything wrong with that.
Belle
theres nothing wrong with that at all, you just have to understand that if you had been under age that it isnt good for you to have been on here and for us to give u advice on things like this topic.
as i said im sorry if your over age, i meant no offenc to anyone (im not about hurting/upsetting people).
thats ok, i do get kinda fed up of people treating me like a child thats all. I look a lot younger than i am, and though most women say its a blessing i think its a curse as i get treated like a child. Its just something im highly strung about.
My partner treats me for the age i am, hence why i want to please him.
Ill let the post know how i get on with trying to like him again.
My partner treats me for the age i am, hence why i want to please him.
Ill let the post know how i get on with trying to like him again.
So when you were talking about losing the closeness you had when you used to give him blow jobs, did you mean that since you gagged on his ejaculate, you now don't like him anymore?
I thought you meant that you didn't enjoy giving him blow jobs anymore. Please clarify?
And just for your information, most of us enjoy pleasing our partners because they are our partners. Most of us don't need any other reason - they are our partners because we like them.
If you have a partner whom you don't like anymore, then perhaps you might consider whether you still want him to be your partner.
I think the other posters on here have given you some really good tips to try out. Just so you know that you are not alone I can tell you that I have had a similar experience.
From my experience the taste of a man's semen various enormously from one man to the next. Now, for what its worth, I have to admit that I cannot bear the taste of my husband's semen. Its so bitter I cannot describe how unpleasant it tastes. I have swallowed it several times and although I've never been sick it has made me gag. Its always tasted the same and basically this means that I only swallow on special occasions! I don't think this is just me as the men I slept with before my hubby had tastes ranging from slightly unpleasant to pleasant and I didn't have any swallowing issues.
Now, we've been together (as gf/bf then married) for 15 years and my OH has accepted that this is the way it is. Yes, of course he'd love it if I really enjoyed swallowing his semen but hes tasted it himself and admits that it tastes bad. He doubts he would want to swallow it himself and therefore he does not expect me to do so. When I give him a bf he lets me know when hes about to come and I finish him off by hand if necessary.
Now in your case its clear that in the past you have not had an issue with swallowing your partner's cum and therefore its likely this was a one off. Hopefully following the tips from other posters you will get back to where you were before. However, in the meantime (or if you don't get there) please try not to feel bad about it or feel that it somehow makes you less close to your partner. There are many ways to feel close in a loving relationship and many ways to express that love sexually.
thats ok, i do get kinda fed up of people treating me like a child thats all. I look a lot younger than i am, and though most women say its a blessing i think its a curse as i get treated like a child. Its just something im highly strung about.
My partner treats me for the age i am, hence why i want to please him.
Ill let the post know how i get on with trying to like him again.
Belle
I look young, but i dont get treated like a child. It's true that you only get treated like a child, if you behave like one. My OH was behaving like a kid throwing his toys out the pram on sunday, when something went wrong, so i bloody told him, and it snapped him right out of it.
thats ok, i do get kinda fed up of people treating me like a child thats all. I look a lot younger than i am, and though most women say its a blessing i think its a curse as i get treated like a child. Its just something im highly strung about.
My partner treats me for the age i am, hence why i want to please him.
Ill let the post know how i get on with trying to like him again.
Belle
You might find you see it as a blessing as you get older... (voice of experience!)
thats ok, i do get kinda fed up of people treating me like a child thats all. I look a lot younger than i am, and though most women say its a blessing i think its a curse as i get treated like a child. Its just something im highly strung about.
My partner treats me for the age i am, hence why i want to please him.
Ill let the post know how i get on with trying to like him again.
Belle
You might find you see it as a blessing as you get older... (voice of experience!)
Thats what i keep saying to people who think im like 17, when im actually 21,lol
