I have been with my partner for couple of years now , I very rarely get oral . When she does do it , it's only for best part of 2minutes untill she stops. My OH says she doesn't like giving BJs because it makes her gag . I'm 25 and still haven't climaxed from a BJ !! I try and give her as much confidence as I can but it's still a no !. I tell my OH all the time if she trims I will go down on her as I enjoy it myself but she refuses to trim lol . I just have to accept that I have to go without oral lol
Think itâs more about the person than the time
had 1 gf who loved givin me bjs and another who never - she loved givin handjobs tho
When me and my wife first got together there was regular oral sex for both of us. It was a major part of our sex life, particularly during foreplay and I almost took it for granted. This became less and less frequent overtime and after a number of years (and after having several children) had pretty much become none existent; once a year if I was lucky. However, this has changed greatly over the last year. We regularly go down on one another and it's better than ever before. It's a particularly positive time at the moment as I've had more blow jobs in the last three months than I'd had in the last five years before that. My wife even said this week about how turned on she gets from tasting my pre-cum. Things could pick back up!
Been with hubby for 12 years and I give him more bjs then ever. They are such a turn on for me and him! I have bought a couple books on âhow toâ and he loves it when I experiment đ
I love going down on my wife, and would do it more then she would like. Sometimes feel guilty about receiving BJ as I feel it is because she isnât interested in full sexy that said the mouthful of champagne or warm tea and cold ice in mouth makes for a different feeling and sensation. (Also tried popping candy)
They are just foreplay for us, he never cums that way.
I feel like oral sex does take a bit of a stance behind actual sex when you get to the latter stages of a relationship. I guess overtime you get comfortable and donât feel the need to impress your partner which is why people sometimes have issues. But I think you need to just mature with the relationship and if you feel a little forgotten about in the oral department you should just be open with your partner, they may be satisfied and happy and if you donât speak up then they think your happy too.
been together 13 years and prob do it more now than the start, love doing it and seeing his enjoyment
I have not had a bj in my life my parter of 11 years says she has a poor gag reflex but not attemted we both are the only gf and gf we have had so i cant say am missing out i would like one to know what the hype is about but not going to forse her into it and we just do other stuff insted :)
Been married nearly 30 years BJs have rarely happened as the good lady isnât keen, saying that more recently she has started to experiment a little more and I have enjoyed very much. I havenât asked or pressured her it has just been natural. We are very much in love and still trying new things just very relaxed about it
Been together 21 years and married for 11. Oral has always been a regular thing for both of us, maybe because I shyed away from intercourse for a long time because I cum quicker than I'd like (before I found delay spray here!).
Took a few years before I could orgasm from a blowjob, but we've learned tips, tricks and what works for us along the way (thanks largely to Camille Crimson videos ) and now they're better than ever. Just need her to suddenly like swallowing and I'll be an even happier man!
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Been together 21 years and married for 11. Oral has always been a regular thing for both of us, maybe because I shyed away from intercourse for a long time because I cum quicker than I'd like (before I found delay spray here!).
Took a few years before I could orgasm from a blowjob, but we've learned tips, tricks and what works for us along the way (thanks largely to Camille Crimson videos ) and now they're better than ever. Just need her to suddenly like swallowing and I'll be an even happier man!
Just Googled Camille Crimson - wow!
We've been together 7 years, married for 5 and I probably give him just as many blow jobs now as I did in the beginning. I love giving them and I love the reaction I get from him.. Knowing I have total control over him. I've never had a problem in getting Mr L to orgasm/cum when recieving oral and I am sure that is largely down to me not having a gag reflex!
As for oral for me, he gives it to me whenever, It's nice but I always find I can't totally relax.. always wondering how does it smell, taste, look.... I can never totally lose myself in the moment like I can when we have sex!
Thanks as always Alicia, from experience, kissing him after he has given me oral I know I don't taste or smell bad and he always communicates that I don't as well, I just can't seem to let go fully.
We never have a problem with anything else though, just me lead there wondering what I should be thinking about ect even though he is doing a bloody good job haha!!
I always know in myself if I get an infection or have one coming as i'm super sensitive down there so that't not always an issue... but yes the smell changing when I am due on is a bit grim LOL!!
Anyway, back to blow jobs (sorry for changing the theme here!)
When OH is giving me oral, I'm literally thinking about his head being between my legs and his tongue touching me and how good it feels. The mental and physical stimulation sends me to a nice orgasm.MrandMrs_L wrote:
Thanks as always Alicia, from experience, kissing him after he has given me oral I know I don't taste or smell bad and he always communicates that I don't as well, I just can't seem to let go fully.
We never have a problem with anything else though, just me lead there wondering what I should be thinking about ect even though he is doing a bloody good job haha!!
I always know in myself if I get an infection or have one coming as i'm super sensitive down there so that't not always an issue... but yes the smell changing when I am due on is a bit grim LOL!!
Anyway, back to blow jobs (sorry for changing the theme here!)
I must say this has been eye opening for me. Weâve been together for 4 years now, our little one is now a year old and our sex Life has just taken a dive. At the start of our relationship we were so active in giving oral, regular 69 etc... I would never orgasm from oral as I know she does not like this. This has quickly fizzled. Iâm lucky to get a BJ in a year! She doesnât like receiving oral, sheâs paranoid about taste, smell etc... and hates kissing afterwards. The other night though for the first time in 2 years I received a BJ, it was amazing! Tried to be as supportive and positive with her and I think she took it on board! Fingers crossed for future BJs!!
I feel very lucky in that my wife is still very enthusiastic towards BJ's.
Thankfully it's not something she's ever felt compelled to do and I certainly do not expect it every time. She has recently found lying on the edge of the bed with her head off it easier and more comfortable than being on her knees or all fours. Standing or kneeling over her I too can pleasure her body so I'm certainly a huge fan of this manoeuvre!
I personally enjoy BJ's as they build me up slowly and they can also be very helpful in slowing me down in a very positive manner prior to penetrative sex. A warm happy temporary numbness I'd describe this as.
Have to say I absolutely adore going down on my wife though - the moans and groans certainly get me off and keep me going. I love knowing the fact I'm hitting the right spot for her so say, especially when linked with some nipple or bum play!
The feeling of positiveness, sharing and witnessing released abandonment from your actions is certainly the driving force for me and I hope everyone gains something similar from their own experience.
May you all go forth and merrily oralise over the festive period (suddenly reminds me of a Monty Python song - "Sit on my face and tell me that you love me....")
Have a great Christmas everyone!
I love a BJ - still enjoying it after 25 plus years together
I think I am the small minority but I love giving head I literally will suck my husband at any opportunity I have. Unfortunately, his sex drive does not match mine and he can be a bit of a prude at times so I donât do it as often as Iâd like but I like it when he calls me a bitch because Iâm âtoo goodâ he doesnât understand why it turns me on so much! I get stupidly wet when giving them!
I've been with my guy for 5 years so not an overally long time, but I still enjoy giving blowjobs but I'm kind of selfish when it comes to oral, I'll only give it if he gives it to me! 