Other way around. In the early days blow jobs were rarer but my wife has got much better at them in recent years and this makes her want to do it more. In the early days I preferred sex any day over a blow job. Now both are great. As for this tit for tat thing I ALWAYS offer to give her oral; before sex or after a blow job because I like making her cum and want her to enjoy it as much as I do. Sometimes she doesn't want it and just wants to pleasure me. I guess the trick is whether you both enjoy it. Pleasuring the other person is very sexy and enjoyable so if she enjoys sucking cock she's going to do it more. Talk to her about it and maybe if you explain how much you enjoy being sucked off and how SHE can make you feel (make it about her) then she might enjoy it more. Et voila more blow jobs.
I actually enjoy giving blow jobs and it's quite a regular thing with us. It gets me really turned on and wet listening to him groan and I love him it when he has to make me stop as he is going to cum too soon 😁 It does definitely depend on the partner tho, my ex i really didn't enjoy giving blow jobs but my current partner I love it. Helps that he has a lovely cock and is plenty big enough without being uncomfortable in the mouth 👄 I too have tried popping candy, champagne, ice cubes and tea lol certainly adds a different sensation and I love seeing the pleasure on his face Sometimes I am not in the mood so sick to a hand job but usually just mix it up a bit. I don't really get oral from my OH, I do enjoy receiving it as foreplay tho xx
My wife gives me head almost everytime we have sex. Not usually all the way, part of foreplay. We've been together nearly 10 years. For me its a must. I think our sex life would suffer a lot if she didn't do it. She doesn't often let me go down on her, not sure why?? She used to let me do it all the time. I love giving her head. But I'll allow her saying no to me giving as long as she keeps giving. Very few things in life beat a good blow job. I actually prefer the feeling of her gobbling my cock to sex. But I love sex too.
Im very lucky as my OH loves giving them and get at least 3 a week.
I too love to give oral x I would do it everyday have lots of tasty lubes and my partner loves loves loves it x
After over 20 years together, I get less head than I once did, but with kids now it's probably because there is less of everything! I was getting almost no blowjobs. However as my wife gives absolutely amazing blowjobs I've been asking for more of them the last couple of years and seen a corresponding uplift. So once again the 'talk about it' advice works wonders.
I haven’t sucked my o h cock in over three years . Really can’t bring myself to do it anymore, it drives him wild when I blow on it but ignore it afterwards
He has to consider if a blowjob is worth more than his relationship... Surely not? However maybe they need to try and spice the relationship up and introduce a few toys... Blowjob stroker toy? Maybe watch porn together? Or maybe get her so turned on she just goes for it? I always find unplanned spontaneous BJs are the best?
They have never died off or become less frequent...... even through the birth of children. They have always also been mind-blowing - but I think they have got better and better over time, and the places have been pretty interesting along the way too!
At the risk of heresy on this topic i’ll say that I have never been that enamoured of blowjobs. But, on the other hand I will happily spend as much time as needed kneeling between my OH’s thighs.
If we are enacting a sub dom scene then I may thrust in and out of my OH’s mouth as part of the act but not finish there. Also, my OH knows how excruciating I find it when she takes my balls in her mouth and when we switch she will have me squirming all over the bed.
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At the risk of heresy on this topic i’ll say that I have never been that enamoured of blowjobs. But, on the other hand I will happily spend as much time as needed kneeling between my OH’s thighs.
If we are enacting a sub dom scene then I may thrust in and out of my OH’s mouth as part of the act but not finish there. Also, my OH knows how excruciating I find it when she takes my balls in her mouth and when we switch she will have me squirming all over the bed.
You sound very much like my husband, so you aren't alone!
A bit shy about giving blow jobs so don't do it as often as I might, tbh. Need to remedy that. OH loves them and I'd like to gain confidence to share that pleasure fully.
Most sessions result in a blow job though the wife doesn’t like to swallow but doesn’t mind cumming on my face when she is astride it, double standards !!!!!! Oh well not really compaling!😀
I do love it when it happens, but my lady has to be in the mood. I, however, am always in the mood to give her oral, which is a huge turn on for me.
My OH she was a bit of a wallflower when we first met and vanilla sex was the best I could hope for when and if I got it, definitely no BJ's! We've been together for over 20 years and in her own words she's "a dirty slut" now and BJ'S are a once or twice a week thing now! She's even learnt how to deep throat to enhance the fun for me and even grown to like the taste of spunk and swallows nearly every time. Happy days!!
Just goes to show, all good things come to those who wait.
I have been with my wife for more than 30 years and I think that BJ's have become more frequent. I will just be sitting on the sofa and she will pull me out and give me a quick suck. She has never been one for swallowing but that dosen't bother me as I love to cum over her bum or tits.
For us it really depends on circumstances, where we are, how much time and privacy we have, how much noise we can make etc. If he is just randomly horny and needs to cum then a blowjob is good and also saves on mess over a handjob! If we are somewhere we we would like to have sex but can't because of noise, privacy issues etc then I will give him a blowjob and reach downstairs on myself and masturbate as I'm sucking and can make sure we both cum together.
I don't think it's selfish at all to dislike a certain sex act. Everyone has different tastes (pardoning the pun), and we don't know what people's experiences are so you can never judge. On that note, I love both giving and receiving oral sex. My better half is struggling with his libido at the moment, and I really miss the regularity of giving him that pleasure.
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I never used to enjoy giving blowjobs but now I find them exicting. I find sprucing up things by doing positions such as 69 really gets me in the mood, so maybe your friend could try different ways of doing blow jobs that would also give his partner pleasure too