Booked a sex dungeon!

[Mr-E]

So me and the OH have progressed with bdsm over the last few months…

I made the leap into buying some cuff restraints, leg spreader, and a weekend ‘starter kit’

Had an overnight spa stay… and well… it went off!!

had a few drinks went back to the room and I just took charge(like I’ve been wanting to) and she lapped it up.

She ended up passed out on the bed in that oh so fucking sexy red body stocking… toys scattered all over the bed, still with her legs in spreader, and oh how wet she still was.

since going for it that night we’ve had some amazing hotel sessions(even booked a premier in 2miles away just to get away from the kids and get our fix!)

We’ve been looking for the next step…

And found it.

Booked an all singing all dancing ‘fetish studio’ in reading for an 18hour session.

It’s incredible.

But now the realisation has set in, that I’m not enough of a seasoned pro, to make full use of the equipment on offer…

I feel like I need to write an itinerary…

She’s absolutely at my mercy, will do anything I want.

So I don’t want to waste a second…

This is a problem I never envisioned.. I’m spoilt for sexual deviancy and I need some help!

Please give me suggestions on what to pan for her.

There’s a multitude of furniture and equipment…

A Christopher’s cross, fucking machine, sex swings, benches, plus all sorts of canes, floggers, glass toys even a sybian!!

Guys, give me some instructions and I will play them out. I’ve got my recording gear packed and happy to share the fruits of our Labour…

One love

[Purring-Pussy]

Hi and welcome.

I think if I wasn’t experienced in a dungeon setting I’d personally would have booked a shorter session just to familiarise myself with the equipment. Explore what is there, how the dungeon furniture works, if there’s any boundries and all round safety. Communication is key.

Edging on the Sybian would be fun, denying orgasms

I’d definitely think of taking my own gear for hygiene reasons. I used to take all mine in a fishing rod bag. Plenty room for whips, canes, floggers etc

Be safe and have fun.

[Kh1985]

I think I know where youre going as we are thinking of going there at some point. I agree with @Purring-Pussy that 18 hours maybe a lot for a first visit. Having said that, you can just spend some of the time chilling and exploring. Possibly use the first few hours looking at the equipment and finding out how it works etc. Theres nothing worse than being mid scene and waiting for your Dom/top to try and figure something out. I also agree with taking your own stuff. Firstly for hygiene and secondly, it will give you a sense of familiarity.

As you have so long there, try lots of little scenes as it may also be quite overwhelming for her aswell. Use 1 piece of equipment for a sensory scene, another for just edging, another for impact etc. Its up to you if you let her orgasm at all or make her wait till the end and them you could finish with a forced orgasm scene. You have plenty of time to incorporate all. Remember to check in often, give her toilet breaks and water breaks and have something sugary on hand for energy. Talk about what you both expect from it. Discuss safe words as one or both of you may find it too much and need to stop for a while, and although you have said she will do anything you want, it sounds like youre going more extreme than you’ve done before, so you may find out quickly that she has boundaries that neither of you imagined. We have a list that we made that we go through regularly that has every type of sexual and BDSM activity you could think of on it and its forever changing. Something one of us liked or disliked 6 months ago may not be the case now. I would suggest doing the BDSM test.

Lastly, but I could go on forever, think safety. Youll be using equipment that you’ve not used before. Do some research and make sure youre being as safe as possible.

Enjoy!!!

[Griffo]

Wow!!! I think we need to think seriously about something like this even though we’re alone at home and can have as much fun without being disturbed, the idea of being in a dungeon setting is such a turn on. Have a great time and make sure you take everything past the limit

[Wood-Nymph]

Wow I lived in Reading up until 8 years ago and never knew it existed.

[JGood]

Take your time

when at the fair ground do you get to try everything on your first visit? And be careful of the forum rules when you update us as we all want to hear how it went.

Have confidence in yourself you have already shown you know what you are doing.

[Gareth]

I agree with what others said above, but hey, you’re in it now so make the most of it!

I agree that a game plan would be a good initial strategy, but don’t be scared to veer off script if the occasion or mood calls for it. Try to get an idea beforehand of what they have and don’t have (which it sounds like you have) and build your template scene from there.

A bit of a brain dump from me of some things I feel you should think about in advance, or general advice:

• When domming, and especially here where you’ve been given the green light for a lot of things, with the tools for it, be considerate of her and her needs. Core pillars of BDSM are all about communication, consent, and a consensual exchange of power (up to a point), even if there may be the illusion of the lack of.
• If you have everything, it doesn’t mean you have to use it… just because you’re going to an all you can eat buffet it doesn’t mean you try everything they have to offer - if you know what I mean.
• Some people say they will do anything, but when it comes down to it, it’s not actually ANYTHING. It’s just a lot. So check in regularly. If this is new to her she may also not know her limits yet. You want to make this a positive experience for the two of you.
• 18 hours is a lot of time. So take your time. It’s easy in situations like this to get excited and want to try everything at once but you don’t then really get to experience the things by themselves. Think a nice slow sensual blowjob vs a bj for a minute, then getting your nipples tweaked for a minute, to being rimmed, to being caned etc. To add, ‘too much’ stimulation and variety can confusing. For example moving from toy to toy to toy and sometimes it’s better to stick to some core ones and sink into them, so to speak.
• It’s all exciting now when it’s an idea, but just make sure you’re both comfortable and still excited when you’re there and reality hits. So much variety, especially when it’s your first time, can be scary. So check in, and if needed incorporate some familiarity.
• We’ve all been there when you get a new toy… it takes some uses to get used to it and figure out how it works or how you like to use it. There aren’t many you just click with immediately. Now imagine that, but on a much bigger scale where you have a lot of new toys at once. Not trying to put you off, but just to suggest that you should expect some quirks and experimenting as you go along. Don’t expect every toy or implement to ‘click’ immediately, and maybe take things slow in the first couple of hours. Maybe have a bit of a play around at first in a total free space to see how things work and what you like and don’t like so that when you’re ready finally GO and take charge it’s a lot smoother and less disjointed.

That’s all I have for now. Hope you enjoy, and also hope you keep us updated.

[Wood-Nymph]

It appears they either take bookings by the hour or they do deals like from 6pm to 12:00 the following day, which is where the 18 hours comes from so it’s an overnight stay with a fold down bed so I don’t think they will be at it all night, but you never know at least they will have somewhere to sleep if it gets too much.

[PCC]

Why not walk through everything with your OH first, gauge preferences based upon current experience and look to prioritise some of the new - you can’t run around a City in a day and expect to see everything! Good luck, have fun and enjoy yourselves.

[Suzi]

OMG I didn’t know this sort of thing existed! Shame Reading is so far away!

In my (limited) dungeon experience, it can quite arousing at first to have people watching, but after a while they tend to just get in the way. You need to take your time and not rush into using a piece of apparatus, and don’t insert anything into a body that isn’t yours!

I’d try and agree some role-play scenarios that appeal to both of you to make it more interesting; we all have our kinks, what works for me won’t necessarily work for her.

However, you must try some role reversal - let her be in charge for once. You may be surprised at how much pent-up emotion she has to release on you! I know I’ve got a bit carried way in that situation in the past!

[AJSTAR]

Welcome to the forum! Sounds like it’s quite the sexy fetish overload in that room

So many potential variables to consider I think the best idea is to just wing it and go with the mood on the night.

[Hornycouple75]

Whereabouts is it ? We’re 30 mins from reading

[Hornycouple75]

Not far if you knew someone nearby you could stay or visit ?………..then all go together

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[Wood-Nymph]

I think it is called the fetish studio. If you look it up online via your search engine there are contact details but no address is given. We were trying to work out where in Reading it was but were unable to and we know Reading very well (spent all of our life living there apart from these last eight years). There is also another one in HIgh Wycombe.

[Hornycouple75]

Thanks for the info

[Wood-Nymph]

Hubby has done a bit of investigating and it seems it is five minutes drive from junction 12 of the M4 which is the Theale turnoff.

[Hornycouple75]

Will have a look , seems we’ll be paying a visit

[Wood-Nymph]

If we were going to do something like that we would not go to the one in Reading as we know far too many people there.

[Hornycouple75]

Surely it’s bit out of the way ?? Maybe the high Wycombe??

[Wood-Nymph]

We know a lot of people in Reading so would be bound to come across someone knowing our luck the receptionist will be a past neighbour, school friend or old work colleague. If we decide to in the future would be somewhere different i think.