Hi I am thinking of buying my wife some lingerie for Christmas but I am worried that it seems like a selfish gift,what are your thoughts on receiving lingerie as a gift.
If I'm buying my wife sexy lingerie for the bedroom only then yes, I think I'm treating myself more than her. I've got her some nice Ted Baker stuff this year though and I don't feel selfish at all for that
I personally would like it. But all women are different and you know your lady the best. I know some women don't really like lingerie, so it can be safe to get something else as well... If you are worrying that it is selfish then maybe it is...if you get me! :) xx
I think it is if its the only gift you give. I usually buy lingerie during the year not for any specific occasion. If its for Christmas or a birthday I'll give it alongside her main present.
On my last birthday my wife bought lingerie for herself and it was the best birthday present I ever got.
Back when the first time I brought it up my wife told me she loves wearing lingerie because it turnes ME on, ever since then whenever lingerie was bought as a gift it was always a gift from her to me. Though every woman is different and some women do feel better in sexy lingerie so you have to know your wife.
MissChar wrote:
I personally would like it. But all women are different and you know your lady the best. I know some women don't really like lingerie, so it can be safe to get something else as well... If you are worrying that it is selfish then maybe it is...if you get me! :) xx
+1 :) xxx
My OH would think it selfish to give lingerie at xmas or bdays, so lingerie gifts are only ever on the hoof as it were. Or to appease Mistress.
I really love lingerie, so it would not be that selfish if OH gave me lingerie as a gift. But I actually prefer to do the shopping myself :)
I love it when my partner buys me undies because I love seeing his face when I wear them. X
I get her other presents but always a piece of lingerie I would like her to wear. She knows how much it turns me on. Yes it is a gift for me but when she wears it she sure is in for a fantastic time. It's just a gift that keeps on giving :)
if she likes wearing the lingerie and feels good in it and would want it, it's not selfish. There is no truly benevolent act anyway, in my opinion.
Cara Sutra wrote:
if she likes wearing the lingerie and feels good in it and would want it, it's not selfish. There is no truly benevolent act anyway, in my opinion.
I might donate some money to the EDL to prove you wrong
but then I'd win the argument. Which would mean I lose the argument. 
StHubbins wrote:
Cara Sutra wrote:
if she likes wearing the lingerie and feels good in it and would want it, it's not selfish. There is no truly benevolent act anyway, in my opinion.
I might donate some money to the EDL to prove you wrong
but then I'd win the argument. Which would mean I lose the argument.
I'm sure this sounds like an episode of friends
Like everyone else mentioned, it will depend on your own ladies opinion. Some women love lingerie as a gift, others may think it was selfish (If they have little interest in dressing up in lingerie) some may even get upset, thinking it was a hint or something. Yup all us womenz are different! I think Ron gave the best advice, if you are not sure of her reaction, you could always get the lingerie as a side gift, and ensure her main gift is something unrelated to sex/lingerie etc. That would be what I would do if I was unsure.
My lady and I discussed this before the first birthday we were together.
She will happily wear anything I buy for her lingerie-wise, but they are a gift for me, not her. She is however more than happy for me to buy myself a gift on her birthday ;-)
Equally, she bought a toy for me to use on her, and so that is a present for her.
Simple really!
Of course its a gift for you, but its also for her too. I love buying Mrs Mozz lingerie, and I've already got her something special for us for Christmas and we'll open it in the evening once the house is empty.
She loves looking sexy and gorgeous, and I love it too.
Don't be afraid to buy something nice, but how about labelling it for her and you, that way the message is clear and you don't have to feel selfish. Just make sure you buy her something else really special too that's just for her.
gotta say bud that when I buy ligerie for the OH I say it's a gift for me
sorry
Iwish wrote:
Hi I am thinking of buying my wife some lingerie for Christmas but I am worried that it seems like a selfish gift,what are your thoughts on receiving lingerie as a gift.
I know for a fact my OH is buying me some for Christmas its a treat for both I cant wait to wear it for him
I would love lingerie however as most things it comes with a word of warning re sizing fit and more importantly colour. If your wife hates red and thongs and her stomach and you buy her a red babydoll with matching thong you are in trouble!!
It can be a mine field if you don't know her tastes. I know its boring but a gift voucher from her favourite store or a simple nightdress or say stockings if she wears them may be safer.
My other half leaves me to buy what I love then wraps and pays for it. No surprises but we are both happy when I try it on on Christmas day.
Here's the problem with it. It's a very personal thing. I know what I like, I know what I'm looking for and which brands and styles fit the best. The only lover who ever brought me lingerie got it really wrong. Wrong size and a thong, I like not having a permanent wedgie.
Bless him it was very early days!
If you know her and the size and style she prefers go for it, but get her something she can unwrap in front of others too.