@Tenshadesandme in my relationship it’s something my husband wanted and I changed to spice up our sex life but after time I grew to love it
In no way am I a narcissist - I just love being loved
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In my experience, it does the opposite of what you are trying to achieve. Especially if the title is click bait, like the title for this thread.
Just my opinion though
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Please don’t release them all at once we’d need a whole day to read and recover.
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You raise a good question that goes beyond just kink, it’s in every part of life and all human interactions.
It’s like bobbing for apples, they all look the same and you don’t know what you get until you open it up and see what’s inside. At some point you will find that dominant or that submissive that’s a narcissist that’s when the community they are apart of sets in. I would say I’m a retired Dom but I noticed the community at large to be quite a self regulating entity. I’ve seen small group play made up of all narcissistic people and it’s not pretty, I provided the catering for it. Made my money and then some.
I don’t think it’s something to worry about or have to fight, it’s one thing people who are here or have anything invested into this lifestyle we choose to embrace know. Love, respect, communicate.
As ever sir, you know how to get the cogs turning.
This got me asking an even broader question: not just Dominants, but leaders? Who are we to decide that we should be different, go our own way? Why should we not follow the path more travelled?
I should imagine that hosting a party of all narcissistic people was not pretty, beneficial though it was.
Alright, not oppose, but can we at least explore it?
It’s the bedroom scene in American Psycho running on every narcotic at the same time and when egos get bruised. That’s when they leave one way or another.
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That’s what the forums for
open discussion and exploration on all things.
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Wait!!! What will we be talking about? 
I mean the misconceptions of kinky people more generally is always a fun one
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Ah! Like the secret handshake and greeting
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And we sleep with anyone that even shows a smidgen of interest
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Wait, you mean we don’t? But I thought I was supposed to!
Are Dominants narcissists?
Yeah they can be, bc dominants come in all flavours. But by definition, a true dominant can’t be narcissistic bc they are caring for their submissives needs and what happens between them is controlled by the submissive, who actually have all the power
The other side of the dominant coin is the ‘alpha male’ types who think that bc they want to be seen as the leader, that they can give some orders, wield a paddle and that makes them a dominant. They don’t understand the difference between being dominant and being a dominant. This is the type I’ve come across the most, its really easy to spot them bc they can’t help but declare their ‘dominance’ to all. And they think they’ve nothing to learn.
My cats are climbing on me wanting to be fed. I think I was mostly finished my thoughts, but I’ll add more if anything else comes to mind.
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They shouldn’t be. They will struggle to ever find a sub if they are
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Like everything in life there is good and bad , i have been unfortunate to meet a few " Doms " who believe the world revolves around them and think subs are just there for their pleasure , So wrong , But 90% of Doms i have met have been really nice level headed people whos partners / subs absolutely adore them
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Indeed smelly bad eggs at that too 
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No, I don’t believe they are, at all. Being dominant, IMO, is far more about caring, empathy and wanting a sub to enjoy themselves than most non-kinky people realise.
That’s not happ’nin either. None of them are finished.
Some are close, but aren’t up to my standards. Some are ideas and notes, some half written.
Not quite sure how I ended up with so many, but still!
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