I try to give anyone the benefit of the doubt. It’s not my fault if they don’t want to change their ways 
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I will never ever give a narcissist the benefit of the doubt. I’ve been the victim too many times. No more.
(Bear in mind I do agree with the notion that a behaviour can be narcissistic, but the person may well not be a narcissist. But once they have proved themselves as a narcissist, they are done. No second chances.)
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Generally I give them just enough ‘rope’ with which to hang themselves, but I know the signs, and once I see them? That door comes down and it’s minimal interaction only. I will be pleasant, because I believe it’s only right to be pleasant, but there is no closeness and no gifts or favours. I think my tolerance for narcissistic abuse has gotten a lot shorter too, and being in a new polycule with amazing communication and healthy respect, yeah, I just know now the way it’s supposed to be.
ETA: now that I know I’m in a healthy polycule (with a friend-turned-partner, much like I understand it went for you), and within that space I am healing from narcissistic abuse, I find myself saying over and over “I just knew I wasn’t the bigger problem”, because I never was. Truly “toxic” people are never willing to self-reflect on their “toxic” behaviour. I always am, and I always have been. My biggest flaw, probably, is that I give the wrong people the benefit of the doubt. I believe that everyone is or will be nice to me, and unfortunately, not everyone is or wants to be. Thank God for my “harem” of rather protective sadists! 
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Should narcissistic dominants made into subs
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No, you’re feeding them attention and ammunition then, to paint you as the abuser. If you’re dealing with a Narcissist or a narcissistic person, it’s always better to go completely “grey rock”, or at least as much as you possibly can.
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Do they have any redeeming features? Can they be rehabilitated and returned into normal beings?
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Not in my highly unprofessional opinion! A professional may disagree, of course, but I think as with any therapy, as much depends on the individual’s willingness to engage with therapy. In simpler terms, a Narcissist would have to want to get better, and be committed to getting better. How can someone want to “get better” when they believe they’re already above everyone else?
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They will be sent to a rehabilitation center and told there not above everyone else. Daily spankings on the menu
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I don’t believe your therapeutic approaches will work for cases of true Narcissism, though I am willing to be proven wrong
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I don’t believe either, better to stay away from them
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@lilly30 they will be visited by 3 ghosts and in one night be taught the error of their narcissistic ways.
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3 nuns?
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And now that I can see it, I can’t unsee it
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@Tenshadesandme i love your photos on the blog post 
nice heels and the lady with a hat looks like not narcissistic confident
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They’re not mine, they’re stock images. The only images that are mine are the ones on our Magnolia Room Of Sensation and our sex toy reviews
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I’ve come to believe the same. They can’t be treated therapeutically. This isn’t a game - daily spankings is a fun thing. The thing you need to realise is that a narcissist’s personality is built from the outside in. They won’t change because they aren’t capable of seeing it. There are some really good books on the subject, if you’re interested.
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Would you use your own photos? I’ve seen a few couple blogs with creative angles where the face is not seen just like that lady. Just my suggestion
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Unlikely, privacy is a big thing for us. It’s not just our faces, some people might recognise our home.
Quite besides, creative photography is not my thing, my creativity is my words. I’ve got enough to do and I do do enough, without having to take more hours out of my day for photoshoots
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3 grans
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I would have said You would be visited by 3 Doms but that’s just your cup of tea.
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