Hello I’m asking this question on this site because I might get some honest answers. Do people cheat on holidays without their partner. My gf is going on one next week and she cheated in her last relationship so I’m a bit anxious. Her friends aren’t great influences either. Am I wrong to be anxious?
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Sadly I know of friends who have cheated on these types of holidays but you should try and trust her. If she does something then that’s on her and you’d be right to be angry. But there’s nothing you can really do
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I am sure that a proportion do, why would they be any different from lads going on holiday. I guess this isn’t what you want to hear.
It appears to be a trust issue, unfortunately if it is going to happen it will happen wherever, it could be the out of sight out of mind which makes this more of an issue now.
I think that the only thing you can do is explain your fears and see how she reacts.
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Unfortunately I’m sure many do, although there plenty that never would.
It’s a personal choice to cheat and although you will get many opinions, you are not going to get an answer only your OH knows this 
Hopefully things are different for her in this relationship with you 
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It definitely does happen but it doesn’t mean it will happen to you.
I have to confess (and I’m absolutely ashamed) that I stupidly let a guy finger me when I was on holiday and it rightfully ended our relationship. Thankfully I’m more mature now.
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We’ve been together 8 months, she’s 18. She will probably get drunk.
@anon89633031 why did you do it?
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Drinking is not an excuse, from what you have written and I sound like an old fart, it appears that it is too early in a relatively new relationship to be convinced of monogamy.
You know your partner, you know her past, it could happen again, equally she might regret what has happened in the past and not go there again.
I think what is clear is that you are conjuring alot of unhelpful scenarios in your mind, and that will not be good for your mental health.
It all really boils down to do you trust her…?
Then you need to think whether if the worst was to happen could your relationship survive it?
Armed with those two pieces of information you will be able to make a decision.
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@anon20826186 i was younger and very stupid. I just wanted to try something different but regret it to this day.
I don’t think it’s got anything to do with a girls holiday to be honest. She will either cheat or not cheat and you either trust her or you don’t.
Being 18 is extremely difficult as your only young once and around that age people do tend to act impulsively and make silly mistakes, not that older people don’t but the older you get it’s much easier to think before you act.
Nobody on here can tell you if she will cheat or not as nobody knows you or her but you have to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe have a talk about your feeling before she goes, be honest with each other and talk about how committed you really are. At 18 years old il openly admit I cheated on the odd boyfriend here and there, I’m not proud but I was just young and I don’t feel guilty for that. I’m in my mid 30s now and would never cheat or even entertain another person behind my partners back.
Please don’t worry about this and don’t let it consume your relationship at this early stage.
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If it’s going to happen it’s going to happen, no matter what gender you are or how old you are, or how long you’ve been together. My sister in-law has been married for over 20 years and her husband has been having an affair for the past year, and going between the both of them now.
All you can do is talk and talk and trust.
Its one of those things sadly.
Sometimes it happens either intentionally or drunken mistakes. Regardless of male or female.
Just gotta have a bit of trust in your partner.
Unfortunately there is nothing anyone can do about it if it happens, it just means you aren’t meant to be. TRUST is a big part of any relationship & if that’s what is worrying you then perhaps talking might help. If both people are into each other seriously either one could do anything without cheating on the other!
I’ve known people who’s partners have cheated on holiday but it hasn’t effected their relationship as they said they will never see them again.
Personally I couldn’t cope with it.
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Personally speaking, no, I’ve never cheated when I’ve been on holiday without my partner. As the others have said though, we can’t really speak for your girlfriend, but I just wanted to say that it is certainly possible to go on a girls holiday and not cheat! 
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So many of you have read my blog called “On my Mind” and the fantasy I have (had) with one of my wife’s friends. Turned out that they also have done some lesbian experimenting while on girl trip/sleepovers. I think I would be more mad about it if she wasn’t my fantasy too. The fact that my wife got to experience this woman sexually while I could only dream about it was frustrating but ironic and amusing at the same time.
I think we all do stupid stuff we wouldn’t do if our SO was present. I have been to the strip club when on a business trip and did things I would never do now. It wasn’t “sex” but it would have made for some serious arguments had Mrs. Val found out back then (she knows now as we came clean with everything to each other thanks to this forum).
I agree that if she wants to stay committed to your relationship she likely will have better self control than if she wants a way out or is more afraid of what her friends think than you.
Trust is a magical thing in a relationship. Giving it is tough but expecting it is earned. In my case I wasn’t upset as in my mind I would have loved to do the same thing and for some reason Mrs. Val being with another woman who is our friend was easier to accept in my brain than her being with another strange man, or a male friend for some reason. I don’t know why, but I don’t have any animosity about it but I’m sure Mrs. Val would be pissed if I did the same thing to the same woman.
Every relationship is different so I would allow her to be innocent until proven guilty and not let it eat you up especially if nothing happens. Let her be her and you will know soon enough. Besides, if it happens on this upcoming trip, it honestly likely happened before too.
Plan for the best and deal with it then. Don’t get suspicious or a jackass about it or you may push her away and inadvertently aid in the demise of the relationship.
Just my 2 cents…
I would be open and honest with her and hopefully she would be the same with you tell her about your feelings it’s all about trust and it has to be there 
I wouldn’t cheat, I’d end the relationship if I was tempted because obviously something isn’t right.
No one here can give you the answer thats going to make you feel better.
I have questions…
Did you know at the beginning of the relationship that she had cheated in her last relationship?
Going on holiday is no different from going on a night out. If she’s going to cheat it’ll happen at any time, not just because she’s going on holiday.
You need to talk to her, you’re going to be on edge the whole time she’s away until you can look her in the eyes and see if theres any guilt. Her friends have nothing to do with it, she’s the one you need to trust. Have you trusted her until now?
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Welcome to the forum dude 
If she’s cheated before on a holiday then of course your gonna be anxious and running a million scenarios but what you need to bare in mind is trust, as if you don’t trust her then whatever she says afterwards your head is gonna pick holes to not believe and think the worst…
Also as a trusting exercise if by chance she does cheat on you then in my view it shows how much you meant to her. Have you tried talking about all this with her and how you’re worried?
The only good reassurance you’ll get is gonna be from her
Personally if I thought my Oh was going to cheat on holiday and I just couldn’t trust her then I’d seriously be thinking about ending things with her. I need to be able to trust my oh and I want the same in return
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depends on the size of his length 
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