Hi @Spooner1 
Welcome to the forum!
The forum is the community chat. You’re on it! There hasn’t been any private chat for a very long time.
Not having the right biology for prostate play I can’t really help but there are quite a few topics where people have discussed various different toys if you do a quick search. Prostate Massager Recommendations for First Time User is one from a week or so back that you might find helpful.