Confused about rules

I’m a bit confused about rules on the forum. I’ve seen some posts been taken down I won’t say names for obvious reasons which I personally though we’re ok in relation to the topic or threatened to be taken down or closed. I’ve also seen posts were the post left nothing to the imagination which I think is fine considering this is about sex so long as you’re talking about you and OH. Is this a member thing where the longer you’re here the more you can say/get away with

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Hi @Horny_Happy_Husband , without the examples it’s very hard to answer your question. I’m only aware of one post that’s been hidden over the weekend and in that case the contents of the post were fine but the profile picture broke the rules… maybe I’ve missed something though?

It’s definitely not a member thing where the longer you’re here the more you can get away with. The same rules apply to everyone.

Topics, where the subject gets derailed often get edited a bit but the posts then aren’t removed they’re just moved over to a more appropriate thread (I’ve had this happen to mine a few times, you just get a notification saying it has happened.)

I think most often when I’ve seen posts removed because of their content it’s because either they contain non-Lovehoney photos in non-photo threads or because it’s become flirtatious chat between two members though usually a little reminder comes up that this is not the forum for that first.

Hopefully, I’ve answered your question? As I say though, without knowing which posts you’re talking about I’m not too sure :woman_shrugging:t2:

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All rules apply equally to everyone. :+1:

I think I’ve only seen this on the When did you last masturbate?/ When did you last have sex? topics recently. Are you talking about the descriptions in those?

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I’ve mainly seen them being taken down if the person is being too inappropriate or flirting or it contains information or a picture of a non love honey product. This is rare though. They usually get edited by a mod or moved to another thread where it makes sense. I’ve been here for about 3 months and I’ve never gotten any of my own taken down because I try not to be too obscene, flirty, etc and I be careful to only talk about Lovehoney items and not others that are not sold on the site.

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I find it’s usually newbies who think the forum is something it’s not, and haven’t read the rules. They don’t seem to stay around long. Sometimes it’s easy to get involved in one to one conversations accidentally, but it’s rare IMO.

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The rules apply to all members no matter what trust level. Posts can be edited/removed for a variety of reasons but the poster is normally informed why.

Is it specifically the graphic language rule you are confused about?

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I’ve been a little confused about this rule but haven’t gotten round to ask anyone yet… Perfect time I guess​:woman_shrugging:
Is it only photos of non-lovehoney products that are not allowed? Are non Lovehoney products allowed be discussed without photos or not at all? I think I remember reading you can’t link to other sex toy company websites, but what about the likes of Amazon or other general shopping websites?

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It’s a ‘no competitor’ thing, so we don’t all ditch Lovehoney and give our money to someone else. :slightly_smiling_face: If it sounds like you’re saying ‘go buy this from elsewhere’ then it’ll be trimmed out (pictures or text).

There are a couple of exceptions -

If you bought it from Lovehoney in the past, but it’s now no longer stocked then that’s fine to talk about (eg. my Lelo Sona Cruise); or if it’s an item that’s stocked in the US or Aus, etc store but not in the UK then that’s fine to chat about too (eg. Satisfyer suction toys). You have to mention them in relation to Lovehoney though, not suggest alternative suppliers.

Amazon and Ebay are fine to mention, but not for sex toys, etc. For anything Lovehoney don’t sell you’re fine. :+1: (eg. nail polish)

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To clarify this as well, links to non-competitor sites are allowed anywhere (as long as they are not porn obviously!) but photos that you upload of anything other than the Lovehoney site are only allowed in photo topics where they can be moderated before they are uploaded to the forum.

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Someone asked where they could find ‘sex workers’ - I gave an honest reply with a non specific location but it was edited out. I didn’t take it personally. I post a lot, so occasionally it happens. Just one of those things but it shows there is no favoritism for forum regulars. You also have to accept that there will be inconsistencies as each moderator will apply their own interpretations

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And I don’t think anyone ever should. I can’t imagine Brenna ever editing someone’s post out of spite or misery (though maybe that’s because I can’t imagine Brenna doing anything out of spite or misery :slightly_smiling_face:). They’re only ever edited to bring them into line with the forum rules/ethos.

Obviously there are a lot more posts than can be covered by a single moderator, so there will be times when you see an edit of one post and another petty much the same has been left untouched. But if you see something that you think has been missed then pop a flag in it. :black_flag: :slightly_smiling_face::+1:

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I just got edited this morning because I miss understood a rule it happens to most of us at one point or another.
sorry @Lovehoney_Brenna it won’t happen again.
I don’t want to make you’re job harder

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Most does apply to ‘when did you last have sex’ where some people went into detail and were fine but others put up similar and nearly identical words but were taken down, and also some with less detail was taken down

I’ve fallen foul to edits by MOD.
The ones that have , have been rhetorical questions that obviously didn’t require an answer, but intended as a bit of humour. Lost in the translation I suppose.
I’d never ask a member for any personal info and would hardly expect anyone to be as daft as t divulge anything.
I did say to a member on a subject that we would look forward to the photos ( think it was lingerie and was intended as encouragement for something they were nervous about doing) , but it was deemed as requesting a photo.
There has to be guidelines obviously, but sometimes, as I said, I think things can get lost in translation.
It is a great forum and i fully support it can not be allowed to descend in to something it isn’t.

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There are several reasons that can happen.

It could be that the slight differences in the posts were enough to tip one over the edge of too much (bit like how 12 certificate movies can get away with one f word kinda thing). It could be that the amended post maybe broke another forum rule. It could be that the poster had been previously warned about being a bit close to the limit. It could be that the removed/edited post was flagged by forum users who may not have seen later posts by others or just felt differently about them.

With a forum like this, it’s always going to be a bit of a blurred line between what is ok and what isn’t. Sometimes it will come down to a matter of opinion.

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This does make a little more sense

I hear what you’re saying. I think there’s a lot in the way things are said. There’s a post here you may find useful/informative New rules....

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