I’m not there yet but certain it is coming at some point. For males that already experience ED, what advice do you have? Is Viagra the miracle fix? Do some things turn you on more than others? Do you have to simply resort to toys? I dunno… but any feedback would be appreciated before I get to that stage in my life which I am sure is coming soon.
I haven’t found a solution yet. ED can mean different things. Some people say they have ED because they cannot get hard or cannot get sexually aroused. For me, the sexual desire is definitely there and I do have an erection, it just isn’t hard enough for penetration.
What works for me is trying penetrative sex in the morning when I no longer feel the stresses of the day and I’m a lot more relaxed (waking up next to my girlfriend is always a lovely experience). Trying it at the end of the day when I’m tired and have built things up through foreplay etc just doesn’t work, at least not currently.
I’m still working on it, I am by nature a stressy individual and I always put too much pressure on myself, in work and in leisure, but fortunately my girlfriend is patient and I always make sure I satisfy her.
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Thanks for sharing @AwkwardBloke . Most times I am not sure if ED drugs are more recreational than actually effective.
My ED (in my early 60’s) had a definite and curable cause (low testosterone level). It was treated with HRT and my confidence was restored using Sildanafil (Viagra).
Interestingly enough our relationship has evolved naturally to one where there is no PIV or PIA anyway but there are activities for which she requires me to be hard. If I know she needs me to be erect for a long time (a couple of hours) then I still use the Sildanafil but normally it is not needed.
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I always appreciate your very open and honest posts @rockstar. Thank you.
I suffer with ED and viaga does help to some extent. Only take it very occasionally and don’t seem to have any side effects.
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I am getting personal here but… may I ask general ages of folks with ED? At 56 I must be close…
Try pelvic floor exercises. Google will find several explanations and instructions on NHS sites.
Erectile dysfunction can have various different causes.
Some men have low testosterone or other hormonal problems, and viagra/cialis might help but you’d be better off fixing the underlying problem.
For some men it’s more a psychological problem, and viagra/cialis helps them to get their confidence back but isn’t needed long term.
For some men it’s a side effect of medication and it’s important to tread carefully because viagra/cialis can interact with some medications.
For some men it’s an issue with blood flow to the penis, which is what these medications are designed for.
I don’t have any ED issues, but penetration is an issue for us, too, but for a different reason: it has become difficult and sore for my (60-year-old) wife.
I was going to say it is a ‘problem’, but it has been something of a blessing, in a a way, because we have learned to (mostly) replace penetration with masturbation. We now both enjoy that more than we ever enjoyed penetration, along with all the other things we have come up with to make up for not being able to have penetration.
So if you can’t find a fix for your ED, maybe your answer is to pursue other pleasures as a substitute, and take the pressure off penetration as your goal.
We’re the same.
We’ve moved our relationship away from penetrative sex for her (I still get anally penetrated frequently) towards orgasms by other means.
It’s improved the quality and frequency of our orgasm immensely.
I’ve a friend who takes a lot of the pills and short term it helped him, although now long term he actually feels like his body has become immune to the effects as it don’t last or even work like it used to… plus he’d get headaches sometimes.
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For some men it is also never damage from either some sort of trauma or from a disease like diabetes.
And sometimes there is no explanation for what causes it.
Pills work for about 70% of men and sometimes stop working, but there are other means to help. There are shots you can give yourself in the penis and there are implants.
If you are experiencing it then go talk to your medical provider.
Great info shared by everyone and appreciated. I am not there yet but but suspect I am close. All the info gives me the questions to ask once I need to deal with it which I suspect is soon.
I wouldn’t say I’ve suffered with ED, but I did try viagra for some marathon sessions when it first became available. It worked, but did give me a head ache, and a slightly flushed look!
On another note, I recently started taking pills for an enlarged prostate, and its definitely improved my erections as well as having the desired effect
What medication for an enlarged prostate? I thought most of those could contribute to ED.
Just thought I’d give an update on this. I’m a 36 year old male so my ED wasn’t age related but psychological. I spent a bit of time being frantic about all kinds of things, thought it was because of my diet, my alcohol intake, my stress from work, or maybe I was just a eunuch and destined to be sexless.
I’m happy to report that my gf and I have a good sex life now. We are having sex every day that we’re together (not every day, because we don’t live together).
She’s my first and it was very much all in my head, performance anxiety etc. I think one of the things that helped was escaping with her on holiday for a few days, we spent almost every minute of every day with each other and I really relaxed in her company - more so than I had before. Because we were always together, I lost the pressure of having to “do something” before one of us had to leave for work or something else. That really wasn’t helping me perform and I had to lose that feeling in order to feel truly relaxed with the topic of sex.
I hope this helps anyone else with this issue, it obviously won’t help those with an actual medical problem, but I would strongly recommend looking at the potential psychological issues first.
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Where any meds involved or just the lifestyle change did it for you?
I didn’t take anything. The only things I took were blue herbal things off Amazon which I see as placebos only. Worked as many times as they didn’t, and our best sex has been since I gave them up. Definitely no actual medication.
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Ang advice on the low testosterone?? I am 99% sure that is what my issue is.
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