So my OH has brought up his fantasy of cuckolding again, it happened a few years back and we talked a lot (I took a lot of persuading!) and finally we were both happy with the idea and we were getting into finding another man to join us. Then it all feel apart my OH quickly decided this wasn’t what he wanted so we put the idea to bed.
The other night he brought it back up, said it had never gone away…
I’m in 2 minds on the matter, based how it stopped last time when it started getting real I worry taking the fantasy to real life would be too much…
On the other hand the thought of being that slutty is obviously titillating…
So I am hoping for some help and advice on other ways I might be able to help him explore his fantasy, which doesn’t involve another man!!
I have heard of getting life like dildos and watching cuckold porn?
Has anyone been in the same boat as me? What worked for you and your OH?
Thank you!!!
I think it probably every mans fantasy to be with 2 ladies but in reality i think is another thing. I think the idea of the dildo and watching the porn is a good idea. Possibly also consider a club where you could watch but may be not take part. I think a lot more discussion, consequences need to be considered first before diving in. @BJ2022
@steve19 hank you so much. I think you’re right, definitely not ready to dive in! But if it’s something he’s into I’d like to be able to help him explore and feel fulfilled
Club is a good idea too, thank you!!
I really admire you for wanting to help him fulfill his desires but should also think about your desires/feelings. How would he feel if you wanted to introduce another man into the relationship? @BJ2022
Perhaps a trip to a local club as viewers will tell you both how you feel to take the next step should there ever be one !
again keep talking about it as much as possible try to discuss all the pros and cons both ways
Welcome to the forum too
We have some experience in this department and what I’m about to say is probably not what you want to hear very rarely is this situation like you see in porn and my advice would be to keep it a fantasy.
The idea of what it could be like and your imagination are far better than the reality… normally.
I was very lucky and only have a few things left on the bucket list, but I plan to leave them on the list and not spoil my few remaining ‘wank bank’ fantasy’s.
I had a partner that loved using sex toys and it was what I thought was just something that really aroused him. He liked to use several different toys in one session.
It wasn’t until one night he told me he was imagining it was other men in our bed and it was this what aroused him and it got to the point where no toys = no sex.
I thought it was just a fantasy but he wanted to take this further…I said no but it was something he so obviously wanted.
He brought some mates round one night after a session in the pub and asked if I was “up for it” I declined but it freaked me out somewhat.
You don’t know how you’re going to feel afterwards and also how your partner will feel. I know someone who squirted for the first time in this situation…her partner watched her “loving it” made him feel inadequate and they split leaving her feeling like she was just used to fulfil a fantasy…
It’s a common fantasy and works well for some couples but you both have to be 100% on board with this and discuss it through. Cuckold porn and dildos can be enough to scratch that itch…
So yes…I guess watch the porn together and use toys and your imagination see how you both feel…talk…talk and talk more…not in the moment. If it’s something you both want just remember it can’t be undone once it’s done.
Good Luck whichever way you decide to explore this.
I concur with @Trine , fantasy is a great place for it . I have a number of fantasies that get me horny as heck , but the real thing could never live up to what I imagine . If actually done , if experience is bad there is not do over . A relationship gamble with big risks .
@steve19 Im on the fence if I’m totally honest, I feel like it sounds like winning the sex lottery on paper, but you Just never know how you’d feel after and how the relationship would be effected.
My OH totally fulfils my needs and kinks, cuckolding would never be something I’d have even though of! I just hope I can find some ways to help indulge him without having to take it too far you know?
@Oldman totally agree, my main concern would be damage to the relationship so really hope I can bring some alternatives to the table without involving another man!! Thank you
@CurvyJilly woah im so sorry to hear that, I would not like that sprung on me either!!
I hope you’re right and using toys and porn will help, as much as I’m intrigued, I feel it may be better as a thought or fantasy! A happy relationship isn’t something I want to be gambling with!!
Hi…the change of mind would concern me, I would definitely look at alternatives and really talk about it before you bring another person into it. Ask him what it is about cuckolding that turns him on and go from there.
CH was never a of an interest to me whatsoever, for those that do indulge as long as they are happy then all the best.
If he changed his mind first time round, to me that suggests it is merely a fantasy and going ahead and turning into a reality would, I would think, be a big mistake.
Maybe it’s the generation I grew up with, if I were to try something like @CurvyJilly ex did I would be told in no uncertain circumstances by my mates what a … I was and to get a grip as I would say to them, any friend who agreed to it would not be a friend.
Totally agree! Thank you!! @JoCat that’s why I was so she’ll shocked when he told me it had never gone away? Confused! But everyone’s advise and help has been great, deffo got some ideas
You could also try having him wear a strap on, that way he gets the simulation of you having sex with a penis, but he doesnt get stimulation, when we are usinh chastity, its one of my favourite things.
Chastity cage could also be a safe way of explorung cuckolding, the two arent reliant on each other but its not uncommon for chaste men being cuckolded by a “bull”. The “bull” could simply be a dildo you find appealing. Have him watch without being able to touch himself could play into his fantasy too
Great idea!! Thank you so much!!
I’d much prefer a toy acting as the bull, never would of thought of the strap on, will take this into our conversations
very rarely is this situation like you see in porn and my advice would be to keep it a fantasy.
