I have the same fantasy as your OH and to be honest I don’t think it ever really goes away, I think there is definitely periods where you feel like it wouldn’t be a good idea and put it to the back of your mind, but then weeks later it will come back stronger
I think with this fantasy there’s a lot of other factors that can play on the mind, society, what would people think if they knew, will your partner think less of you etc and it can be easy to try and forget it
I’m trying to bring this up to my OH now, if she was up for using a large dildo and watching cuckold porn that would be a huge turn on, so I definitely think that’s something you can explore together
Since you already know he has this fantasy, why not surprise him with a cuckold video you found online and let him know how much it turned you on, and how you wish it was you on the video, then as him if he wants to recreate it together… guarantee that will drive him wild
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I agree with the fantasy vs reality thing. There are periods of time the fantasy is really strong then it ebbs and flows.
Not willing to risk it just yet
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42 M, married for 4.5 years. main advice is definitely do NOT rush into it and go “whole hog” straight away.
I see some have said about the porn, but personally I feel that’s a bit too “glamourised”. I’d say start off real slow, my wife had a few apps and would let me know on occasions whilst we were just casually watching Eastenders or something equally as crap, ‘oh I’m speaking to so and so’ and even that to begin with sent tingles to the downstairs department haha!
Other small steps might be to perhaps when you’re both out tapdancing the night away the two of you, (I’m definitely too old to be clubbing!), let loose a bit and you go dance with someone who tickles your fancy and if comfortable enough with your partners response, make out with whoever you’re dancing with- if feeling brave, and just take little steps and I promise you won’t regret it.
Also the swingers type clubs recommendation is always a good port of call, and not having the pressure to do anything and see what it’s about may help… if not I promise it’s a great night either way!
I lost all my inhibitions when I met my wife as well as my marbles! And never looked back 
Good Luck!
Mark x
“Old ways don’t open up new doors”
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How did this turn out in the end did anything ever come from it? Did you find a solution? I remember reading this ages ago.
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You definitely have to be sure you want to do it yourself. And I think it’s a bad idea to commit to definitely doing anything you always need a way out or a safe word in case you feel uncomfortable. Toys can be a real help when playing around with fantasies and keeping them just as fantasy. As someone said real life is not like the movies (or porn movies,) those people are used to what they do and they’re acting. It’s very different in real life. I hope you sorted something out that keeps you and your partner happy.
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That is a very slippery slope to head down…I had a friend who insisted his wife be with another man…after it actually happened the divorce followed about 8 months later…He could not put behind himself the fact his wife agreed to have sex with another man, so he was sure she had been cheating on him in the past…
thats stoopid