Me and my gf joined a swingers club, just to watch, not take part,
But I have told her I would love to watch her have another man in front of me, she says she isn’t interested so I don’t push it, but I still would love it
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Really dont push her if she has said no then that should be it.
You really dont want to know what i would do if i was her and you kept pushing and my post above would just be the tip of the iceberg.
Edited by mod thank you for your honest and heart warming post…Great post !!!
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Cuckolding is a really sexy and fun experience, my first partner was open to a lot and we did try this on a few occasions.
One huge flag I would wave is just to be very clear in communication. Set boundaries for both of you and also do not do anything unless you 100% understand this will change things for you both. Some folks are fine with sharing but a lot of people blur lines between reality and porn.
Porn scenarios will have the new person/bull join you both and will give your partner explosive orgasms and will be the huge fantasy you have always dreamed of. You then walk away like nothing happened.
Reality, someone will come round, unless you have seen them naked and performing before you have no idea what they will be like. Feelings will start to happen and this can cause confusion in both partners. Guilt may set in at a later date, he/she/they may not have been the experience you expected and it may be super awkward.
So… in conclusion, remember folks that reality isn’t porn. But do have fun and if your comfortable and confident don’t stop enjoying sex and all the beautiful things in brings.
Also, personal experience is we did have fun and it was great as I was bi so I got Involved too. It was extremely hot seeing my ex being pounded within a few inches of my face, we ended up both taking her at the same time in the end, but it did cause some minor issues, mainly her feeling guilty.
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So is she your ex because of what happened then?
Nope, we carried on and had a lot more experiences and fun and we had a beautiful life together. But in the end we slowly became friends rather than lovers and decided to end things mutually.
I still care deeply about her, but we hit a cross road and some things are best to leave when it’s still mutual. I guess we spent our teen years and early twenties together and then 10+ years were filled with so many good times we didn’t quite see the paths slowly separating.
Having threesomes never caused us too much problems, the guilt did happen though and jealousy. We worked through them though and it made us stronger. But we just weren’t meant to be.
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Wanted to update on journey. Wife and I are close. She has had 2 guys eat her out and the last guy we both sucked each other. Wife was right above me watching as he played with her
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I’m in a similar position to most. I’ve discussed it with my Mrs and while she says the idea is hot I’m not sure it would ever become a reality. She’s gone from “maybe” to “no” and back to “maybe, but would have to be with people who live far away”. I also desire it and the don’t, but that’s partly a letting the porn brain take over.
I must say though, that lately when I’ve cum, I still found the thought of another guy joining in is a turn on. I’m not so much into cuck scenarios, and more into stag/vixen.
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That’s a great piece of advice. As fun as it is life is not porn. And furthermore cuckolding is not swinging, hotwifing, etc. Unfortunately the majority of cuckold relationships we’ve known through the years didn’t work out. It’s a very different dynamic than swinging. It not trying to discourage anyone from it. But I would encourage any couples considering it or anything similar to seek a therapist, counselor, etc. Hubby and I are good at communicating. But I owe a lot of that to our bi-weekly therapy sessions we’ve done for years. Preemptive therapy before problems arise is a wonderful thing.
Our very brief taste of cuckolding was planned out and entered with caution. It involved our reaching out to a professional bull who is still in the business but mostly does professional on camera stuff now. Before getting together we had multiple phone conversations and met in person for drinks once before we moved forward. All this at his behest even though we lived the life we did. Our first experience with him was mild by design and didn’t go beyond my hubby not having sex with me a few days prior and wearing a cage. The second time around was way way deeper and in the moment was great. But the days that followed had some red flags the bull helped us along with. The three of us came to the consensus it was best we didn’t venture that deep into it again or at least would make it a very rare thing. Years later we haven’t tried again.
Again not trying to g to dissuade but instead encouraging not to jump in full go without preparing.
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This was quite the fetish for me for a while. I actually sought out a few women on dating sites to try BBC cuckolding. It was just a phase but a memorable one. A couple of women discovered their tastes and might remember me for it. Fast times, but surreal.
“Again not trying to g to dissuade but instead encouraging not to jump in full go without preparing.”
Completely agree.
Part of preparing is choosing who to do this with.
For many, choosing someone who is not a friend works better.
Having to see and deal with the person a lot in your life outside of the bedroom isn’t always the best if things don’t work out and it’s not always the best if they work out too well either…
Part of preparing needs to include aftercare.
It needs to include whether it’s a one time thing or not.
Protection, whether it will be used or not.
Basically there should be no surprises for either partner when the 3rd becomes involved.
I get things can change in life, but changes to the “script” (for lack of a better term) need to happen AFTER the event. Couples shouldn’t discuss and agree to things and then have one of them change it up during the middle of the event.
Changes need to be discussed by them, not with or around the other person and not during the event with another person.
Back to aftercare. So many discuss the sex itself, what can or can’t be done etc. but they are silent on the aftercare and that can be a big mistake, it is many times (not for everyone, but it happens) like when one person seems to enjoy it a bit too much for the other partners liking.
There are times when aftercare wasn’t discussed and one assumed that ABC would happen when the sex was over only to find out that their partner and the 3rd person go take a shower together with zero words being said or communicated about that happening.
And do NOT forget the safe word(s). Even if a person is watching, they may invoke the safe word to end it and regardless of which partner invokes the safe word, they both need to stop then and there.