Hi. Where is the best place to go and chat . Im not intersted in cheating on my partner but a bit of cyber sex might spice things up a bit.
Have you discussed this with your partner?
It's just that I personally would view it as cheating as it involves another real person.
Just my personal thoughts and everyone has different boundaries but it would be worth seeking your partners views on the matter before making a decision you may regret.
best wishes
CCW x
Also worth mentioning is that if you think it's something you have to keep from your partner then it can't really be something you think they'd be fine with.
Personally, if someone was doing that to me without telling me i'd consider it cheating.
no. not discussed it. We are very broad minded when it comes to sex. I have a very huge sex drive and I dont want to keep pushing the other half. I love all kinds of sex but i love my other half more than my own sexual desires.
If you havent discussed it then it might not be such a good idea, I would consider it cheating as well
xGGx
ghost wrote:
no. not discussed it. We are very broad minded when it comes to sex. I have a very huge sex drive and I dont want to keep pushing the other half. I love all kinds of sex but i love my other half more than my own sexual desires.
Like the others, I'm just asking rather than judging, but me and my gf are broad minded, and she has even suggested the idea of an open relationship, but even cybering is still something I'd want to talk to her about. Even though I'm sure she'd understand, I'd still want to respect her and the honesty/openess we have.
Ok, admittedly that wasn't actually asking a question, but you get my point?
Now I am more confused. We have a great sex life, everything goes, but I just want more and more all the time. Its not fair for me to expect the other half to deliver all the time. How can I surpress this? I thought cyber sex might just give me another outlet for my desires!
Ghost, it's not about you having cybersex, I can understand where you are coming from, and completely see your point. What we are trying to say is that it is something you should talk about with your partner, rather than just doing straight away.
Fantasy, erotic fiction, porn, masturbators est est. Depends on what you and her are comfortable with.
I'm not saying cybering is a problem in itself, i'm just saying that doing it behind her back might be more of a problem.
Ok Point taken. Not sure what the reaction will be, but lets see. Thanks for the feedback.
No worries. We'd just rather see you with blue balls than bruised ones.
As for where, not sure I can help with that one. Sorry.
ghost wrote:
Now I am more confused. We have a great sex life, everything goes, but I just want more and more all the time. Its not fair for me to expect the other half to deliver all the time. How can I surpress this? I thought cyber sex might just give me another outlet for my desires!
Isn't it?! Has she complained about how much sex you want or are you just assuming she's not keeping up to you in libido terms? You say your sex life is great, so I'd say your first port of call if you're horny and want more should be your lady, rather than msn messenger! You never know, she might be delighted to oblige.
SS xx
I agree with the others. cybersex is something you should discuss with her. I recently heard of a case when one of the partners did it and it really caused issues between them and made the other very unhappy. not a good thing to do behind your partner. Porn is safe, as it does not involve real people you can meet and have sex with. but cybersex has the potential of more behind it. thats why I would discuss it. with her first
and some women have a high sex drive. I can keep up most of the times apart from when I am in the wrong hormonal period and working 12 hours a day and in the evening I just want to crash into the bed.ln that case my partner just has to go and uses porn or our naughty photos to relieave himself,which is definitely fine by me. so it is always worth asking if she would like more or not, not assuming she does not want it right now.
I think it comes down to trust when you are in a relationship,I had told my girlfriend about the time i had a cyber playmate this is when i was single in the days of msn chatroom,She said cyber is ok with her as long as its just a random person not someone known to her or me and no exchange of phone numbers she said pictures are ok she wouldn't care if i had seen the face of the other person but she wouldn't be happy if that person saw my face,I get from how she was saying she has had cyber playmates in the past while she was in a relationship.
Its all down to trust do i trust her 100% yes same for her she trusts me,But if there is any doubt then this is when things could go wrong.
As she said its just fun and not hurting if its a random person its just like surrfing the net and watching porn or going onto adult forums.
My suggestion talk to her about it if she is happy about it then ok but if she is not then dont do it as then trust is out of the window.
Does it make sense should do....
Come on all of you! Did you read what ghost is asking?!?
Hi. Where is the best place to go and chat . ...
One started with advise to ask his gf first and all of you sing in one accord 'Have you asked her, have you , have you-uuuu?' 
Just tell the man where you normally chat without asking your gf, bg, oh first !
ShaftMaster had some info on Mywebcams.com.. ghost, you may see those girlies there and I think some offer to view your cam (if you pay them of course). Other than that, I don't know but if you discover anything let me know. (Hey, assuming you are a responsible adult and whatever you do you are aware of the consequences, don't think I am encouraging you!)
Jo wrote:
ShaftMaster had some info on Mywebcams.com.
Yeah, I went there when I was curious as to webcam sites when people on here said they perform on them. Haven't been there in a while (it wasn't the thing for me), and besides the point of paying, it's not something I'd consider a 'cyber sex' site, and so didn't think it was relevant to what Ghost asking.
Jo i totally agree with you!!
Ghost asked a question, wanting an answer .. not a lecture!! Im sure he didnt want to know if it was a good idea.. i didnt see him ask that!! Hmmm Ghost i hope you find something suited to your taste!!
I love all kinds of sex but i love my other half more than my own sexual desires.
so why the need for cyber sex? Bit contradictory there ghost. Cyber sex is cheating.