Hi there,
I posted under a different topic, but gives some context of my/our journey over the last 2 years, and more recent months.
We haven’t come out the other side yet, but I am hopeful. But I have found the lack of intimacy, the feeling of rejection, and the resulting bitterness quite challenging. I found it hard not to let it impact my behaviours (thankfully being very self aware helped avoid most of this). I spent 18 months I’m self reflection and study mode, reading, understanding all aspects of healthy relationships. Then about 2 months ago I opened a conversation up with conversation with my wife on our need for improved communications, intimacy, and the need to work on our marriage separate to our strong family (I view the marriage / family dynamic as separate but intrinsically linked). She was open / honest, and tbf was not consciously aware of the impact of her behaviours. I’ve also started some self experimenting / exploring as an aside - again from info / experiences here.
We’ve still A LONG way to go, but I’m hopeful at least.
Bit of a ramble, no idea if it helps, but best of luck. The people and information on this forum are amazing!!