I’ve been fisted a couple times by another woman and it was an odd combination of pleasure and pain. It’s been years and years and I’m ok if it never happens again.
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My wife loves me to finger her and this is often part of our foreplay. It gets her very horny when I play with her pussy lips and then slide just a finger or two inside her and stoke and rub the inside of her entrance. That gets her very wet and when I rub that juice over her clit it usually makes her cum.
We’ve not had any children yet, so she is nice and tight and I like it that way. We’ve not tried fisting and I wouldn’t want to stretch her like that in case it was painful. She seems happy with a good fingering and then sliding my cock inside her.
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Perhaps you need to do a little reading rather than posting uninformed and insulting statements like “…loose, non tight vaginas.”
What do you think happens after a woman has a vaginal birth? Does her vagina just stay that big? No, of course it doesn’t.
(Giving birth can have some effect, hence pelvic floor exercises etc)
On that understanding why would she get loose through fisting? Fisting doesn’t usually take 20+ hrs, like being in labour! 
The vagina expands in part through a woman being aroused, so will return to it’s original state after vaginal stimulation.
Unless she’s doing it multiple times every day, there should be no long term effect.
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I enjoy it from time to time. I don’t do it a lot but that’s more because I like variety in my play and I tend to top more these days.
But for anyone concerned, I didn’t just agree because a man wanted to do it to me, my vagina is still in great condition (and fyi, being too tight is painful so let’s stop glorifying that!).
OP if you and your partner want to try it, go for it. Plenty of lube, take it slow, it will be easier if she is nice and aroused. Start with one finger then keep adding fingers until she’s ready.
Other couple’s definitely do it, it is also a porn thing. But ultimately, if you are both turned on by the idea, does it really matter what others are doing? It’s your sex life
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Please go and do some research. Unless someone is at it constantly, no sexual activity is going to cause permanent stretching. That’s just a dangerous rhetoric used to shame women who enjoy sex.
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So, you’re basing your statement on anecdotal evidence? “…you hear about it.”
Well, you’re now hearing from women who have had babies, enjoy fisting and do not have vast, loose vaginas. Yet you choose to ignore that anecdotal evidence…
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Indeed! That’s what I’d think too but can remember watching a show on tv about women giving birth in different ways, which is when I first heard about this kinda thing… think the lady who found pleasure in it was into meditation and had babies before so it became more enjoyable
Me too but guessing if you’ve had babies already then your loosened up to it perhaps and combined with meditation it can become more erotic pleasing or something… I’ll have to try look it up and see if I can find the lady who had this
Hopefully she had an orgasm when it was conceived as well as when it was born
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I agree with user763. To me I see images in my head of a medical procedure that turns me very much off. Sorry we are all individuals I wouldnt appreciate it.
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Please stop trying to mansplain my vagina to me. You keep saying things like “women say” and yet argue against what women are saying.
During arousal, the vagina expands. Afterwards, it shrinks back down. It does not permanently stay the size (and shape) of the last thing that penetrated it.
An appropriate level of arousal is needed, for any penetration but particularly to take larger things, be that a penis, fist or toy. This is a combination of the vagina expanding, the production or addition of lubrication and the correct mental state of the person. Someone who is aroused and relaxed can be penetrated much more easily (this goes for any of their holes). Someone who is not relaxed (and possibly a little nervous) will tense their muscles. Unless there is a medical condition, the lack of one of the above is what causes penetration to be difficult or painful.
Now, yes, larger things do stretch the vagina whilst they are inside. That does cause a different sensation. Some women like that, some don’t, some don’t mind either way. If a woman were to either have sex with 2 men or use 2 toys, one after the other, if the first penis/toy is much girthier than the second, the vagina will be looser for the second but this will only be for a short period. It is not permanent. Plus women can also control their pelvic floor muscles and squeeze around the smaller penis/toy more, minimising the issue. However, if she were to have sex with 2 guys a few hours apart, the second guy is unlikely to be able to feel the difference.
Also, if you think a fist will make a women loose, what about a penis? What if my partner has a large penis? Should I not have sex with him? Or only on special occasions so it doesn’t ruin me? And if a penis is going to stretch me out and ruin me, could the same not happen to a guy? Surely forcing it in to a tight (slightly acidic) hole will squash it if done too regularly?
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Simple answer to the question some like it some don’t.
I had a partner that loved it she said it was a different feeling all together.
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But @Phil44 you haven’t had sex with a woman so where has all your knowledge and experience of real women come from?
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That comes across as really creepy and just isn’t how anatomy works. Maybe a sex doll would make a better sexual partner for you if the look of her pussy is that important. Not that I’m really sure how you intend to be inspecting the vagina in case it’s too stretched for you seeing as the vagina is the bit on the inside
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I think you’re in the wrong forum, really coming across like you’re just here kink shaming people. You seem disgusted by what kinks a woman maybe into just because you’re not interested in it. You do realise the vagina is rings of muscle that stretch and contract right It doesn’t just stay open waiting for a fisting at any given time. Perhaps you just don’t have the equipment 
so you don’t want to take any risks making it a little wider.
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Feel like saying it barely touched the sides
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By your own admission you’ve never even touched a vagina before so why on earth are you telling women their own experiences with their own vaginas are wrong Show some respect.
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You can read and watch as much stuff as you like @Phil44 but it’s all theory.
You might THINK you’d like certain things and be able to perform in a certain way. You might see something and be like yikes…not for me!
BUT
Until you’ve actually have practice you’re never going to know.
No sex is boring…sex is a game…it’s fun. No rules…you state your own boundaries.
Please don’t make statements and accusations…shame about kinks and forum members preferences.
Everyone to their own…and don’t knock anything yourself till you’ve tried it. We all like different things (thankfully) and remember what works with one partner and is enjoyable might not with another.
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I’ve got to be honest but its not my most favourable experience it was many years ago with my hubby in the early days of us courting we tried most things
I remember we had plenty of lubed and tried it but with no success as im fairly tight and just remember it hurting
We have tried a few times with a little more success again with plenty of lubed but i bottled out as didn’t want it to hurt again, hubby took it slow as im still fairly tight down there he managed to get as far as his knuckles as or just beyond
He said he was basically there if only i would have wanted him to
But it wasnt all bad as he did continue to what i can only say as hand f***d me and made me squirt for the first time which was amazing
Maybe we’ll try again soon
The only thing i would say is if you are going to try it use plenty of lubed take it slow and gentle to open her up and listen to what she wants you to do and if its hurting her and stop if it does
Good luck x
Judging by what other people have said so far i dont think your wife having had children will make much difference. You can but ask, if she says no then that should be it. If she wants to try then fine but be careful. From my own experience with the female doctor it hurt like hell and her hand was small and she knew what she was doing.