Was that ‘sex virtually’ or ‘virtual sex’ ? 
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I like to think of myself as being kinky, I have so many fantasies and obscure perverted thoughts but in reality I don’t get to act on it so I’m a closet kinkster lol xxxx
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I definitely would consider myself kinky, and slowly opening my OH’s eyes to that side of life! She is kinky, but just doesn’t know how to implement it in life and the bedroom!
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The kinkiest thing we’ve done was last year when we got the courage to go to our first KK party! Watching people having sex everywhere was such a turn on that we found ourselves having sex all over the place!
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When I first opened the thread I thought the answer would definitely be yes; love a bit of bondage and being in control, spanking, blindfolds…etc.
Then I went through @BDSMFetish list and wow! Now not sure I can really class myself as kinky 
Agreed with @Cuffed, @I_ll_try_anything_once2 and others who said it’s subjective. There are definitely people who are into more kinks or into more extreme acts than me. And there are definitely people that are more vanilla than me.
I like @WillC comment about anything more than missionary being kinky. I wonder if there are people that haven’t tried anything beyond that!
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@Bexy, you have said that perfectly. I prefer to be more adventurous than focus on a couple of things. If nothing else everyone commenting has shown we all have mixed opinions on the expression “kinky”.
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I guess I do consider that I have kinks, so yes. Fetishes? No. I have found in the past on social media that a lot of people confuse the two.
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I must admit I’m not sure the difference between kinky and fetish.
I’m sure someone far more knowledgeable than me can give a better definition of the two, but I would say I have kinks because I enjoy restraint and pain play. What I found on social media was that because I like wearing leather, a lot of guys assumed I had a fetish for leather, like them. By this, I mean that leather in itself is arousing, and is therefore a fetish in its own right. I like leather, but it’s no fetish.
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Lots of people use them interchangeably and plenty of people don’t know the differences, so don’t worry!
From what I understand, a kink is technically something that turns you on/you enjoy sexually which may be seen as “unconventional”. With a fetish, this is a strong sexual fixation with something (usually an inanimate object), which you need to be able to get off. The key difference is that you don’t need a kink to be part of the sex for you to orgasm 
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Definitions of Kink and Fetish
Kink is an unconventional sexual taste or behavior. A kink can turn you on, but you don’t necessarily need it for sexual fulfillment.
Fetish is a condition in which you have a strong sexual fixation with a particular inanimate object or non-genital body part, and you can’t get turned on or orgasm without it. The object or body part getting you off is called a fetish.
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Thanks @BDSMFetish, @SexInTheCity, @Gosig 
Oh really. So I recently went on Fetlife for all of 8 hours but saw nothing really about a fetish. More kink related
Yes as the name suggests I certainly am. I’m in the first relationship where my partner is willing to indulge. Finding our way as we go along with some hiccups but certainly living out some fantasies I thought would only ever be just that.
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Yes I do! The hornier I get the kinkier I get too 
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Yes I do!
My hubby is a little bit more vanilla but he’s getting more confident with things so we have lots of fun experimenting 
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100x above average without a doubt.
I did before I started on this forum then realised there’s that many of us out there we’re all our own different kind of normal!! XxX
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I would say defiantly more kinky that my friends and flat mates but I personally wouldn’t consider BDSM to be ‘kinky’ as I feel it is very mainstream now and everyone does it. Although I have slept with guys in the past who have been OMG SOOO VANILLAAA
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