You guys on the forum, Brenna (obvs), some FWBs and just the one actual friend of mine
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No, we are quite private. I actually like this forum for talking about things that we wouldn’t ordinarily talk about.
Wifes friends are quite liberal (or at least they like to think so) and always joke that we’re the prudes. They sit there giving up details of their sex lives (stereotypical girly stuff) while we sit tight lipped thinking that actually we are way way more adventurous than them. One of them has pretty well worked us out but she’s fine (we refuse to confirm or deny which drives her mad), I know she’ll keep schtum.
Drunken never have I ever with the work girls has revealed I’m abit kinky with some toys but not how much I’m kinky or how many toys or the explicit nudes I post on fetlife.
Not yet anyway more drinks nights being planned now we can it could all come out one day.
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About 7-8 year’s ago I brought lingerie from a different chain, and my sister in-law asked me on the bank holiday Monday if I still had that stuff. I said you really want to know what I have considering you’re his sister, she laughed and said yeah. So I told her all the lingerie I have, dress up, toys, and bondage. She just wanted ideas to introduce to her new fella who’s more vanilla than anyone she’s been with before. So I just gave her some tips on how to introduce him to it, and just have an open conversation, and obviously LH site and the forum
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Just me.
Having been a rep for a competitor company back when I was 21 to make some money I suspect most people assume I’ve got some kinks.
However, I didn’t have kinks back then but I sure do now - the only person who knows the other side of me is my husband and you guys!
My kinks are getting progressively more and more adventurous however as my sex drive has rocketed over the past year or so. I think my husband finds some of my desires quite unusual at points but he’s doing his best to accommodate my desires.
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Its good husband is going with you on your journey. Its good to explore things and if things don’t give your pleasure you don’t need to do it again, move on.
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It’s funny really as 90% of what I’d carry around the parties in a suitcase I’d look at and think - WHO WOULD USE THAT?! Now I’m like - we need this, that, and the other AND MORE lol
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Yes - in terms of sexual health, half-joking to friends who are not sexually active that they should ‘vibe and thrive!’, especially in their 50s when hormonal changes start to kick in…
I’m much more likely to talk about general things than to reveal personal details about what happens in my own marriage.
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Just my wife , and who ever reads this of course!
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Just me.
Nobody knows me and the wife are on here or that we have a large amount of sex toys. I think if anyone saw the pictures we have put on here recently they would look at them open mouthed. 
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It took me a long time to tell MrsToysrus that I like anal play on myself, for a long time it was my little secret, and something I did only when home alone, but a while ago we hit a rough patch and one of the things we talked about to get us back on track was our sex life, and I told her the truth, we’ve since brought a lot of anal toys that we both use, and a strapless strap on, which in hindsight we should have got a harness type, so that’s next on our shopping list as it’s something I definitely want to do more often.
I don’t think anyone knows what we are really like behind closed doors though, I think a lot of our friends would be shocked at what we actually get up to!
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Yes, my current wife, Miss Heather knows all about all of the other sides of me, including several I’ve not said a peep about here on this forum.
For many reasons Miss Heather and I are a great match for each other. She and I have been through so many similar things in our lives and I mean many different things. She and I relate well to each other, we empathize with each other.
There isn’t anything Miss Heather doesn’t know about me, my life, from a young age on right up to today.
Others only knew bits and pieces. Some knew quite a bit, some therapists of mine knew a hell of a lot about me too, but only Miss Heather knows everything, all the things I’ve done sexually as well as in other parts of my life.
For me, it isn’t about kinks or fetishes, since my OH and I are pretty conservative sexually, trying to change that a bit.
The hidden issues that friends and family really relates to my ex wife and I when we were together. I felt extremely ashamed about 5he fact that my ex and I were not having sex. It was difficult to be around friends and family and they were having babies, or inviting us over to birthday parties and such and I had to hide that fact from everyone. Folks would say, isn’t about time you guys started a family? And I would have to say we were working on it, knowing full well we weren’t. Even my brother in law would ask me if I had a problem getting it up, when he was drunk at gatherings, and offered advice, and I couldn’t say anything for fear it would get back to the MIL. We were a military family for the first 8 years, and all our friends were the same age, mostly 20’s, and they were having parties, even some were wife swapping. One of my superiors invited us over to his place with some other couples, and folks were pairing off with others , he wanted to get together with my wife, and let me go with his ( she was hot ) and I had to make an excuse for us to leave, which I’m sure he didn’t buy. I used to get very angry when we would go to wedding parties thinking everyone was out there drinking and dancing, and would be going home later to have sex, even the bride and groom, and we would not. I eventually revealed our lack of sex to my BIL when we were by ourselves at the in laws cabin for a weekend guys retreat. He said I should just force her, essentially rape my wife, who was his sister. It was the most difficult thing to endure.
So, I guess it would be easier to be open about toys or kinks with others now, especially as we are older. At least I now have some idea my OH and I are mostly normal and everyone has some form of fetishes, or has a vibrator, and some lube hidden in their nightstand.
Not really. My sister knows me and hubby have sex, which isnt anything unusual but, when we were at a funeral and talking to a few women we knew the subject of sex came up (as it does 
) and all the other women said oh i dont do that any more or cant be bothered with that and my sister looked at me and said oh shes always at it. They all looked at me as if i was dirty. So i have not told anyone about my toys, the lingerie or the bit of spanking or bondage we do because i cannot trust anyone, even my sister.
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I wonder sometimes, when we are together with friends, who are in our age group ,if they imagine we are active sexually. We’re both in our mid 70’s. I can’t imagine some of them getting freaky, but there are one or two who reek of sexual tension. You just know they are at it all the time.
My foot fetish a handful know about. My use of prostitutes a few people know about and my cross dressing and attraction to Trans porn no one knows about
It sure sucks that such a high amount of people were taught early on that sex and talking about sex was taboo . It is similar with nudity . When at the local family nudist camp , I felt how lucky the children were that were growing up without the baggage most people have to .
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As far as our friends know we have had sex twice because we have two kids.
Keep private things private. Younger people are WAY oversharing and in my opinion its a huge factor in their struggles in developing long term relationships. Putting stuff on Facebook, Instagram and even LinkedIn that you couldnt water board out of me.