I always feel really bad for thinking this, but I prefer masturbation to sex. And I don’t mean someone doing it for me. I mean left by myself to my own devices. I’m not saying I hate sex because it still feels nice but I’d rather use my hand/toy any day. It may be due to some past trauma or anything, I don’t know… I think it’s more to do with me struggling to connect with people.
Porn and sex scenes in movies do nothing for me and instead give me a bit of an “ick” reaction. I prefer to come up with my own fantasies (which is the only thing I can do with my weird little kink, really). Perhaps seeing/doing sex in real life pops my little fantasy bubble and that’s why I don’t like it.
Maybe I’m just a complicated girl…
Anyone else feel like they’d rather masturbate than have sex? I hope it’s not just me.
I prefer sex but I do enjoy masturbation, I think when you masturbate you know what feels good and know exactly what you like. With sex i just get more turned on and for me the orgasms are more intense
It is a tricky one for me as I can orgasm at the drop of a hat when masturbating but have never had an orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Sometimes it is better because it is just easier, and as you said especially if you have a particularly vivid imagination in terms of what you can conjure in your mind whilst masturbating, but I do enjoy the intimacy of sex. Trying to compare real life experience of sex with the perfect scenarios you have in your head, that I think that may well always result in disappointment.
I was always one of those girls that thought girls didn't masterbate, it was always more of a taboo with me. But after my youngest started reception in Setpember and I finally had time to myself I decided to give it a go. WOW! Why did I wait so long? I do love masterbating, but, nothing beats the clossness of sex for me. The feel of Mr L up against my body, kissing and touching me.. nothing will ever compare to that for me.
No, sometimes I prefer masturbation too. Sometimes I just want to get off and go to sleep or carry on with my day and I can do that with five minutes and a vibrator where as I have to get warmed up to have sex and sometimes I just can’t be bothered to get into all of that when all I want is a quick release!
No, sometimes I prefer masturbation too. Sometimes I just want to get off and go to sleep or carry on with my day and I can do that with five minutes and a vibrator where as I have to get warmed up to have sex and sometimes I just can’t be bothered to get into all of that when all I want is a quick release!
Thank you. I used to masturbate at night just to help me sleep when I did it with just my hands. Now I do it because I genuinely enjoy it with my toys.
When my boyfriend was sleeping next to me I would often do it. He never woke up or caught me doing it because I can do it quietly with just my hands. We were messing around one day telling each other when we masturbate and I told him about how I do it when he's asleep and he got really annoyed. He was like, "That's not fair. You're all horny and you don't even wake me up so we can enjoy it together."
But yes, like you said; sometimes you just want the quick release without all the messing around.
I always preferred masturbation because I had a habit of focusing too much on my partner during sex. I felt like I was performing I guess. I like to excel at things and sex became one of them. Now I'm not having sex until I've readjusted to a healthier mindset (and for other reasons) and whilst I do love masturbation, a couple of years without sex definitely makes you realise how amazing it is! Also, despite my experience, I personally think it's perfectly normal for some people to prefer masturbation and for others to prefer sex. Regardless of how great your sex life is.
Sounds like you are the only one who knows how you like it, maybe if you found someone and told them exactly how you like it then things may be different. Also you might find that someone to play out those fantasies with and then you would have a win win on your hands
I haven't had sex with a partner but i would say I see it as serving different, albeit complimentary and overlapping, purposes. Sex with a partner is about a bond and closeness, however temporary, a giving and taking, appreciating and being appreciated. Masturbation is about physical release yes, but also about learning about yourself, physically and mentally, it's escape and selfish - in a good way. With the right circumstances both can be amazing (I hear!) and there is a space for either or both in a relationship. I very much enjoy what I get from masturbating and wouldn't stop if I met someone but I am acutely aware of it's limitations and yearn for the intimacy of a relationship.
I haven't had sex with a partner but i would say I see it as serving different, albeit complimentary and overlapping, purposes. Sex with a partner is about a bond and closeness, however temporary, a giving and taking, appreciating and being appreciated. Masturbation is about physical release yes, but also about learning about yourself, physically and mentally, it's escape and selfish - in a good way. With the right circumstances both can be amazing (I hear!) and there is a space for either or both in a relationship. I very much enjoy what I get from masturbating and wouldn't stop if I met someone but I am acutely aware of it's limitations and yearn for the intimacy of a relationship.
I prefer it in the physical sense because no one knows how to please me better than me.. but as has been said sex with a partner is about being close and bonding etc. I think both are very different but I would have to say I do prefer masturbation just because it’s a lot more pleasurable for me. But I love having sex too because of how close it makes us. There is plus sides to both ☺️
It really depends what mood I'm in...and what mood he's In. If he's working long shifts and I'm super horny I would rather go and have a quick one than wait for him to get home. But I always find it's super quick as I get straight to the point.. No build up. And then I wish I had just waited 😂
I’ve never been in a relationship or had sex, so I can’t compare the two things. I really enjoy, indeed need, my masturbation sessions, but very occasionally it can seem rather pointless and empty even though it might have pleasurable at the time.
I always preferred masturbation because I had a habit of focusing too much on my partner during sex. I felt like I was performing I guess. I like to excel at things and sex became one of them. Now I'm not having sex until I've readjusted to a healthier mindset (and for other reasons) and whilst I do love masturbation, a couple of years without sex definitely makes you realise how amazing it is! Also, despite my experience, I personally think it's perfectly normal for some people to prefer masturbation and for others to prefer sex. Regardless of how great your sex life is.
Yes, you have a good point. It's almost like juggling (and I suck at juggling, lol).