Sounds like you are the only one who knows how you like it, maybe if you found someone and told them exactly how you like it then things may be different. Also you might find that someone to play out those fantasies with and then you would have a win win on your hands
I think that is the main problem with me; I don't tell my boyfriend what I like exactly so he's just going in blind. Or even worse, trying to copy things he's seen in porn. I'm probably being too "polite" and just sitting back to let him do his thing. But how will it ever get better if I don't say anything, right?
Show your boyfriend what you like , take over from him and masterbate whilst he watches. Its probably the biggest turn on for me watching my wife pleasure herself and i dare say he will be the same.
No, masturbation is always good but when you're with someone else then you don't really know what's coming and that is more exciting than doing it yourself. Plus the emotional excitement of sharing your most intimate thing. Don't think I've explained this very well but you get the idea.
To me if I’m feeling “horny” I usually just jerk it off because that’s usually just lust feelings and I know masturbation gets me off quicker. But I’m the grand scheme of things I like the intimacy of being with someone else, the kissing and touching etc is just purely emotionally driven and can’t be beaten with the right person
Two totally different acts although one can be included in the other. Masturbation is nice for time on your own, for your thoughts and fantasies and for some men to relieve themselves so they will last longer during sex.
I'm not sure I like one more than the other but like them both for different reasons. Sex is much nicer for the intimacy but sometimes a quick session with fingers or some time alone with a vibrator is also very nice. I definitely masturbate more than I have sex.
I would love sex with my wife , but due to disability and medicine has zero sex drive . So without masterbation I think I would fade away pretty quick . Several of my friends are recieving testosterone treatments for low T . I on the other hand must have fairly high levels . I am almost as horny as when I was 20 . So it is not a preference , but an only option .
Anyone else use it for pain relief? Period pain responds well to my masturbation.
Yes, I have heard that masturbating is good for period pain and that it can even speed it up so it will finish sooner than usual. Apparently the contractions during orgasm help shed the period blood.
I feel that it definitely helps with period pain but sometimes my cramps are so bad that the last thing I want to do is masturbate, lol.
Much as I am able to orgasm with my hand/toys...... In my opinion, nothing compares to the closeness and 'togetherness' of sex with a partner. That intimacy, the attraction and the knowledge that they want this as much as you do and are enjoying each other's bodies makes such a mental difference to me, meaning it is much better, much more complete orgasms and a better after period cuddling too..............
As much as I enjoy sex with hubby, I prefer masturbation. I think that's because I spent such a long time without knowing myself sexually and kinda of accepting the pleasure that were given to me by others and also because I started to masturbate less than 2 years ago. I can't believe how I was missing out, but masturbation for me was not something I'd do because of my strict and religious up-bringing. By nature I'm a giver: I give time, love, care, etc, etc to my family and people I like and it's wonderful concetrating and giving myself time and mind-blowing orgasms. Besides, masturbation for me is a bit like working-out: it's such a healthy way to control the stress and anxiety.
As much as I enjoy sex with hubby, I prefer masturbation. I think that's because I spent such a long time without knowing myself sexually and kinda of accepting the pleasure that were given to me by others and also because I started to masturbate less than 2 years ago. I can't believe how I was missing out, but masturbation for me was not something I'd do because of my strict and religious up-bringing. By nature I'm a giver: I give time, love, care, etc, etc to my family and people I like and it's wonderful concetrating and giving myself time and mind-blowing orgasms. Besides, masturbation for me is a bit like working-out: it's such a healthy way to control the stress and anxiety.
I'm happy you are enjoying spending time on yourself. I only started using toys a few months ago and I have the similar feeling of "how was I missing out on this?" as I just used to do it by hand and toys make it way better. Never going back, lol.
You are so right about relieving stress and anxiety. Good for the mind, body and soul.
Lu SB, totally get where you’re coming from. Only started to ‘find’ myself a few months ago once both my children were in school full time and I actually had time to waste for the first time in forever. Wow, can’t believe what I was missing out on as well.
I used to prefer masterbation solo rather than sex with my ex's. These days, sex sex sex with my wife. I think if you get the right person, you'll get the balance tipping to sex. Wanking defo has its place though, together and solo. Sometimes a good wank is what I want!! Sometimes I just wank so I can take a picture of the spunk on my stomach to send to her!! Sends her crazy!